I Don't Like Babies

I understand where everyone is coming from and your feelings are valid. However I must say I truly enjoyed my daughters baby years and miss them every day. I love my child now at age 5 as but I also miss holding her in my arms, little toes, little fingers, and her falling asleep on me. I miss the baby babble and little baby kisses. I feel bad for those of you that did not get that experience as well. I feel more anxious as she grows. For what (or who) she will meet and experience out in the world, and the day when she does not want me to hug her or she does not hug me. When she no longer says "I love you mommy" or wants to be tucked in with a kiss goodnight. I have loved every minute from birth to now, and hope for 10, ok at least 6, more years of it.

I enjoyed Http://www.childrenshealthsecrets.com the baby days, now that they are older there are more involved kinds of problems.

I was 9 months pregnant walking through a department store pregnant with my 1st child, a little girl (around 2) carrying a small purse was following her mother, I said "oh how cute", The veteran mother says "yeah I couldnt wait for her to walk and talk, and now I cant wait for her to sit down and shut up!" I have found this to be very true as my 1st born enters the teens. No matter how trying it is to be the mother of an infant it is infinitely more trying to be the mother of a preteen GIRL.

As a former preteen girl, I feel your pain.

Agreed. At 20, I'm doing everything I can to find a dr who will give me an IUD. I love kids and I even kind of like babies, so long as they go home to someone else after a few hours. Maybe one day I'll adopt, but trust me those kids will be 5+ and if they don't sleep through the night, at least they can tell me why.

THANK YOU for saying this! The best present my husband ever gave me was his vasectomy. Little kids are cute...as long as they belong to someone else. I'm realistic enough to say that I'm one of those who just isn't maternal...I applaud those who love being mothers...it's just not something I'd be good at.

I completely agree with you. I knew at a very early age that I wasn't meant to be a mother either. I find babies both repulsive and disgusting, and I don't like young children. I finally found a man who didn't want kids either, and we've been happily married for the past 27 years. And I agree with the other poster, the best thing he ever gave me was the wedding present: he had a vasectomy. I've made a lot of decisions I later regretted, but that one ---- never.

Bonding with your baby isn't an automatic given. It's foolish to believe that women who have trouble adjusting to parenthood in the infant phase can't be great mothers.

And I'm thinking someone is uncomfortable around babies then maybe it's a sign.
As the mother of a 14 year old son and one son that died after delivery there was not a moment I didn't loved omitting when they were sick of course. You are right I don't understand, I've never been around a mother that felt that way and must I would have no tolerance for them.

I think it's wonderful that Katherine is sharing her experiences with others. As several others have mentioned, different people have different favorites times of their mothering experiences. That makes a lot of sense. What doesn't make sense are the judgmental comments....they're uncalled for.

When I was 12, I helped raise a sibling from infancy, which was a wonderful, completely natural experience. I also babysat but was less comfortable with kids/babies from strangers. Unfortunately due to hyster I never became a mom. When I read Katherine's article, I thought, oh wow, even though she's a mom just WAIT for all the haters who will attack her for her honesty. Because I get attacked all the time for not being a mother. Not pushing out babies is a sin in today's world, you're considered practically a degenerate. So when Katherine shared feelings of discomfort during the baby stage, I knew she'd better duck. It's a darn shame, though. And Katherine sounds like a fantastic mom, better than the one I had, who was good with babies but horrible with preteens and teens. I wish Katherine was my mother growing up!

I think this is a very honest post, that probably shouldn't be taken so seriously or as disrespectful to women or couples who are unable to have children (which is a totally separate and serious issue). As a new mom, I think it's fair to say that you can love your children more than anything, but that doesn't mean you have to like everything about them all the time. As a total sidebar, if this post had written by a dad, I don't think people who be so quick to judge. Just sayin'