Grandson Won't Sleep in His Own Bed!

mind your own grandma!!!!!!!!

Really? Michael Jackson co-slept and everyone thought that was wrong. Kids need to be in their own bed. End of story.

I wouldn't worry too much about it. When the baby comes and there's not enough room in the bed for the older child he may just go to his room and settle down.Also talking a lot to the little boy now will help prepare and get him ready.
My oldest son went thru a season of sleeping with us. My husband would get so angry. So, when he would come in and climb in the bed. I would just take him in on my side and wrap him up. Children need reassuring and security. Chill out and let nature take it's course. I don't think Grandma is overstepping her bounds. I thnk she has a right to be concerned, but I also think she needs to stop and think about this. This little one maybe worried that his Mommy and Daddy may not have time for him, love him less, and feel rejected. When a baby is on the way it is time for ALL of the family to bond and get stronger. Make him very involved. He will adjust.

there is absolutly nothing wrong with letting your child sleep with you my daughter is 19 mos old and sleeps in her own bed and ours depending on how she feels its all about what makes the child feel safe and secure she has slept in our bed since we brought her home even in the hospital she slept in my arms everynight i am soon to have my second child and will again allow this baby to sleep with us whenever my kids are more important than anything ill gladly give up my bed so they feel better and to this kelly chick you really dont need to speak on something you dont understand i dont know if you have kids or not but if you do you must not have a true love for them because every perent who truely loves their child would allow them to sleep in their bed whether for a night or 10 years and as far as right or wrong it depends on the family some parents are scared some think its wrong and some could see it any other way so just do whats right for you and your child

YEA BUTT-OUT GRAMMA I ONLY NEED YOU TO BABY SIT,BUY MY KIDS STUFF,TAKE THEM SO I CAN GO OUT, PAY FOR ALL THE STUFF THEY WANT THAT I CANT AFFORD..CANT YOU JUST DO THAT AND KEEP YOUR MOUTH SHUT? OH YEA IM RUNNING LATE TONIGHT GONNA STOP FOR A DRINK AFTER WORK CAN YOU GET THE KIDS DINNER???

All parents need to do is use a little common sense. My oldest son, when a toddler, wouldn't take an afternoon nap unless I took one too. I'd lay down with him, then after he'd been asleep for a while would pick him up and put him in his own bed. If the kid's crawling in with mom & dad; when discovered by a parent all the parent has to do is make sure the kid's asleep and then put him back in his own bed. He may be crawling into mom & dad's bed but he's waking up in his own.

Yes, if you are responable for her and she does not have a Father or Mother that care for her.

So, how did that going 13 years without intimacy with your husband go? Still married?

Tracy, you may not realize this, but the bedroom isn't the only place that a couple can be intimate. All it takes is a little imagination (which I'll admit some people just don't have). All four of my children co-slept and intimacy was never a problem. Getting them out of my bed was never a problem either. All it took was a little work with the child, patience, and love. It's really not that hard.
There's nothing wrong or dirty with co-sleeping either. We're one of the few countries that doesn't practice this.
Nobody thinks it's odd when an adult says they prefer sleeping next to someone else. Nobody thinks it's odd that they like that comfort and closeness, but Heaven forbid a child say it. The child is just expected to deal with it and sleep alone.
Why? Why it it acceptable for an adult to prefer it but not a child?

Jenni-Anne,

The point isn't finding somewhere else to be intimate. The point is the husband and wife having that place that is their own. And, allowing the kids to have their own space and independence. If your kid doesn't learn to sleep by themselves at a young age, what are they going to do at 14 when they want another body next to them, and have never been told no?

I'm guessing the husband thing isn't going so well. Her comment went from "our bed" when referring to when the child was young, and now it's "me" and "my bed".

I was going to say the same comment Kelly said about the parents' bed being their sacred place, etc. Kids need to sleep independently until they find their "bed mate" when older. I raised two children and can't imagine having had regular company there in our bed.

I'm sorry but that is just gross. I work with a man who's wife let their daughter do this. Their daughter sleeps between her and her husband every night and she is 7! The way men wake up (uh hemm) I just find it gross to have a child in the bed. Oh and she and her spouse have sex maybe once a year. So of course he is going else where. Which is wrong but hey, what do you expect?

First of all, I co-slept until I was about 16 and this was because with all the moving we did, my room wasn't finished for me to sleep in. I also have a sleep paranoia, which is soothed by sleeping next to somebody.

But now I'm 21, in my own bed and THANK YOU, still a virgin, so clearly co-sleeping doesn't create sex fiends, Kelly.

Also, my Uncle lets his son do it and he and his wife have a very happy and healthy marriage.

Tracy, why would you refer to this sweet closeness with your daughter, as a monster? The unnatural society we live in constantly encourages isolation and separation from one another. It is the most natural thing in the world to want to be close to one's mother, at any age. Both of my children slept with my husband and me until they were around 6 and then sometimes if they had a bad dream or didn't feel well they would crawl in. We got a king sized bed to accomodate everyone. Now they are in their 30s and quite well adjusted and successful. To all of you posters who are so dead set against co-sleeping, lighten up a little. You're only reflecting beliefs that have been taught to you by well-meaning, if uninformed others.

First of all,,, gramma should mind her own business!! My daughter sleeps in my room occasionally, which I don't feel is anyones business. My neighbor made a comment about it and was put in here place about it.. She is happy and healthy and ppl over in Europe do it and their children are just fine!!

Our 6yr old son occassionally sleeps with me or daddy depending on who he wants to sleep with that night. NO we don't do it every night, some nights he's perfectly content to sleep in his room alone. sometimes we sleep with him if he wants or he comes in our room. Its never off limits. if he wants to talk fine. I hope he feels open enough with us like this when he's 15. highly unlikely he'll sleep in our room then, most teenagers like the privacy and independence. so don't worry. Oh and our sex life 3-4 times a week. 17 years and counting. so if you think a child is coming b/t your sex life: its not the kid, there's something else going on in your relationship.