15-Year-Old Tried to Break Own Nose Before Plastic Surgery

I am glad that she is feeling better about herself now, but I think the process she undertook to get there is pretty sad. Instead of rising above the bullying and accepting herself for who she is, she gave in to the pressure. What is she going to do when the bullies change their tactics? Have surgery again? Or finally realize they're just a bunch of idiots?

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As a victim of childhood bullying (like nearly everyone else) I can sympathize with this girl but the message these surgeries send out isn't healthy. It's a band-aid over a bullet wound. Instead of dealing with the underlying issues here of bullying and working on the child's self esteem by getting them to focus on their more positive aspects we just reinforce the negativity dumped on them by their immature peers by "fixing" the "problem" with surgery.

Her bullies win as she now conforms to their shallow POV (not like this will stop them, however, as they'll continue to harass her with other false issues, it's how bullies function.) The child will now have it in their head that looks matter more than personality and that you can solve your depression with cosmetic surgery.

A whole new generation of "plastic dolls" is created and everyone wonders why shallow, empty minded reality shows like the "Jersey Shore" and "Real Housewives" continue to survive, even thrive? These are the idols of today. No golden calf here.. only golden tan calves attached to a body more artificial than real.. sculpted by cosmetic surgeons, and completely personality-free.

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Way back in 1966, I got a "nose job." I was 14, and I, too, was being teased unmercifully by other kids, even though it really wan't THAT bad. However, my parents asked me one day if I wanted to have a nose job, and I said yes. They never would have offered this is my dad hadn't been a physician and had a professional friend who was a plastic surgeon, so it was done very inexpensively. To be honest, it's one of the best things I've ever done for myself. I no longer tried to avoid side views of my face or put a hand over my face. My nose looks totally natural now. If it helps, do it.

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This was all in her head and because of this she emitted insecurity that Bully's look for and will use. Look at her picture before, honestly she is a very pretty girl. I was expecting to see some horrid mountain of a nose. Parents are doing a diservice to their children by trying to address and fix every hardship they have. Life in the world today is tough as it has always been. The difference is that each new generation of adults seem less and less equipted to deal with the unfairness of life. I wonder if she can imagine the power she gave those who bullied her. Now they can go push somebody else around with a new sense that they bullied their last victim to the point that person got surgery. I worry for this girl and I hope her family has extra money just in case she does not develop a bust like Kim Khardasian so that they can her surgically enhanced there too. Really this is insane.

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Now all her friends at school can gossip about how she had to get a nose job. I'm sure the bullies will understand this time and cut her some slack... Right?

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There were more problems with this girl than a bump on her nose.
Where was her self esteem? Where was her parental support to help her realize that she is more than a nose? Who bangs their head in to a door? There was/is a psychological problem with this girl and her family supported it knowingly or unknowingly.

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I knew a guy in high school who had a nose job and it really helped his looks a lot.He went on to do very well for himself in business.He seemed to really come to life after that.

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Her nose wasn't even that big to begin with. Getting a nose job is just going to egg on the bullies even more. I was tormented as a teen for having ugly hair, wearing the wrong kind of makeup, etc., and for a while in 8th grade tried to conform with the rest of the "in" crowd. It didn't work. I was told that I was still ugly and would never be cool. So I said f*ck 'em. Bullies are kids with low self esteem and target others because it makes them feel better about themselves. In my personal opinion, this young lady looked better before her surgery. It's too bad her parents couldn't help her see that.

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Take it from someone who endured the same thing in school,
I was so happy when I finally was able to have my nose fixed, went out and found a good surgeon was reported to be one of the best,
Well needless to say the" IDIOT" made it worse than it was, I was horrified when I saw myself for the first time, and then found out he messed it so bad no one else would be able to fix it
I stay to myself now, lots of tears, an antisocial, Life will never be the same for me, Give it alot of thought before having thing fixed!

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I'm going to be 16 in a few weeks, and also have a large nose. I have been teased about it since elementry school. In middle school, after reading "The Diary of Anne Frank" the kids started calling me "Anne" to my face, and talking about the resemblance as I was walking by, not knowing that I heard them. I can't drink out of soda cans, because my nose gets in the way. As if my self-esteem wasn't already low, it made it worse.

I'm a sophomore in high school now, and still get teased sometimes. Recently, my mother asked me if I would want to get a nose-job. To be honest, we really don't have the money for it, and I had never really considered it. I wouldn't really change anything about my nose, but if it makes her feel better, then good for her.

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In 1961, I worked at a Hospital in Minneapollis. Every summer there would be many young teen girls coming in to have their noses surgically changed by plastic surgery. That was a long time ago and I am not surprised that there are still teens out there who feel much better having this type of surgery. Being teased because you are different certainly affects your self-esteem as a teen - the hardest phase to get through growing up. In this era, we call it bullying which amounts to the same feeling when you are a teen.

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This is pathetic. Her nose wasn't that bad to begin with, in fact I saw nothing wrong with it.

When I was 12 years old my best friend's little brother accidentially broke my nose during and unfortunate accident with a teeter totter. I didn't get my nose back into place and it has been crooked ever since. Even though I have constant sinus problems due to my injury I wouldn't change my nose for anything. I always looked at my nose as a battle scar and my best friend's brother died recently. Whenever I look into the mirror I think of him.

Yes, kids can be mean. I have suffered from severe bullying for as long as I can remember and my first suicide attempt was at the age of 11. After all I've been through I can say that this girl needs to grow up. Myself and my friends have experienced cruel levels of bullying and the teasing she's recieved is only a drop in the bucket compared to what real bullying is.

This girl needs to build a bride and get over it. You hold your head high because you've accomplished something, when you've faced your fears, when you're proud of your character. Not when you get your nose re aligned.

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Personally i wouldn't get the nose job if i was in her shoes but if it makes her feel better why not? We don't have to live with her body. She does. If she messes up her face that will be on her. All i say is don't come crying to everyone who told you not to do it when something goes wrong.

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Generally I'm against non-reconstructive plastic surgery in minors. However, if a child is going to break their own nose in an attempt to "fix" themselves, at that point, it's probably safer to let a professional do it.

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So...what's the difference between getting a nose job and getting braces? Why be so judgmental?

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