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SmackDown: Should Body Piercings Be Allowed in School?
Filed under: In The News, Opinions, Tween Culture, Teen Culture
Is a nose-piercing enough to get suspended from school? Credit: Christopher Healy
The School Should Stick Its Piercing Rules in a Hole.
by Jessica Samakow
You're entitled to believe anything you want, as long as we agree with your beliefs.
These might as well have been the words spoken to 14-year-old Ariana Iacono by school officials last week when they decided to suspend her for refusing to remove her nose piercing.
North Carolina's Clayton High School insists Ariana's tiny stud is a violation of the school's dress code. The pierced freshman claims her nose stud is an expression of her religion, the Church of Body Modification, which may be unfamiliar to most, but is, in fact, a federally-recognized organization.
"We believe that the mind body soul are all one entity and that by modifying the body, you can bring the mind and soul into harmony," Minister Richard Ivey tells North Carolina's ABC11, explaining the basis of his religion.
Although Clayton High School's dress policy can be adjusted upon request of a student who holds a "sincere religious belief," Ariana's request was denied because school officials deemed her piercing unnecessary, even after they researched her religion.
In defense of her decision to keep the piercing in, Ariana tells a reporter that the stud acts as a healing aide following childhood abuse.
"I was abused for years when I was younger, and I have really low self esteem, and it kind of helps me look at myself in a better way," she explains.
But frankly, giving a reason for her piercing should not even be a part of the equation. Whether or not the school understands her reasoning or sympathizes with her pain is completely irrelevant. The fact is, the piercing is a representation of her religion, and that alone should be the end of the discussion.
To be fair, there are some dress codes that make sense. When I was in high school, teachers would stop girls in the hall to assess whether their skirts reached the ends of their fingertips. If they fell short of the requirement, the girls were asked to change into their baggy gym uniform. Although a longer hem was not in style back then, that particular part of the dress code kept hormonal teens from being distracted by excess skin.
In Ariana's case, however, it's hard to believe anyone was offended by the microscopic stud in her nose. I can't think of a way it could cause any kind of distraction. If a student were to claim his religion required nipple exposure at all times, I could understand the school having an issue. But a nose piercing? Not a big deal at all. Actually, not even noticeable.
And, really, what is the difference between ear piercings and nose piercings, anyway? Why are studs in the ears acceptable, while a stud in the nose is considered inappropriate? They are mere inches away from each other. I understand that a line must be drawn somewhere, but in comparing the two piercing locations, I find no difference.
It is completely ridiculous that the school is so against a nose piercing that they are willing to compromise a student's education and religious freedom. What about real problems that are far bigger than a one centimeter nose stud? How's the drug and alcohol problem in your neck of the woods?
Stop being holier than thou, Clayton High School.
School Dress Codes Are Holy Territory.
by Elizabeth Humphrey
So what's wrong with a North Carolina school system who suspends a 14-year-old with a nose stud?
Absolutely nothing!
Last week, Clayton High School enforced its dress-code policy, which says no jewelry in the nose, tongue, lips, cheeks and eyebrows. And well they should.
While students would argue that this is a case of the freedoms of speech and religion entering school grounds, I would say that's not the case at all. If we extend that logic, then why not add in the right to bear arms for the teen set? All those no-weapons policies would go out the window. And if we allowed 14-year-olds the right to vote, we'd have Lady Gaga in the White House. (Yes, I know she's not yet 35, but the little monsters would probably repeal that rule as well.)
Schools establish policies to provide a minimally distracting learning environment for students. As a parent, I haven't always agreed with the policies, including one school's no nail-polish mandate. But each year, I dutifully read through the school handbook, sign on the dotted line and abide by the rules and regulations.
For the most part, my kids do, too. If they wear too many Silly Bandz or show too much skin, which are also against school policy, I expect them to be reprimanded.
To me, it's like being invited to friends' homes. You might not agree when they don't allow your children to eat on the couch or put their shoes all over the La-Z-Boy, but, hey, it's their rules. You're in their house and you mind your manners.
Likewise, North Carolina high-school freshman Ariana Iacono is not respecting the rules of her school.
Ariana says that the piercing is part of her religion. Her church, the Church of Body Modification, says it "strengthens the bond between mind, body and soul" through piercings, tattoos and the like. (In its frequently asked questions section, the church talks about other dubious practices that make me wince: suspension, hook pulling, binding, corsetry and firewalking.)
But who am I to say that this belief system is good or bad (wacky, perhaps). I encourage my kids to explore our religion, while learning about their own internal strengths -- through my guilt-inducing moments -- to guide them.
For her part, Ariana's mother told one reporter that the piercing is "similar to the way makeup helps many women feel more beautiful."
Okay, fine. But didn't you just say "women?" You have a child, not a woman. And just like the way makeup is not allowed in some schools, why not compromise and take out the nose stud during school hours? That way Ariana can have her piercings and her education, too. In fact, the pierced teen's church even suggests compromise in the Q&A section of its website. Clearly, they've dealt with naysayers before.
Perhaps the school and Ariana can use this as a -- dare I say it? -- teachable moment to bring about a dialogue on religious freedoms, while also addressing the reasons for school-district's dress-code policies?
How's that for piercing a hole in the notion that the generations just can't get along.











ReaderComments (Page 2 of 42)
9-15-2010 @ 9:22AM
Mitch said...Jon - you're an idiot.
9-15-2010 @ 9:37AM
duffmetal said...Keep your mouth shut untill you learn to open our mind
9-15-2010 @ 9:47AM
Evelyn said...I'm always shocked at how narrow-minded some people can be. My daughter got her nose pierced when she was 15 and the complete opposite of a whore. She is a virtuous and respectful young lady. She is also a college graduate and not the typical drunken American kind who is in school to party, flash their boobs and have sex. My husband is Native American. It is a CULTURAL thing to pierce the nose (on the side OR underneath and above the lip). In their culture EVERYONE gets their ears pierced as a child - the meaning behind this is that is further opens their ears to hear the teachings of their elders... one who has not learned their lessons well, gets additional piercings. It is a bad thing to have numerous ear piercings for an entirely different reason. Lastly, in my husband's tribal culture, tattoos tell your personal story, your journey through life at different stages. In ancient times their leaders were extensively tattooed and it was a sign of rank. That has subsided in modern times due to conquest and the judgemental attitude of many in a society that is largely Christian and frowns upon other Christians and/or anyone else getting tattoos. The only life you can live is your own. Live your truth and let others live theirs.
9-15-2010 @ 9:55AM
sexyblueyez said...@ all the negative ppl on this site..i know alot of teens that has piercings & tats & they are all good kids.i am 34 & i have piercings & tats,& i got mine bacause i liked them & my tats are a symbol of love for my kids (deceased & the living).my daughter is 14 & she has piercings like every other teenager out here in this world.i would make the school take me to court to make my daughter take her piercings out because there is nothing in the school rules that piercings are not allowed.just because i teen has piercings does not mean they are whores or anything.@ the person who said they wouldnt hire anyone with piercings or tats,that is a law suit for sure...
9-15-2010 @ 10:19AM
cat said...Pierced ears do not boost sexuality? The school should not go half arsed they should prohibit ear piercings if they are going to make a big deal about any piercings. Either way this student is exempt because it is her religion and she didnt just make it up especially if her mother backs her up on it. I believe the only person that can tell you what you can and cannot where should be your parents and no one else. They put these rules into place so our children can enjoy the same inalienable rights as any other american. I hope she suites the hell out of this school for not letting her practice her religion. Only way they would learn a lesson for stripping away this young womens right, I hope they get a fine and jail time.
9-15-2010 @ 10:36AM
cynthia said...Just because you have a piercing that is not your ears it doesnt mean its bad. If you have your belly button pierced so what doesnt mean your showing it during school hours and if you have your tongue pierced it doesnt mean your walking around the halls with your tongue out during school and if you have a tattoo its not bad either it can simply represent something important to you and its not like your showing off all these things during school that will distract you during the whole day. Thats my opinion.
9-15-2010 @ 10:00AM
cindy said...I find it discusting that you would call a child a whore!! I am 27 years old and have had my nose peirced since i was 16. Not because I was a whore, but because I asked my mother and she gave me permission. I also had my tongue pierced. I got that at 18, and by the way at that time I was still a virgin so tell me how could I have been a whore!! And incase your wondering, I was married before I started haveing intercourse and I am still married to that man today!! Indian culture has nose piersons, are you going to stop them from wearing those as well. Or is that okay because its a different culture altogether.
9-15-2010 @ 10:02AM
placedorders said...I am 55 and have a tattoo, 5 children and 14 grandchildren. Somewhere along the way you must teach your children to respect the rules. If that was the school rule before she came, live with it. And in my house if the doors get slammed as a show of disrespect I would remove the bedroom door for a week. Teach your children. Sometimes the best thing you can do for your child is say "NO". And sometimes the best answer is "Because I said so".
9-15-2010 @ 10:08AM
AJ said...Jon - Tattoos and piercings are not lowlife trash. However, bigots are - for you to be prejudiced based on body art. It's 2010, time to face reality and have an open mind.
9-15-2010 @ 10:22AM
2 of 4@63 said...Your calling 14 yr. olds whores! I think you're projecting. Piercings are a vanity thing and nothing more. You chose to get yours because it looked good. You chose to remove it because after two babies it didn't look good anymore. Most teens will grow out if this self mutealation thing and I don't think piercings past the ears is a good thing for myself but I wont set in judgement and make character assecments over a nose stud. Parents/caregivers pay for these things and sign permission slips. Who are you to make such character assination when you yourself got pierced.
9-15-2010 @ 10:12AM
vanessa said...Oh no you did not. You do not obviously have kids. My son at the age of 7 wanted his ears pierced. I let him. My question is " who was the first person to say that only girls could have their ears peirced in school. In our school we have a bisexual women teacheing Girls gym class. In school their are boys who are openly gay. Never do I remember it being ok to be this way. to each its own. I would like my whole body covered in tatoos and peircings . I Like the way I feel. Just like the way you enjoy makeing ignorant comments on discusins to get a rise out of people. I have had a women actualy walk up to me while blaring my hard rock music and tell me why do I like it a do I relize it is disrespectful. This is what I told her. I like my music loud, just like your husband probably likes to molest children and how you like to put your nose up at diferent races and go to chusrch the next sunday. Like I said let us all be who we want as long as we are not hurting anyone. I had a priciple tell me once that it is not ok to tell my kid to fight back. I told him that if my husband was to walk up to him in a bar and punch him, which he would not!, what would he do if his friends were there fight back or act like a @^$&y.
9-23-2010 @ 9:00AM
Cleo said...Rebellion is as the SIN of witchcraft,piercing is just a sign of it.
Remember Satan comes as a angel of light,probably clean shaven and a three piece suit saying all things to OK your SIN.
9-15-2010 @ 10:10AM
April said...Girls with nose rings...just looks like a booger hanging out, gross!
9-15-2010 @ 6:55PM
Stephanie said...I have had my nose pierced since I was in middle school and I am, and have been, a straight A student since elementary school. I am now a sophomore at an Ivy League school so I think all of your talk of people not being good students and resembling whores because of their choice to pierce themselves is completely ignorant. She decided to pierce herself as a form of religious freedom not for a sex appeal boost. You have no idea what she is like as a person so hold your judgments for your own kids, who I feel sorry for because they have such a closed minded parent. My boyfriend doesn't think I'm a whore. My parents don't think I'm a whore and I don't think I'm a whore. This school is taking away her right of religious freedom and it's unjust.
9-15-2010 @ 10:30AM
Xx*Sarah*xX said...Your idea that people with piercings are trashy and "slam their door in their parents' face" is 100% wrong, while some do, NOT all of them do. I graduated 4 years ago and I have had a lot of piercings, none of them were a distraction in school. This including the 16 piercings i had in my arm to make a corset. I was a strait-A student with a 4.0 GPA, thank you very much for being so ignorant, just because you are so close minded doesn't mean you can just insult people for your beliefs on this subject. If this girl isn't allowed to have her piecing, all those Christians in that school shouldn't be able to wear their crosses for their "savior."
9-16-2010 @ 9:27AM
Marla said...Ok................ I am a 51 year old woman, a working-life long RN, straight A student in both high school and college.....AND I have 8 tattoos............Makes me a whore, does it??????????? hahahahahahahahahahahahahaha
9-15-2010 @ 10:45AM
Ashley said...I've had a 4.1 GPA or above for my entire high school career and I'm a senior. I support body modification as a personal choice, and I will pierce my septum because I WANT TO and not because you don't want me to.
Body piercings do not equal stupidity. They equal freedom of expression. And unless the piercing is on the clitoris, I really don't see the sex appeal. Maybe a tongue ring, as it could be used for fellatio, but even then, some people just like the way it looks.
Bridge piercing, septum, lebret, Monroe, whatever. People are entitled to pierce what the will. It's not up to you to tell another person what's sexy, especially when they don't ask you. They could be more confident with their piercing, they could feel empowered, they could feel as if they conquered a fear by experiencing a bit of pain for it, it could represent a struggle they've experienced, it could hide a painful scar of abuse or a bad accident, it could prove themselves to no one but themselves, and they could think it just looks good. In my experience, it's bad parenting that turns little girls into promiscuous children, but a piercing.
So, let 'em have the piercing but don't let them stay out late and please, be involved in their lives. A child asking for a piercing might ALSO want attention. Parents should allow it, because their kid may resent their oppression of their freedom of expression for the rest of their lives and go overboard later on with too many rings, etc. A ring can be removed; an emotional scar? Not so much.
Parents, pay attention to your kids. Turn of your blackberry. Show them you care, but don't step all over their expression. Let them dye their hair green and pierce their nose. There will not be another time in their life when they have that opportunity to be a fun, zany adolescent. Let them explore and they will thank you, and they will thank you as well for keeping them reigned in and supported. I know I do. Problem solved.
9-15-2010 @ 10:44AM
Brooklynn said...I am 27 also, I have my nose pierced (since I was 22) and had my lip pierced for a year (had to take it out for work). I was very upset because I do think it is freedom of speech as an adult. I agree a 14 year old shouldnt have piercings like that UNLESS it is really for religious beliefs. You shouldnt sit there and call a child a whore for following a trend or for having their religious beliefs though. I wanted stuff like that in high school also but I am not a whore and was not a whore growing up. I saved myself for my husband believe it or not. So not everyone who has piercings is a whore especially if you dont know them personally. Shame on adults for acting judgemental like that.
9-15-2010 @ 10:35AM
Jane said...My teenage daughter has piercings, idiot, and she is in Honors classes with all A's. She is a wonderful person and all of the people I have ever met with piercings are the best people, open-minded, fair, smart, friendly, wonderful people.
Whores are usually the ones who call everyone else whores.
Or maybe it's just jealousy when you see these attractive people with piercings, they put you to shame.
9-15-2010 @ 9:22PM
Anonymous said...ummmm....isnt it hypocritical 4 u 2 say not to have piercings but you have one yourself ?? How does a nose piercing make u a whore?? Is the nose piercing sexual all of the sudden? Who are you 2 judge and call people whores bcuz they have a nose piercing? WOW u are unbelievable.I hope u change ur judgmental bias ways for the sake ur children.....! If u give out criticism expect it in return.So If u r goin 2 respond please respond respectful,we may not all be adults here but we all have brains.