Teen Sex Ed Covers the Birds and the Bees, Minus the Birth Control

No joke about giving your daughter condoms. Good choice. I wish my daughter-in-law's parents had had her tubes tied when she was 16. She intentionally got pregnant so my son was forced to "Do the honorable thing" and has been living a life of Hell with not only a (now) 17 yer old daughter but a "son" who isn't his who was a "premie" at 10 lbs at birth who was supposedly conceived when he just got back from a 6 month deployment at sea- he "announced" her pregnancy 4 days after he got back. Last I heard from my doctor you have to miss 2 periods to do the test correctly.... Both my son & his wife are fair-skinned blondes and his "son" has black, kinky hair and is olive-complected...you figure it out. She is nothing but a slut but he knows if he says word one, she will vanish with the kids as will 1/2 his retirement and all their possessions if he turns his back. Keep gifting her those condoms!!

MommaKat, it takes 2 to make a baby. Your son should have used a condom.

How about teaching abstinence?

cher, you did the right thing, you took steps to ensure your daughter's health. Because we can tell kids to say no to sex, but they are going to do it anyway. In I believe I read a study recently about kids that took the abstinance promise, and guess what? Just as many of them had sex as kids that didn't take the promise. It's out there, kids will do it. At least give them the tools and information they need not to get pregnant or catch some disease.

Cher ...You are obvisouly a wise person who loves her daughter very much. To all you smart asses out there who make comments like "did you also buy her a keg" let me say this. Don't do it for your kids and risk them getting pregnant or God forbid come down with a disease that could end up killing them. I will sit on my pulpit some other day and protect my child now. Everyone knows that teaching abstinence does not work so why not teach them to be prepared instead. She ABSOLUTELY did the right thing.

Cher,

I just had to say that I applaud you for doing this for your daughter. I am 19 and I have a 15 month old son. Though I am happily married to his father and we are doing pretty good for ourselves (he's working and I'm a straight A student in college) it still makes things more difficult. I was NEVER taught about contraception but I was always preached to about abstinence. The world needs to face it. TEENAGERS WILL HAVE SEX no matter how good he/she is! It's the natural biological reaction. It's why puberty happens at this age. Because the human body is ready to create children. Before I got pregnant, I was a straight A honor student, involved in school activities, NEVER in any trouble, never smoked, drank, or anything of the sort. I simply fell in love and made a choice. I applaud you for giving your daughter the information and the equipment she needs to protect herself and her future in case she decides to make that choice. Thank you for being a responsible parent.

Cher...........It's good that you are teaching your daughter about not getting pregnant...........but, if the guy can't buy his own condoms, he ain't worth it. also now days, women need their form of birth control (pills and IUD have been proven to be the most effective). Men need to think beyond their partner getting pregnant, they need condoms to prevent the spread of disease.

Hey Cher, maybe your daughter will come out of the closet, and you won't have to worry about such things...

I say Cher did the right thing by giving her daughter condoms provided she told her daughter that she does not expect her to have sex until after marriage, but to be safe and not sorry later...along with instructions about condoms and contraceptives. I don't think it is weird for parents to provide their own adult children some protection, but I do think it is weird for parents to give their adult children drugs, alcohol or incest. I've read that the biggest reason for unwanted or unexpected pregnancies to occur is because women did not expect to have sex with their dates, so as a result, they did not think of bringing along some condoms. I've also read that the biggest reason why young men expect to have sex with their dates is because he paid her way by buying a meal, movie tickets, etc. so as a result he expected to have sex with her as his reward. It might help for parents of daughters to give her cash so she can pay her own way (go dutch treat) and her male dates to pay his own way as well. In Sweden, the girls' parents pay both their daughters' and her male dates' for the dating expenses; teenage pregnancy is very rare in Sweden because the girls' parents put the responsiblities on her male dates to protect her and bring her home on time. Some Swedish fathers will give their daughters' dates some tips (additional cash) if they followed through on the fathers' commands to bring their daughters back home safe and on time.

I agree with Mary. God had a plan for us when he designed sex for marriage. It is not a "rule" to keep people from having fun or pleasure...it's purpose was to protect us from all the negatives that God knew could happen from having sex outside of marriage. Itimacy is a beautiul gift that is given to us by God to share between married couples. It is spititually beautiful and well worth the wait for that one special person that you will marry!

If you wait till your married, you’ll have NO idea what to do and it will most likely be painful the first time making it NOT fun. You can learn about it all you want, but unless you have experience doing it, it’s not going to be pleasurable. I don’t think it should be about saving yourself for marriage, but the idea of marriage itself, and finding that renewed passion now that you’re a married couple. I think the idea of having sex for the first time AS a married couple can be just as spiritual.

No one, or no one who wants to teach healthy sexuality education disagrees with wanting kids to wait. However, the world is always telling them they should do it. Society, the media, friends... Abstinence is a good message. But it has proven ineffective when taught alone. In fact, those who are taught abstinence alone are more likely, when they do have sex, to acquire STDs. All this talk of no abstinence until marriage will not work in our world. The average age people get married: 27. The average age they begin having sex: 17. We can not live in a "it should be this way" world and expect to protect our youth. What we want for our youth and what they do are often very different.
So, yes, we should teach abstinence AND contraceptives AND the lifeskills that go along: Healthy Relationships, Communication, Assertiveness Techniques, etc. And, in fact I do. And, it works.
You refer to contraceptives as the problem, but people do not have sex only to procreate. Therefore, even married couples opt to use protection. yes, there can be risks, but there are with all medication. And contraceptives, condoms, have done more to save lives than they have had negative consequences.
What you should consider when you talk about teaching abstinence vs the 'unreliabilty' of contraceptives: for those who opted to have sex - abstinence failed 100% of the time.

How will you have any more of an idea of what to do if you have sex BEFORE you are married? How will it be any less painful then? At least this way you are both learning together and you will never have to worry about STD's.

Very interesting line of thought. The problem is that the majority of states do not allow all to marry. If you are dating a person of the same sex, you can't get married in most states, so how can one wait for marriage? Sex is a beautiful thing. It should not be restricted to only those allowed to marry.We must have marriage equality for all people.

I totally disagree with the comment that 'no one disagrees with wanting kids to wait,' and I'm a mother of a teenager. Why does everyone proceed from the notion that our natural sex drive is a bad thing? Sex is good. Sex is healthy. Sex is one of the primary things that makes us feel happy. Why do we want young people, with their powerful, growing sexuality, to have to live without what we take for granted as something we want/need in our own lives? Would you force your kid to eat a starvation diet while you stuff your face as often as you want? I want my kid to be well-educated about sexuality (including the emotional side), birth control and STDs before he becomes sexually active, but why should I want him to have no sex until he gets married, which might happen in his late 20s, 30s, 40s or maybe never at all? That would be cruel and stupid. I hope he experiences lots of relationships, including full, healthy sexual expression, before he finally settles down, so that he knows what qualities are most essential to him in a partner. The whole pious, religious-based assumption that 'abstinence is best' needs to be thrown out the window. Most kids are smart enough to ignore it anyway.

Isn't that special...could it be Satan??

yes sex is awesome and soooo needs to be done right away take me for example:) absolutely worth it

I agree that we all should probably wait. My husband and I did have sex before marriage, which I regret, however we painfully obstained for 2months before our wedding and that night was fantastic!! :D Just an idea if you have already had sex but would like your wedding night to be a blessed, spiritual gift. God will bless us when we sacrifice and show him the seriousness of our commitment to him and our partner. It is never to late to repent :D

Yes Mary that would be a great thought but honestly there will always be those children who will not wait nd also those who do not have the same beliefs on there religion (referring to the comment by Joanne) so in those cases u need to think about those children. If they do participate in these activity then id like it if they knew how to protect themselves. So what im saying is that I can see your point but with these issues you need think of all teens and not only your beliefs because it would not reflect the issues nd needs by the people you are looking out for .