Should I Keep Loaning Money to My Adult Daughter?

Are you prepared for life? Your grammar and spelling are atrocious!
Have you also not learned of spell checking?

You can repair them for life but they still want to come back for more. I also have a 35 year old that I have bailed out for the last time. I am totally disable and wish I could work. The more you give them the more they think they can give you the same old story "I will be on the streets". Well get out there and get a job. I don't care if you have to scrub toilets. That is want is wrong with these young adults and older ones. Once you start bailing them out it seems like you just keep doing it and they are sitting on there butts while you feel quilty. No more. My bank is closed. I don't mind letting them eat with us some of the time but not every day. It's time that they take on the responisable of being adults because I assure you if you need them to do something for you it will be a cold day in hell before they do it because they always have excuse after excuse. So it's tough love from here on out. I need my money for myself. Who is going to take care of me if something happens to my husband not my kids, grand kids or great grandkids.

Right now I am a Junior in College and I know how hard it is to keep up with a budget, scholarships, classes, and loans as it is with the help of my parents, do you really think after senior year in highschool, 18 year olds are prepared to go to college and then "not have a room to go back to"? How are they doing now? I could really use the advice.

Tell her no like you mean it. Like im not a bank do what you can to survive.

If the $ if for an addiction- say no. If she's going through tough times and you have the $- give it to her. I cannot believe how many people I was generous to in life who turned on me like turning on a dime.

Treat your friends the same way. NO LOANS. If someone is going through a hard time- give it to them IF you have enough to start off with.

YOU CAN'T...she will just find someone else to take care of her so she doesn't have to work if her parents ever stop. They are enablers and they need to stop. What will happen to her when they die? Begin reading my first line again....

must be a liberal

Mr. Roschmann, you are making the situation worse. This is her problem not yours. Run as fast as you can. She needs to grow up. She needs professional help.

Good evening, I am 48 years of age have1 grandchild age one an one on the way. I have 3 young adult kids 30,22,20. an married for 13 years now. I have borrowed from my MOM since I can remember I recently had contributed to my mom's debt an she filed for a BK. I feel bad an stressed out. every time u borrow u think u have a way to see it ALL through an u fall back short even more now u owe that an need to borrow more it does not stop till u say ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!!!! Every time we need help we have no others on his side or some what mines. I try an contribute by over extending help to her house hold repairs ,etc. I owe around 100,000 an recently borrowed 2,000 wow.( God give me strength to meet this goal). My mom is 68 an has a sickly husband. Please all that can read an identify STOP! STOP! when u start depending on a helpful hand u unconciously continue to ask. An if it is MOM one out of ten they struggle to help u any way. It is eating me up I can't get my business off the ground hell I'm so confussed on what bus will become successful I just have began to go into depression. My husband struggles working 12 hours on his job making less due to a lay off from his original job in the railroad. We both out of guilt have bent over tired helping out with my mom to take on her issues of labor around her home etc. I'm tired now an pray every day for a break through to give her ever penny an some. I also have tried to employ my self for over a year plus no responses. Being with out sucks but seeing your parents with out from helping u sucks even HARDER.

I am with thomas all the way. We have children ages 33, 29 and 13. Several years ago we were getting our older children out of "rent" problems and you name it. Then found out about frivilous spending. These kids are educated and they have a 13 yr old sister that needs our attention now. We did tell them this "bank is closed". They were not happy. Our oldest speaks to us through his younger sibling. That's tough love. Our parents did it to us and we did all right.

Guess he should have helped out with the car, as he would have had a ride to the hospital? Love your family and share your wealth with your kids before you die !!! I'm certain Grudges are not allowed in Heaven, just Regrets. PEACE is LOVE.

SmarterthanU2, you are obviously one selfish person.

You say parents should share their wealth? SOOOO, should the elderly guy have gone without medicine in order to give his nephew a car loan?

You have absolutely no idea about life at all. It's one thing if parents are rich, but do you realize the the parents have to pay taxes, heat and electricity, food, medicare premiums (required BY LAW), homeowners insurance, car maintenance, gas, and insurance, and those are the absolute basic needs and you need to grow up and learn that Social Security does NOT, and I repeat does NOT cover the ABSOLUTE BASIC NEEDS of the elderly.

You say that if the old man gave money to his nephew for a car, the nephew would have a car to get to the hospital to see him. Well, uh, for your information, the elderly guy probably needed his money in order to put gas in his own car in order to go to his doctors appointment.

You ARE a selfish, pathetic excuse for a human being, expecting that the elderly must keep supporting their lazy kids