Grandson Won't Sleep in His Own Bed!

Kid won't stay in his/her own bed? Do what my shytty momdid.....lock kid in bedroom till mom wakes up. Nice mom huh?

They won't? Really? I did. Wow. Thanks for telling me I can't do something I did.

It does not get worse. Many kids are afraid of the dark, some who suffer through autisim need that closeness. It depends on how the parent handles it. Just because they co-sleep doesn't mean it's going to turn into a problem.

@ Kristina
You obviously are in a bit of denial. The reasons you listed as far as a mentally challenegd child may make some but because a kid is scared of the dark or whatever doesnt mean you let them sleep in the bed with you. You may go into thier room until they sleep and get them to see thier bed as a comfort zone but letting them sleep in yours nightly causes many future emotional issues of dependency and anxiety in kids meaning ahving kids who are older then 2 wanting to be in a parents bed. Thats not healthy and not normal. Those other countries except it based on thier ability as they space and money limit sleeping quarters and may by need make co sleeping a must. We have room in most homes for a childs room. It teaches independence and boudaries. Anyone who allows thier child in the bed for an extended time is really hurting the menatl development of that child and are being a weak parent for not setting and enforcing boudaries.Crying,begging and tantrums should not be rewarded.

I just have a question about all of this. When you have a baby the biggest rule they try to embed in your skull is never let your baby sleep in your bed you could role over on them. So why is it its such a problem to have your toddler or young child sleep in their own bed? Why did you let it even start?

Seems to me like folks who let their kids share their bed every night......there's a problem with the husband/wife relationship. I mean, unless they can't afford a separate room for the kids. What about intimate time with your spouse? What about being away from the little snot factory for a few house of peaceful sleep?

Kelly, clearly you are not a parent. You can have sex anywhere. It does not have to be at night and in a bedroom and that little "snot factory" is something that both parents probably love more than anything. You view them as an inconvienence, while the parent views them as precious. There is nothing wrong with co-sleeping. In fact, NOT allowing your child to co-sleep if they're young and afraid to be by themselves could do damage.

Ginger, did you not even read the question? The grandmother sounds as though she is writing FOR the parents. They have been trying to get their son OUT OF THEIR BED and have been unsuccessful. Your response sounds as if YOU are the one with issues with your own parents, the question sounds as if a caring grandmother is trying to help her daughter and SIL with a problem they have been unable to resolve. Perseverence and persistancy are all these parents need...and if they don't start developing some backbone soon, their children are going to be just two more self absorbed youngsters thinking the world revolves around them because their parents convinced them it did!

There's nothing wrong with Grandma's opinion, since she's the one who will have to help with the 2-year old. Grandma will have to sleep with the kid, too!
The big issue with children sleeping in their own beds, to me, is that they have to learn to put themselves to sleep. That is something everyone HAS to do for themselves.
It's much better to go through the work of training them to their own rooms as soon as they outgrow the crib.
They can always share their parents' bed occasionally. My two sons slept with me if they were ill or scared....but understood those were usually the ONLY two reasons. Once they were trained, they were used to it.
Besides, if the toddler isn't trained, they'll soon have two toddlers in bed with them!

If that is true, there is something seriously wrong here.....

Teresa, there is no law saying that sex has to take place in the bedroom, or at night. There's no rule of nature that prevents humans from becoming aroused during the daytime when the child might not be home.
Most married people can find another place to have sex if the child is in there bed. You know, the couch, the shower, etc. Hell, even the bed when the child isn't in it.
I realize not everyone is creative, but really, it's not that hard to figure it out.

LAZY PARENTS.KIDS BELONG IN THEIR OWN BEDS.IT IS MUCH EASIER TO GIVE IN AND LET THEM STAY IN THE BED WITH YOU.
EVERY NOW IN THEN OK,BUT OTHERWISE A BAD HABIT FOR ALL.
IF BABY IS TOO SMALL,IT CAN BE ACCIDENTALLY SMOTHERED.
HOW DID BABY 2 GET CONCIEVED? THEY WENT INTO BABY 1`S ROOM!
BG

So, how healthy is it that you go to bed with your kids every night? How healthy is your relationship with your husband? It is EXTREMELY healthy for kids to have their own independence and space.