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Jamie Bristol with her son, Ethan. Credit: Tom Bristol
But no matter how mellow it may be, the event, marking an important milestone for the tot and his parents, Jamie and Tom Bristol of Montrose, Calif., certainly won't be as chatter-free as the boy's silent birth.
Almost a year ago, Ethan entered the world two weeks late at 12:17 a.m., weighing 8 pounds, 9 ounces, through a silent birth. The practice has been making headlines recently with the birth of Benjamin Travolta on Nov. 23. Actor parents Kelly Preston and John Travolta, both Scientologists, announced that they planned to use the childbirth method practiced by the Church of Scientology.
Though not a word was uttered through the labor and delivery of Ethan, the alert and wide-eyed newborn made his debut, "looked around the room and let out a little yelp," Jamie Bristol 31, tells ParentDish.
"It was so precious, like he was saying 'Yay,' " she recalls.
Except for Ethan's whimper, there was no chatter, no commentary, no "push, push," urgings from Dr. Ronald Wu. There were only "looks of support" from husband, Tom, 29, a midwife and the medical team throughout the four-hour labor, Bristol says.
"I did make some noises because it is labor after all," she says. "And, if anything would have gone wrong, I would have spoken up. But the silence let me focus, remain calm and respectful to the significance of the moment. The only time someone said something was when it was obvious that I had to move to the hospital. The idea is that no one can talk through contractions. So the midwife was very respectful about that, and then just whispered to me about us having to move."
A lifelong Scientologist who, along with her sister, was born through a natural, silent birth, Bristol tells ParentDish she had planned to have a home birth for her first child, but, as it turned out, she had to be induced after being in pre-labor for five days (with no sleep) and her water had broken. The couple had a back-up doctor, and so Bristol, her husband and midwife moved -- silently, with no words spoken -- to nearby Glendale Adventist Medical Center where Ethan was born four hours later.
When she discovered she was pregnant, Bristol says, she interviewed four physicians and midwives in the Los Angeles area, explaining to all of them what she wanted.
"Hands down, all four doctors were familiar with silent births, I mean this is L.A., and all felt very comfortable doing this, same with the midwives," she tells ParentDish.
The idea in the "no words spoken" birthing process is that "the unborn child is feeling, remembering and aware of what is happening around him," Bristol says. "A silent birth is meant to minimize the pain and discomfort for the infant, and minimize the imprinting of stressful words spoken during the moments of birthing, words that could have an adverse effect on him in later life," she says.
The calmness and serenity are guiding principles Bristol hopes will be mainstays in her parenting, as well.
For the first six months, the couple, who owns the graphic design firm Dentist Design, worked from home so they could be with Ethan.
"I love that we can spend so much time with him," Bristol says. "He is so much fun to have around. I love waking up to his smiling face every day. I can't wait for him to start talking."
As the family prepares to celebrate Ethan's first birthday, Bristol says there's been quite a buzz about silent births among her friends, neighbors and colleagues following the Travolta baby's birth last week.
"People say, 'Is Kelly Preston doing what you did?' and 'What's that like?' " she says. "All I can say is that it's really no big deal. Except that I witnessed a friend giving birth to her baby recently and it was so noisy with so many people chatting away in the delivery room. What I loved the most was that it just helped me focus on the moment and not get caught up in having to make small talk to a bunch of strangers in a room. The quiet was calming."
Though it is not confirmed that Preston experienced a silent birth with Benjamin, the 48-year-old Scientologist announced prior to the birth that she was planning one in keeping with the Church of Scientology's guidelines, according to the Washington Post. In anticipation of the birth, the church released media alerts about silent births. The birth comes almost two years after the couple's eldest son, Jett Travolta, died in January 2009 from a seizure during a family holiday in the Bahamas.
Scientology founder L. Ron Hubbard preached the idea of silent birth as a way to shield newborns from supposedly harmful words heard during the traumatic birth process, Church of Scientology spokesperson Karin Pouw tells ParentDish.
When asked if Preston and baby Benjamin experienced a silent birth, Pouw tells ParentDish: "The Church of Scientology cannot answer questions on behalf of their members."
So, are silent births medically sound?
"Babies have heard noise and responded to noise for some time before they are born," Patricia Connor Devine, MD, a maternal-fetal medicine specialist who directs the Labor and Delivery Unit at Columbia University Medical Center, tells LiveJournal.com. "There's absolutely no scientific evidence that taking that away at the time of delivery will have any effect on outcome for the baby or the mother."
Pouw tells ParentDish the Church of Scientology does not give medical advice to help a person with a physical situation.
"But Scientology founder Hubbard did recommend a natural, drug-free birth because it is best for the mother and the child," she says. "It is common knowledge that natural childbirth is best, but that doesn't always work out, and it is up to the mother and her doctor."
Pouw says a silent birth is labor and delivery done in a calm and loving environment and with no spoken words by anyone attending.
"Chatty doctors and nurses, shouts to 'push, push' and loud or laughing remarks to 'encourage' are the types of things that are meant to be avoided," she adds. "Mothers naturally want to give their baby the best start in life and thus keep the birth as quiet and peaceful as possible. That being said, a woman's choice for her delivery is completely up to her and her doctor. There is no requirement to adhere to any specific routine. Just like care is taken in all other aspects of labor and birth, a woman and her doctor or midwife and any others present work out how to communicate without words."
The Church's media release about silent births was meant to help dispel misconceptions about the process, Pouw tells ParentDish.
"Throughout the last weeks we had received several media inquiries about silent birth, showing that misconceptions about silent birth were spread and so decided to provide a concise advice on the subject broadly to the media," she says.











ReaderComments (Page 1 of 9)
12-01-2010 @ 1:17PM
Tad said...Fantastic article! Great to see thorough and detail-oriented coverage from ParentDish rather than the hype and ridiculousness elsewhere on the web. Jamie's right in that having calm & quiet absolutely helps - helped my wife on our first baby (who turned out awesome) and our midwives & birth assistance are totally with us to do the same on number 2 which we're expecting shortly. Well spoken Jamie, and great article Mary Beth!
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12-02-2010 @ 10:53AM
Sharion said...Funny how things when not heard directly from the source get morphed over time. Not just Silent births but all sorts of views on other religions, and secular things too. But getting something free does not have to be too good to be true. I get samples mailed to me all the time Http://bit.ly/dailysample
12-02-2010 @ 2:30PM
Louanne said...@Sharion You're missing out on the spiritual component.
"The principle behind not speaking during childbirth is delineated in Dianetics and to fully understand why, one should read the book Dianetics: The Modern Science of Mental Health. But to provide a brief explanation, L. Ron Hubbard discovered the hidden source of nightmares, unreasonable fears, upsets, insecurity and psychosomatic illness—the reactive mind.
This part of the mind records all perceptions during times of pain and unconsciousness—which childbirth is for both mother and child. And words, in particular, spoken during these moments, can have an adverse effect on one later in life."
This is from the official FAQ on the subject, www.scientologynews.org/faq/what-is-silent-birth.html
12-02-2010 @ 6:39PM
Novalin said...Glad to hear about your personal experience! Silent birth is a new concept to me, and I'm glad to know more about it through the article. It actually seems like a good idea and I might apply it to my current pregnancy.
12-04-2010 @ 4:53AM
BabyXenu said...This reminds me of the Scientology "introspection rundown", where a person is isolated and not allowed to communicate with anyone. This is just another way for Scientology to control it members. If they have all the answers, then why are they having so many problems with ex members leaving and speaking publicly about the abuse they suffered. The insane criminal, L. Ron Hubbard also instructed his followers to not breast feed, but to use a mixture of corn syrup, water and barley. You have to be pretty brainwashed to do that to your own child.
12-04-2010 @ 5:03AM
BadCultBeware said...This from the same child abuser that wrote this.....
"Scientology's Volunteer Minister's Handbook:
Breast feeding babies may have a nostalgic background, particularly to a Freudian oriented medico, but real breast milk again is usually a poor ration. Modern mothers smoke and sometimes drink. Smoking makes the milk very musty. Anyway, a nervous modern mother just can't deliver the right ration. Maybe it's the pace of the times or the breed, but there are few modern Guernsey-type mothers. So even without drinking or smoking, one should forget breast feeding.
The foremost reason a baby doesn't do well is poor rations. And to remedy that, here is a formula one can use:
15 ounces of barley water
10 ounces of homogenized milk
3 ounces of corn syrup (As the Romans had honey, 2 ounces of honey may be used instead of corn syrup, if desired. Do not use lactose [a sugar found in milk, used in infant foods] as a substitute.) The amount of syrup should be varied - depending on the baby - some like it weak - some take it stronger."
L. Ron Hubbard was witnessed abusing children by many of his followers. His own son tell in an interview how his dad gave him drugs and forced him to participate in black magic rituals. I would not listen to anything the convicted criminal, L. Ron Hubbard, said about raising children.
12-09-2010 @ 7:29AM
wils said...I am glad she had an easy and fun time. I didn't and there was no way I could have gotten through it without talking to my doctor. These people really are bordering on insane.
12-08-2010 @ 10:50PM
judyclark74 said...@ BadCultBeware - careful - some may actually try this "formula" as you gave the recipe [for death]. My nephew nearly died from lack of nutrition from this barley water. Mr. Hubbard had no business telling people how to feed their babies!
@ Louanne - this coming from L. Ron Hubbard, a mental patient himself.
12-08-2010 @ 11:32PM
MizKatz said...Hmmmmm....the late Mr. Hubbard instructs mothers to eschew breast feeding and instead feed their babies a concoction that contains corn syrup and/or honey!!!! So the message is that it is preferrable for nervous new mothers to risk sickening their babies with Clostridium botulinum spores -- aka botulism -- ??? No thank you!!!
12-08-2010 @ 11:59PM
keith said...interestingly enough the fact of christianity is that God said women will go thru painfull childbirth. you can try to use drugs or try to be silent but it will be painfull no matter what. the only one who hasnt had pain in this gift is someone who is lying to you. they might have felt peaceful as one should be with the gift of gods fruits. but the reality is they inherit the sins of there father. sad but true. God is forgiving he understand us all.as for the non breast milk the scientific basis of this is pretty funny any child who takes breast milk for up to 2 years has less sickness this is proven thru so many scientific tests its funny to think anything different. as for scientology well its just anouther system to confuse man from understanding god. God bless and dont get to afriad when the rapture happens
12-09-2010 @ 12:08AM
Scientology Killed Lisa McPherson said...This has to be Thaddeus Reeves "Tad" He is a Scientology nut who stalks and films protesters of Scientology. What he wont tell you is that he was in the SEA ORG the cults para military wing as if a church needs a military. They force women to have abortions in the SEA ORG or leave because a baby conflicts with their billion year contract. They even wrote a statement saying they weren't threatened and left on their own. Why would anyone need to write something like that? Thaddeus "Turbo Dad" has already one kid and another on the way. I hope he does not have any more, the tax payers won't be able to afford all of the counseling these kids will need later in life.
12-09-2010 @ 2:37AM
Grey said...Louanne: In response to:"This part of the mind records all perceptions during times of pain and unconsciousness—which childbirth is for both mother and child. And words, in particular, spoken during these moments, can have an adverse effect on one later in life."
So, the words "Push, Push, come on honey you can do it", are somehow detrimental to a child years later? Seriously? What do you think these parents are saying during childbirth that will hurt the child's mental psyche? Show me a bit of scientific proof to Hubbard's theory please?
I'm all for whatever route a woman takes for childbirth, whether it is silent, water, hospital typical...As long as mother and child are safe, I don't care.
12-09-2010 @ 4:44AM
Brittany said..."The idea is that no one can talk through contractions"
Hmm...Dont think this is just a scientology way of birthing, Id say its just instinct! Its funny what they try to attribute to a Cult or Religion!
I HAD to have silence with every contraction, and god help the person who even whispered while i was having one!
Focusing on the contraction and relaxing in complete silence with each one, was the only way i was able to have a peaceful, Happy, drug-free birthing experience.....Religion had nothing to do with it...
12-01-2010 @ 1:54PM
xenu8d said...What's the purpose of this article? You don't need absolute silence to concentrate. There is no meaning outside of Scientology beliefs. My wife screams a lot during delivering. My kids are all in gifted class in school.
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12-01-2010 @ 2:23PM
Bert said...Silent birth is not just unproven to have any effect, it is part of a package of beliefs and practices that are fraudulent. Scientology was convicted of fraud in France for selling their "truths", but which are utterly preposterous.
Don't just take my word for it...
"Scientology is evil; its techniques are evil; its practice is a serious threat to the community, medically, morally, and socially; and its adherents are sadly deluded and often mentally ill... (Scientology is) the world's largest organization of unqualified persons engaged in the practice of dangerous techniques which masquerade as mental therapy."
- Justice Anderson, Supreme Court of Victoria, Australia
So consider the damage you are doing by promoting the practice of such a group with a puff piece such as this.
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12-08-2010 @ 8:21PM
Lori said...Scientology is NOT the largest group of people with dangerous, hurtful beliefs. The Catholic church has been responsible for so much emotional trauma over the years it's ridiculous, and yet zealots defend it to the death - theirs or yours, it doesn't matter. They degrade women, persecute & molest children, and warp family members against each other. Large organized religion in most cases is dangerous and extreme.
12-08-2010 @ 9:12PM
MistyRoses said...Gee Lori...I missed out on this stuff you claim takes place in the Catholic Faith. Wonder if I can get some money from them for what I misssed out on. Frankly my dear, check your into as the Catholic faith is not the lasgest in the world. I also wonder where you hatred of the Catholic faith comes from...just because you don't agree with or believe in the Catholic faith is no reason for you to spew such hatred. Myself, I have left the faith, for reasons that are not in the list that you spewed out. Growup my dear, you will feel better if you do so.
12-08-2010 @ 9:54PM
s rife said...Misty Rose I guess you have been under a rock not to know what goes on in the Catholic faith. Molesting boys, pedaphiles and the list goes on. Wake up and smell the roses.
12-08-2010 @ 11:58PM
Han said...s rife..its not like thats a normal thing. we dont go around molesting people AND people of other faiths molest people. its a horrid thing but yes, people make mistakes...big ones. EVERYBODY does. all in all we need to love everyone
12-09-2010 @ 8:39AM
peggy sue said...I'm with you, Lori. It was the illustrious Catholic church that caused my grandparents to dis-own my mother just because she married a Lutheran. They wouldn't have anything to do with us kids either because we were "illegitimate" because it was not a catholic marriage. It was 2 different "good Catholic" women who threw themselves at my husband because "all love is beautiful in the eyes of God", and they'de been to CONFESSION - so they were already forgiven. It was also a very Catholic old women who told me I "was a horrible mother, and couldn't possibly love my children because I had emergency c-sections (each were about 10 pounds). She actually said that if I was a decent mother, I would have been able to give birth to them, and if they died, then that was God's will. I lost my best friend because she refused to step foot in my "non catholic" church in order to accept being my son's Godmother.
Misti - you're wearing "rose" colored glasses.