Chinese Parent Amy Chua Talks Extreme Discipline and Parenting Regrets

I agree Shellfish789, all the Asians I know don't even want to be like their parents. You are speaking the truth, if the Western World is so bad WHY DO THEY ALL WANT TO LIVE HERE??? Mrs Chua even Married an American..why didn't she marry her own race??? They want to get away from their Life Style and Have Freedom that is why even Mrs. Chua made a change!! Yet she controls her house hold in the ways of the past. There has to be a Healthy Balance to raising children, each child is different. So you have to deal with each one differently. You all so for got some thing that you never here about or read. In Japan they Do Not Accept the Gay Life Style for employment. My friend got accecpted to work at Disney Japan for 7 yrs. She was a Disney Designer in Anaheim, CA. The job offered all expense's pd. for 7 yrs. The Japanese pay very well. When she got there she was told they only accept Headersexuals to work there, that is how she got the job. She all so said they smoke a lot and hardly sleep out there. They sleep on the Bus, train and some at even work, everyone works there all the time. After 7 yrs they offered her a full time position to stay in Japan. She came back home to the US.

It's obvious that comments made by Shellfish789 are OPINIONS people, and should not be accepted as fact.

This is not true. Whites (according to statistics) actually have quadruple rates of suicide than any other races. And also, there are different reasons for suicide. People commit suicide due to depression or just from the pressure that they feel. I agree that being verbally abusive is bad, but not all Asian parents are that way. And we hear downsides of their culture all the time. There was never a "Asians are superior than us in every way." As for criminal pasts, did you even check their background. Like I said, not all of them are like Amy. They could have been raised differently. For example, their families could be really poor making it harder for the parent to spend as much time watching over their children like Amy. As for video games, like I said, every family is different. Not all parents are as strict as Amy or even have as much money as her to support all their lessons/classes. As far as I can see, most of these video games come from Japan(such as PS3 and Nintendo, etc) You can't just take it from one Chinese lady, and apply it to all Asians. And lastly, carry outs; I find it only logical that they do. They sell what sells. WE demand it, they have the abilities to make it. I must say, PF Changs can never measure up to Chinese Carry outs. Chinese people just have different tastes. And I actually have seen them eat food they serve to Americans. i was talking to this one girl about it and she said it was a left over that no one came to pick up. which made me realize that they don't eat it so they can actually make more profit from it. Why eat your supplies? Please think more in depth next time when you reply with things that might offend others.

Amusing that Shellfish posted the same reply twice, with most of the exact same grammatical/punctuation/logic errors in both, even after explaining that the second post is a correction. Yikes! America could obviously use a bit of Chinese attitudes re: basic education.

+1 for what MsT said.

It is only a reflex. That is why it is called Shellfish.

If it is so bad here, why are you here Nina Tam? Go back to China, where women are not respected and the standard of living is at poverty level and if you are only allowed one child.

Amy, you speak in broken English. This is just a suggestion, but maybe you should look in to enrolling in an ESL at your local Community College to improve your English.

Hey Ninatam - you are absolutely correct. There is a sever lacking of a strong family hierachy in this country. Children no longer learn respect, they learn computers, they don't lear to use a pencil and their brains, they use a computer or a calculater and when they do something that deserves punishment, the namby pamby parents today do that whole "break away chair thing" mosly because they are afraid of having the police called on them if they give the brat a well deserved smack. In other words, American parents are delusional and tend to treat their kids like adults (which they aren't that's why the 18 year old birthday dictating an adult in society) and the vast majority of them will grow up not understanding respect for either their elders or even themselves - nope the majority of them grow up with a sense of self entitlement which as we should all agree doesn't work in the real world. So what do you do? maybe take a re-look on how the Chinese raise their kids and have an open mind and realize that the longer we continue treating our children as adults, giving them computers and cars and whatever either entices higher grades, obediance or basically keeps them in line you parents are doing your kids a bigger diservice than you can imagine and it won't be evident to you until the kid is 18 and you guys realize the kid can't cope with society, keep a job or even take care of themselves so what happens they either stay at home (there's that entitlement thing again) or parents have to literally pay off the kid to finally just go away so they won't have to see their failures as adults, failures that obviously the Chinese people prefer to cauterize as children before it's too late, once kids are adults they are cooked, no going back then

Nina Tam is an American Citizen. That is what America is about, different people, different cultures, tolerance and freedom. She is at home, here in America.

I am a person of color with an impeccable education and an MBA from a top 5 school. I am also 3rd generation college educated. Both parents were college educated and grandmother was college educated. My family is full of successful professional people and a few millionaire entrepreneurs.

We have a family education scholarship and we have family by-laws that include having 2 children unless you are in a financial position to care for and raise more. We teach our children about teenage sex and pregnancy and they are scared to come home pregnant. Which is how it should be. Not saying they are not having sex, but if they are, they are not getting pregnant.

We are raising our children to be successful. We do not tolerate disrespect. We discipline numerous ways up to and including spanking (which is not abuse). Parents have high expectations of children and indulge in them when earned. Food, clothing and shelter and payment for your education are what I give you as a parent. Anything beyond that is a privilege and can be taken away until it is earned.

Young people refer to older ones as Mr. or Ms. and parents are not friends with children.

Finally, America needs to understand that our media is censored. Read Foreign Policy magazine and purchase media that is written outside of this country. If China called in all American debts tomorrow, well, you read it for yourselves.

well put, starchamzxj.

Terry should be ashamed of her comment. Her ancestors came to this land to look for their dreams just like Nina's ancestors. No doubt this is the best country in the world. But it does not mean everything here is the best. There is always room to improve. Nina is an American Citizen and has every bit of right as Terry has. Sadly Terry thinks she is more entitled than Nina.

"Terry said...

If it is so bad here, why are you here Nina Tam? Go back to China, where women are not respected and the standard of living is at poverty level and if you are only allowed one child."

Why must she go back to China when she was born here? Oh, I get it, because she has a Chinese name!!! Now, tell me this, is it true that racist people sleep with their cousins? Do you?

"singlebs said...

Amy, you speak in broken English. This is just a suggestion, but maybe you should look in to enrolling in an ESL at your local Community College to improve your English."

Ooh, who let the grammar Nazis out? And how do you know she "speaks" in broken English? Have you ever talked to her in real life? Oh, I get it, you meant to write that "Amy, you write* in broken English," right? If that is the case, then at least use the correct verb, Mr. Grammaticus. And even if she writes in bad English, why did you assume that she needs to go to ESL (English as Second Language)? Maybe she is just not a very good writer? Oh, I get it, she cannot possibly be speaking English as a first language because of her last name, right? Tell me, do you sleep with your cousins, as well?

Having lived in an Asian culture, I can tell you Asain children are extremely rude and not well-behaved at all. Look around you in any public place and you will see Asian children running around and not minding their parents at all.

Terry, I think you are very confused. The opposite is much more close to truth.