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How Much Is Too Much When It Comes to Homework?
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Dear AdviceMama,
My grade schooler has one to two hours of homework a night. When is a child supposed to play with friends or just relax? The media reports that children are overweight and aren't getting enough exercise, but isn't playing a great source of exercise and doesn't it help a child develop social skills? How much homework is too much?
Signed,
Heavy with Homework
Dear Heavy,
Your question could have been written by the people who produced the recent film "Race to Nowhere," which focuses on the ever-increasing unhappiness and stress experienced by kids at younger and younger ages who complain of being overwhelmed by the work they have to do in the evenings after spending all day in the classroom.
The homework issue calls forth a wide range of opinions from parents, teachers, administrators and, of course, children. While the latter -- the kids -- enthusiastically agree that they need time to play and relax, those who keep track of test scores make a compelling case for the need for supplemental school work. Teachers argue that if their students are to perform well on standardized tests, there is simply no way to cover all the material in a typical school day.
Others, myself included, feel that "teaching to the test" is ridiculous. As passionate as I am about education, I see little correlation between test results and true learning. I've worked with children whose mastery in math, reading or science is well beyond their years, but do miserably on standardized tests. And I've seen kids who score impressively high on nationwide exams but do poorly in the classroom.
Of even greater importance, children -- as you rightly point out -- need to play. They need to interact with friends, draw, hop, skip, play tag, climb, dig in the dirt and scratch the dog while daydreaming. The constant pressure to be in the left, rational side of their brain so they can churn out endless worksheets is wearing out our children.
I don't think we'll get to a point where homework goes away, although there are proponents of that. But I do think we need to get off this train, racing to nowhere as the film is so aptly titled. Here are a few parting thoughts about your situation:
• Make sure your child doesn't have a learning issue that's making his homework take so long. Typically, we like to see kids having no more than 10 minutes of work per grade level, so a fourth grader might have 40 minutes. If his classmates are getting the work done much more quickly than your child, find out if he's struggling with the material.
• Ask the teacher if she would be willing to occasionally assign hands-on activities to reinforce learning. Some teachers have their kids do short videos, drawings, models or interviews to make homework more interesting.
• Have your son do his homework in half-hour segments, interspersed with playtime, rather than doing it straight through. By interrupting his focus on schoolwork, he may be fresher and therefore able to get through it more quickly.
Someday I hope we all realize that teaching to the test is not working, and childhood is short enough without requiring our kids to give up their afternoon and evening playtime. Meanwhile, I hope these ideas help. Best of luck!
Yours in parenting support,
AdviceMama
AdviceMama, Susan Stiffelman, is a licensed and practicing psychotherapist and marriage and family therapist. She holds a Bachelor of Arts in developmental psychology and a Master of Arts in clinical psychology. Her book, Parenting Without Power Struggles, is available on Amazon. Sign up to get Susan's free parenting newsletter.
My grade schooler has one to two hours of homework a night. When is a child supposed to play with friends or just relax? The media reports that children are overweight and aren't getting enough exercise, but isn't playing a great source of exercise and doesn't it help a child develop social skills? How much homework is too much?
Signed,
Heavy with Homework
Dear Heavy,
Your question could have been written by the people who produced the recent film "Race to Nowhere," which focuses on the ever-increasing unhappiness and stress experienced by kids at younger and younger ages who complain of being overwhelmed by the work they have to do in the evenings after spending all day in the classroom.
The homework issue calls forth a wide range of opinions from parents, teachers, administrators and, of course, children. While the latter -- the kids -- enthusiastically agree that they need time to play and relax, those who keep track of test scores make a compelling case for the need for supplemental school work. Teachers argue that if their students are to perform well on standardized tests, there is simply no way to cover all the material in a typical school day.
Others, myself included, feel that "teaching to the test" is ridiculous. As passionate as I am about education, I see little correlation between test results and true learning. I've worked with children whose mastery in math, reading or science is well beyond their years, but do miserably on standardized tests. And I've seen kids who score impressively high on nationwide exams but do poorly in the classroom.
Of even greater importance, children -- as you rightly point out -- need to play. They need to interact with friends, draw, hop, skip, play tag, climb, dig in the dirt and scratch the dog while daydreaming. The constant pressure to be in the left, rational side of their brain so they can churn out endless worksheets is wearing out our children.
I don't think we'll get to a point where homework goes away, although there are proponents of that. But I do think we need to get off this train, racing to nowhere as the film is so aptly titled. Here are a few parting thoughts about your situation:
• Make sure your child doesn't have a learning issue that's making his homework take so long. Typically, we like to see kids having no more than 10 minutes of work per grade level, so a fourth grader might have 40 minutes. If his classmates are getting the work done much more quickly than your child, find out if he's struggling with the material.
• Ask the teacher if she would be willing to occasionally assign hands-on activities to reinforce learning. Some teachers have their kids do short videos, drawings, models or interviews to make homework more interesting.
• Have your son do his homework in half-hour segments, interspersed with playtime, rather than doing it straight through. By interrupting his focus on schoolwork, he may be fresher and therefore able to get through it more quickly.
Someday I hope we all realize that teaching to the test is not working, and childhood is short enough without requiring our kids to give up their afternoon and evening playtime. Meanwhile, I hope these ideas help. Best of luck!
Yours in parenting support,
AdviceMama
AdviceMama, Susan Stiffelman, is a licensed and practicing psychotherapist and marriage and family therapist. She holds a Bachelor of Arts in developmental psychology and a Master of Arts in clinical psychology. Her book, Parenting Without Power Struggles, is available on Amazon. Sign up to get Susan's free parenting newsletter.
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11-24-2010 @ 2:30PM
sandy said...Children need their own space so that they can explore their talent and creativity. We, the parents should always stand beside to help them learning different things. We should teach them different subjects in different innovative ways so that they love to learn them.
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12-29-2010 @ 8:12PM
Dora Ann said...oh, please quit whining about homework. Take away the electronics and cell phone until the weekend; that will solve the problem.
12-29-2010 @ 8:46PM
Student said...I am currently in eigth grade and i recieve a pile of homework. Yes we should have some time at home to review but not 5 hours of homework! I have hichschool courses and I work hard to get good grades. Of course I am stressed and sometimes its to much that I cant take it! I have time to spend with my friends but when I am with them we do more homework. From math I recieve about 60 problems, literature I have to read 5 books plus the homework she assigns, science I have expiremints, spanish a huge packet to learn words, plus I get about 3 projects! Its to much homework and we dont deserve it! Then I have to hear my teachers complain that we are lazy! I dont think thats right how can we be lazy if we do all their work and turn it in. And yes this generation has become dumb you can say, but its not our fault! We have teachers that dont care if we learn they just want us to pass their tests and they think we will be fine. And teachers whine that they have papers to grade when they come home but some teachers make the students switch papers and grade them! And while we are working teachers have time to grade papers. All I am trying to say is to much homework is not right, and my friends and I learn better by being explained not being given a pile of work and learning from it. We should be respected and given an amount of homework that is good. And students that have good parents like me, get help when our parents come from work. Teachers shouldnt complain they should stop giving so much assignments and sit up and teach because they are the lazy ones. I have teachers that just text and talk and I am not sayin that all teachers are like that but 90% are, but they consider themselves wonderful. Take time to ask your students how they feel how you teach, and make sure that we are actually understanding! Thank you :)
12-29-2010 @ 9:14PM
Cindy said...I am a teacher and completely agree with two things in this article, first kids are given way too much homework and teaching to the test is ridiculous. Unfortunately, with No Child Left Behind, we are forced to teach to the test, but I personally make sure my students never get much homework because family and play time are just as important as an education.. I have been told by my principals that homework is mandatory, but I just make sure to give the kids time in class to either get it all done or mostly done. My son always has way too much homework, but he is in high school so its expected. Elementary students should never have too much homework in my opinion!!! We need to get rid of No Child Left Behind so that we teachers can get back to teaching the kids and not worrying about the tests!!!
12-29-2010 @ 9:53PM
Carol F said...I am a 4th grade teacher, and my students have about 40 minutes of homework a night, which should include math fact practice and reading. Most work should be done at school so I can be there to help/answer questions. Of course, some children are masters of the stall and can prolong homework time to their parents' chagrin. Someone mentioned children need to have less homework so they can exercise. When I ask my students about their favorite free time activities, sadly they are watching television and playing video games, and not usually the more active Wii games.
12-29-2010 @ 9:59PM
Megan said...Dora Ann, my kids had way too much homework before they had cell phones. That was an ignorant and short-sided remark. Kids need a chance to be kids, and this is being taken away from them by an increasingly broken system.
12-29-2010 @ 10:24PM
ncm said...TEACHERS do not choose to "teach to the test"...their district, due to state mandates from federal requirements, force them to.
12-29-2010 @ 10:57PM
student said...in some ways i believe that us as students do receive to much homework and in other ways it fine.. but if students are fooling around and not even doing what they are suppose to be doing in the class period then yea they should take it home for homework and if they do that for every class well then its the students faults, and they should not complaining to parents about having to much homework because its their own fault.. but if the teacher in the class period is not even explaining the subject that is supposed to be being taught and the teacher just keeps on piling on the homework well then thats not right. In my advanced geometry class now our teacher is teaching one or sometimes two sections in the book in one class period (45 min) and is explaining for close to the whole class period and then we have two sections of homework with 25 minimum to more problems which is then due the next day and then we are taught another section and usually by the end of the week we will either have a test or quiz, but if we are not learning what is being taught, and if we don't know what we were doing on the homework well then how are we suppose to do good on the tests? which then means our grade just slowly gets lower and lower and it's very disappointing to a lot of students who try their hardest! i believe that the teachers should teach us until the majority of the class gets what is being taught and to do the "homework" in class and to ask the teacher with problems they don't understand, and just don't worry about the tests.. and i know the teachers are put under a thing where they have to have so much of the class taught before the end of the year, but if the students didn't learn anything from it the WHAT'S THE POINT?
12-30-2010 @ 12:22AM
Mike said...I have to agree with this author, the only thing that "teaching to the test" accomplishes is making the school district look good. It does absolutely nothing to prepare our children for college. More and more students, even those who scored well in Standardized Testing, are struggling at the college and university level. This type of "teaching" only helps the student do well on the test and not the actual subject matter.
How about fewer "Teacher In-Service Days", minimum days and bogus holidays and more class time. Start at 8:00 AM and keep the kids in class until 3:00 PM, not 2:00 or 2:15 (1:00 on so called Minimum Days).
I'm also tired of teachers who complain about class size and how underpaid they are. In what other sector can you get a starting salary of $50K, full benefits including pension and only work 9 months out of the year? And if you choose to teach at Summer School, you make another $15K and add to your pension while doing so?
12-30-2010 @ 1:08AM
Frances said...My kids go to a Catholic school and spend anywhere from 1-3 hours a night with homework. Part of the problem as I see it is much of the time in school is spent with the teachers trying to discipline the kids who are disrespectful and disruptive, taking away time from the kids who don't misbehave. Finding down time for them after school is a challenge and they are overwhelmed trying to balance it all, as well as myself. We have cut back on after school activities but still strive to find time to "chill out". I don't have the solution and I would love for it to not be so hectic. Pushes our kids to grow up faster than they should, along with all the other adult issues being presented through TV, texting, movies, etc.
12-30-2010 @ 1:15AM
Ian said..."Especially the mother"? Repugnant comment from some bleeding New Ager I'm sure. Other than the overtly sexist comment disregarding the usefulness of fathers I agree, but with a caveat. Homework is important. Depending on the grade, subject and teacher and point of progress in the school year a pile of homework can either be just the right amount or way, way too much. It wasn't that long ago I graduated high school and looking back... I blew off a lot of homework that would have helped me do better. Re-enforcing subject matter while the student is at home, has access to their family and social network as study aides and can progress at their own pace is incredibly important for retention. The whole argument that they need space, playtime, etc... Yeesss.. this is all true, but they also need structure and discipline, something my upbringing lacked and that I'm paying for now. I was almost wholly unprepared for college after my high school career, and I don't think I did a leaf of homework my entire senior year. Take away the distractions until they're done. These kids aren't entitled to internet, cell phones and TV at all times, they should be used as rewards or as milestones. Get your homework done, then you can play video games. Do a half-hour, hour of review, then you can spend an hour doing whatever you want on the internet. Make learning as fun as possible a process and involves yourselves as parents.
12-30-2010 @ 2:22AM
Linda P in Anaheim said...Slowly parents and students are learning that the source of their problems is the No Child Left Behind federal legislation. If schools don't reach standards which show adequate growth each year, the schools are warned. or after several years of inadequate growth, the government can step in and fire the principal and teachers.
As a retired teacher, I urge parents to become actively involved in the political realities that are forcing these standards onto the schools and students. What was well-intended has turned out
very poorly.
Veteran teachers who have polished their skills over their years of experience aren't allowed to teach using their best approaches. They are being forced into committees which write scripts to make sure each teacher is on the same page on the same day, and saying basically the same thing.ds
Teachers don't thrive under these misguided political rules.
Students don't thrive either. But schools will lose federal money if they don't follow the NCLB guidelines.
12-30-2010 @ 4:04AM
MDT said...I agree there is too much teaching to the test. Whoever thinks we teachers like it is mistaken. Our jobs depend on it. To Mike - I don't know where you live but teachers here do not start at $50K. After 12 years of teaching and a Master's degree I do not make anywhere close to that. Make $15K teaching summer school - where? Our summer school program is offered only to students who are non or limited english speakers. The teachers selected to teach it are usually those who teach those students during the year, and they do not make $15K doing it. Yes we have benefits. We are REQUIRED to pay into the state retirement system whether we want to or not. Our students start at 8:30 and go until 3:25. We are REQUIRED to be at school at 8:00 and are not to leave until 3:45. On our "early" day they leave at 1:55 and we are in staff meetings or other MANDATED training until 3:45. Work only 9 months? Yea, right. Ask teachers how much time they spend in the school on weekends, holiday breaks, and during the summer trying to get grading completed and ready for students.
Stop blaming the teachers for teaching to the test and start blaming the districts, states, and federal government who mandate the testing. They put stuff on the tests the students would not normally see in their curriculuum so we don't have much choice. We have to give them the opportunity to see what they are up against.
3-19-2011 @ 11:10PM
Leah said...Unfortunately, many children need to LEARN HOW TO LEARN and just don't have the tools or input from an experienced enough educator with insight on how to help the child build certain weakened skills, which help children learn as well as HOW to learn. Take it from me....I have been in the field training people how to learn & build those cognitive skills.
11-28-2010 @ 2:23PM
jojo said...We are now in a global economy, children in other countries go to school six days per week and for more hours per day than our children.. Our children will not be able to compete in the real world, because our country has decided to DUMB DOWN our Education System, so as to make everybody Feel Good! Sorry to say folks however that is not how the real world works, the cream rises to the top!
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2-20-2011 @ 3:09PM
tony moore said...Maybe you should check Japans school system, they currently go more days per year but less hours per day. Translation, they go about a month less than kids in the USA.
12-01-2010 @ 2:26PM
kay said...The number of hours or days that our children attend school is based on parents wanting free babysitting and has very little to do with how much or well the children learn.
If we want to compete in a global world then our children need to learn in a way that truly teaches and not in a way that advances the cause of the teachers unions and parents that have their priorities messed up.
12-31-2010 @ 10:53PM
fc1839 said...If you check foreign education systems, you will also notice that while they may be in a class room 2 hours longer per week than American students, the foreign students receive much less homework.
12-29-2010 @ 8:36PM
Scott said...In other countries children are required to participate in sports and PE, too. Big difference on well-rounding the child!
12-29-2010 @ 10:07PM
claud said...Let's understand that children in other countries also have the discipline that require them to meet the educational standards they are held to. As an elementary school teacher in the inner city, I can tell you that more time spent in school will not make the difference in how well our children succeed in life. The issues that these young children experience in their lives make it difficult for them to achieve the goals we set for them. There is a break down of family, parental discipine and respect that better explains why many of our children are not performing to the high standards we hold them to in this country. I have a bigger problem with students disrespecting teachers than the amount of time they spend in the classroom compared to children in other countries.