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Doug Block and a young Lucy. Credit: Marjorie Silver
But instead of downloading those memories onto a DVD and watching them on a rainy day, in 2007 Block decided to take his home movies of his only daughter Lucy and turn it into a 90-minute documentary film called "The Kids Grow Up."
The heartfelt movie, which is currently playing in select theaters nationwide and will also air on HBO on Father's Day 2011, touches on subjects like depression, sex and how a father must come to grips with letting his only child go.
ParentDish caught up with Block and discovered how following Lucy, now 21, around with a camera in hand for years led to the father and daughter relationship they have today.
ParentDish: Was it always your intention to create a documentary about Lucy's life?
Doug Block: No. Lucy has the misfortune of not only being born when the camcorder was created, but to a dad who is a documentary filmmaker. There was no intention to document her life when I originally started filming her.
PD: When did you start filming Lucy's life?
DB: When she was 2 years old.
PD: How many hours a day and a week did you shoot Lucy?
DB: It was not every day, despite what you may think. I shot for maybe 10 minutes one day and then a few minutes more a month later.
PD: So when did you decide to make her life into a documentary?
DB: When I was able to figure out how to frame all of the footage I shot into a story, the film was born. Aside from learning all about Lucy and parenting, this movie also tells the story of how I learned how to let go.
PD: You touch upon many personal subjects in this film including your daughter having sex for the first time and your wife's [Marjorie A. Silver] bout with depression. Why go there?
DB: It was honest and it shows what families go through.
The Kids Grow Up - trailer from Copacetic Pictures on Vimeo.
PD: And Lucy was OK with all of this?
DB: Lucy wasn't thrilled with me talking about how she and her former boyfriend Romain were sleeping together when she was only 17 years old. That scene where we talked about her having sex gave her trouble.
PD: Not surprising, huh?
DB: It was a surprise to me to learn how uncomfortable she was with it, since she was pretty open with us about Romain at the time. We talked about it at length when she first saw the scene and Lucy ultimately understood that the film is coming from my very distinct perspective as a father and the scene is being played for laughs. But even now, a good year or two later, she's not thrilled.
PD: Do you blame her?
DB: Lucy was more concerned about what her teachers or people she associates with might think of her having sex at 17 years old.
PD: And Romain?
DB: As for Romain, I only heard his reaction through Lucy and she said he likes the film. I don't think he had a problem with that scene at all. But then he's a boy. And a French one, at that.
PD: Did making this film ever make waves with Lucy?
DB: About a month before Lucy left for Pomona College in California, things got difficult. There was a day Lucy got really upset and was in tears. So much so, she wanted me to turn the camera off because she was just stressing out over leaving her home, leaving her friends and having to start over in a brand new surrounding. But overall Lucy was a good sport about the whole thing.
PD: How did you deal with her on-camera breakdown?
DB: That scene still haunts me to this day because instead of comforting her the filmmaker in me took over. I mean I knew there were moments that the camera irritated her. When you see your daughter in tears it is never a good feeling. I kept rolling because Lucy never told me [explicitly] to turn the camera off.
PD: What were the pros and cons of making this film with Lucy?
DB: The cons were always, 'How will this impact Lucy and is she really OK with it or doing it to please me?' The pro was I had never seen a film about the parenting privilege and I have this wonderful opportunity to show them what it is like.
PD: Did Lucy ever come to a point where she was like, "Dad, enough?"
DB: With the exception of that one day we just spoke about, no. If she did I would have stopped filming immediately. I even gave her the opportunity at one point to pull the plug and she didn't.
PD: In the film, your wife compares you to the cartoon character Peter Pan. Would Lucy agree with that analogy?
DB: I don't know. That is a good question. Lucy and I had a buddy relationship and I did enjoy palling around with her. We had a great dynamic when she was younger.
PD: How do you compare your relationship with Lucy as a child to your relationship with Lucy as an adult?
DB: As an adult, it is an adult relationship, but every now and then the kid comes out. Just the other day as she was thinking about life after graduation she said, "Dad, if I have to intern for a while can I have my room back?" [Laughs]
PD: So you didn't give her room away or rent it out?
DB: No. [Laughs] We would love it if she came back.
PD: Did Lucy see the film before you showed it to an audience?
DB: Yes. I flew to California because I wanted to see if there was anything she was uncomfortable with.
PD: Now that Lucy is a senior in college how often do you talk?
DB: At least once a week. We either text, Skype, email or use the phone.
PD: Lucy mentions in the film she wants to go into the environmental field. Is that still the case?
DB: Yes, very much so.
PD: As the reviews start to come in, what was Lucy's?
DB: She thinks it is a good film. When she saw it at The Silver Docs Film Festival in Washington, D.C. this past June and saw how the audience responded really well, she was happy.
PD: Any post-production thoughts?
DB: Yes, how quickly time goes. You think it doesn't when you are in the day-to-day routine, but it really does fly by in the blink of an eye.











ReaderComments (Page 2 of 4)
11-07-2010 @ 8:57PM
lois said...What a weirdo ! No wonder his wife is depressed. She has been neglected and felt unloved all her life after her daughter was born ! What Father would video tape every aspect of the childs' life right up to her first sexual experience ?? Poor woman, loco man !!!
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11-07-2010 @ 9:14PM
chris said...My daughter died almost 7 years ago, I wish I had filmed her for the 18 years she was alive.
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11-07-2010 @ 9:27PM
JazzyLee said...Those that keep mentioning that the guy was obsessed with his daughter etc... are the creeps here. People are so quick to think negatively about everything, so your parents were also creeps and obsessed with you when they took pictures of you and filmed your birthday parties etc when you were younger. If you are so righteous why is it that the first thing you think of is filth?
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11-07-2010 @ 9:28PM
Soldier's Mom said...Well, yeah, that just smacks of creepy. For one thing, I never would have discussed my first sexual experience (or any sexual experience) with my Dad and, secondly, I'll be damned if I'd ever discuss it it in a video for the world to see. Where are Child Protective Services?
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11-07-2010 @ 9:32PM
Lamar said...What an unmitigated jerk. After your inattention to your wife drove her into depression, now you're going to ruin your daughter's life by telling every detail to the public. And your goal, "Art" (read "money"). Did you stop for just one miniute and think what this film could do to your daughter for the rest of her life? Hope you made a ton of money off of it, you're gonna need it to pay for the shrink for both your wife and your daughter. Perhaps you should book a couple of visits with the shrink for yourself.
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11-07-2010 @ 10:59PM
tracyp4605 said...Prime example of a parent exploiting their child for personal gain.
(And also a VERY good example of the type of guy you don't want to leave your young daughter alone with!)
How do you record your only child crying and vulnerable instead of offering support?
Reminds me of the people at an accident scene who take their cell phones out NOT to call 911 but to take pictures of the injured or dead victims.
And shame on his wife for not protecting her own daughter from this guy.
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11-07-2010 @ 10:12PM
jessica said...I am astounded at the ignorant, angry comments that this parent DARED talk to their kid about sex. How dare be parent that girl! Call CPS! He's being a good parent! The talk would have and SHOULD have happened anyway. Only difference in your lives is either your parents weren't good parents and avoided the issue or they spoke with you like this man only this man recorded it. He wasn't obsessed with every aspect of his daughter's life. He said he recorded a few minutes a month. My mother took more pictures of me than that. I was constantly dodging the camera. Not to mention, Lucy said she was fine with it and he even gave her a choice to end it at any time. Grow up people. Some children aren't going to follow abstinence though I know that it is the ideal path. It is your responsibility as a parent to make sure they understand about sex if they choose to be sexually active.
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11-07-2010 @ 10:38PM
Elvis Lopez said...Ridiculous, moronic and asinine father. My parents took one picture of me as a child and I am sure my head is on straighter than this pampered girl. Our society, child-centered to the point of nausea, is in deep trouble.
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11-07-2010 @ 10:39PM
Mary said...I think he is something of a voyeur. He crossed the line pushing his daughter to discuss her first time with her boyfriend. Too bad he had to go there. When she is older she will realize that was not okay. She is lucky to be out of that home and I hope she never has to live there again, visits only-but no stay overs.
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11-07-2010 @ 10:48PM
Nick said...Sorry! This reply was supposed to go one post down!
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11-07-2010 @ 10:56PM
Bonnie Conrad said...I hope I get to see this film. I'll bet it's a real film talking about real family issues. I can see it must have been hard for all of them to address the private issues, but raising children is messy at times. You had better be educated about children and know what you're doing. It's a joy and it's a difficult life at times. When raising 5 and now helping with 10 granchildren I know about what I speak. I love being a parent and grandparent and it's obvious this filmaker did too.
I would encourage parents to talk to girls about staying chaste until they are old enough to know themselves though. My girls waited until they were seniors in college and fell in love. It saves their fragile egos no matter what people tell you. The frontal lobe is so much more developed by that time and they make choices they don't regret as is noted by the young woman in this film and her reaction to her Father adressing this personal choice which she feels negative about. It's a choice a choice that a woman can never take back and most woman feel it's a gift they give out of love. When love fails their gift is minimised . It's up to parents to give bounderies and guidelines so their girl will not be hurt.
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11-08-2010 @ 8:24AM
Alicia said...Or you can teach your daughters that their worth has nothing to do with sex. My mother always taught me that sex was irrelevant and I was beautiful and powerful no matter what I decided to do with my virginity. I never felt guilty about giving it up and as much as I don't like the boy now, I've never regretted. Sex is wonderful and amazing and if approached correctly, with safety precautions, can be enjoyed as often as one pleases. It has nothing to do with personal value or worth and to tie virginity and female worth together is an insult to women and only demoralizes us and continues our madonna/whore paradox and rape culture that we exist in in this society.
11-07-2010 @ 11:17PM
Summer said...All of you that are talking bad on this man need to learn a thing or two. It's called she consented to it, and wanted to do it. she even approved it before anyone else saw it. It has made them close and i think it's great that a father and daughter can have a good relationship, especially in this day and age. He wanted to be involved in his daughters' life and it just so happened that he could also make a documentary from the experience. That is something that can help new parents/fathers understand some things and how to deal with some things that kids and teens go through in life. Maybe you should look at your relationships with your children(IF you have any) and maybe you'll see you're not as close as you could be. Stop acting like he's a bad guy for capturing his time with his ONLY child. DID YOU EVER STOP TO THINK THAT EVEN IF HIS ONLY CHILD WAS A SON HE'D STILL HAVE DONE IT!!?? is THAT creepy? seriously people, get a grip. NOT ALL fathers are sick perverts.
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11-07-2010 @ 11:19PM
birdsandbugs said...Hell I don't even know her and I have a problem with her having sex at 17. You know, there are people like me that have Asperger's syndrome in this world and have extreme difficulty in having love lives. I think everyone should stop drooling over everyone else's sex lives and think about OUR plight for once.
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11-08-2010 @ 1:16AM
missy_07 said...I am 21 yrs old to and if my parents would have taped our sex convo after they found out i was having sex at the age of 16 some ppl might have found it weird or wat ever but i would have seen nothing worng with it I wanna see this movie it does look good and the fact that it touch bases on everythign is good so ppl are sayin he is a creep cuz he is video taping his daughter my parents recorded me my older brother and baby brother growing up my mom still takes pictures of me and im 21 she always tried to take pictures of all us kids growing up I have a million pictures of my nieces and nephew am I a creep as well cuz i am in their life daily we record their lives as well so am I some kinda of creep well Hell I guess i am according to all of u guys shit u all need to grow up and act ur age not like some kinda of child who is all ewww on the subject of sex everyone has it at one point in their life and everyone talks about it with their parents and if u dont i feel sorry for u cuz since i frist told my parents i ad sex at the age of 16 thats when i knew i can tell em anythign they didnt go bilistic over it and tell me i was going to go to hell they asked if i had any questions and they answered em now dont get me wrong they were madder than hell but they understood i was growing up now i tell em everythign witch is a good thig too so like i said grow up and act ur age not like some 2 yr old little girl GOD!!
11-08-2010 @ 3:55AM
bedbugs said...That's fantastic because I too have Aspergers and I have no problem with her having sex at 17!
WOW!
Congratulations on making the entire world all about you. And you don't mean OUR plight, you mean YOUR plight. I've gotten to know plenty of Aspies in the world who have been able to grow up and can function in relationships just fine. Want to know the secret? It's finding someone who understands and accepts you. But of course, this isn't going to happen if you can't accept yourself, which you obviously can't.
Don't lump me in with you or your kind. You sound just like my ex. It was always me-me-me, with no effort from him. And surprise, surprise, he was an Aspie too.
11-07-2010 @ 11:20PM
CR said...I don't know about creepy, but dude does have a problem when his daughter is in tears and wanted him to turn off the camera but he didn't because she didn't actually *say* turn it off. What father watches his kid cry and doesn't put down the stupid camera?
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11-08-2010 @ 12:06AM
Chris said...These are the father's exact words from the interview above:
"That scene where we talked about her having sex gave her trouble... It was a surprise to me to learn how uncomfortable she was with it, since she was pretty open with us about Romain at the time.... the film is coming from my very distinct perspective as a father and the scene is being played for laughs. But even now, a good year or two later, she's not thrilled."
THE SCENE WAS BEING PLAYED FOR LAUGHS??!!! If this doesn't show you what kind of man this is, what will? This is his young daughter who opened up to him about the most important and intimate experience of her life - up to that point - and he played it for LAUGHS? That is pathetic, and I can't blame her for being upset. I sure am!! There is absolutely NO REPECT there for his daughter and her privacy. You can bet it wasn't Lucy who brought up the subject to her Dad and volunteered a graphic description. No woman, or girl, wants to fill in her father about her sexual experiences, especially her first one. No wonder she "wasn't thrilled" a good year or two later.
How would Mr. Block like it if one of his friends filmed him discussing his first sexual conquest with a bunch of teenage guys, and then put it into a movie for public viewing. Well, maybe he wouldn't mind if he got a few $$$ out of it. Bet there's some footage from earlier years of his filming that little girl stashed away at the back of his closet that will never see the light of day. I feel sad for both daughter and her Mom.
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11-08-2010 @ 12:36AM
danii said...dudee i wanna see this
and her bf at 17 was hott lol
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11-08-2010 @ 12:31AM
james yuon said...TRUMAN SHOW!
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