Was I Right to Change My Daughter's School Because of Bullying?

YOU CAN'T stop bullying by moving to a different school since it's everywhere. The only way you can stop it is to beat the snot out of those starting it. Tattle tailing to the officials makes you look weak and unable to defend yourself so you'll be targeted more.

The Schools really need to crack down on these bully kids. The Bully should have to be home schooled not the kid that is bullied! Once a kid is a Bully he should be kicked out! Thats just wrong! these kids are there to learn not to get shot down on how they do not fit in with the crowd.This has gone on for too many damn years and needs to stop NOW! No reason for it not to be stoped! Kids take their own lives for this kind of CRAP!

I was an under-sized bullied kid in jr high (I grew later) and felt vulnerable. My whole attitude, the way I carried myself, etc, exuded being vulnerable and invited being picked on and I was. My parents, even with limited insight, enrolled me in karate classes and that made all the difference. It had nothing to do with beating up other kids or defending myself, but I learned how to carry myself and gained self-confidence. While that worked for a boy, I'd bet something similar, or the same, works for girls, too

Jernny- Your comment has nothing to do with the issue, a bullied high school senior, but is ALL ABOUT YOU, which is the problem with bullies to begin with.
They and their parents are too self-absorbed to care about anyone else. I really feel badly for this mother, and think she was right in going to the school, but my next step would have been to the parents of the brats, to ask them why they were INFLICTING undisciplined, power-mad teens on the Western World?
If you can't beat them, land them in therapy. Mary

Bullying is a form of terrorism and must be treated as such. That is why i propose we use the same penalty for bullies as we do for terrorist. i dont care how old they are no matter what age u are a human being and have a brain and know how to behave and not to. i dont care how u were raised their is no tolerance or mercy for bullying. There should be jailtime and the possibility of the death penalty for bullying. If bullying resulted in the mental ailment of a person and thus the person commits suicide it is the equivalant of murder.

Should have signed her up for a karate class.

My daughter was bullied by a senior girl when she was in the sixth grade. The school administration was unable to do anything about this bully and she actually came to my home with her grandmother, her guardian. Both Grandma and the girl threatened me for calling the school administration. I immediately called my local police department and had the girl arrested, agreeing to press charges and appear in court. Grandma went to court where she was told that she could be charged with making terroristic threats. The bully was taken to juvenile court where her past record of threatening other students and their parents was taken into account. When her school record was opened and others came forward, it was found that this bullying and threatening both children and their parents was a pattern that had taken place over many years. The judge told her that if anything happened to either of my children until they were out of high school, she would be held responsible, even if the incident were to be found to be done by one of her group, and sent on to a juvenile facility or on to an adult facility since she was soon to become 18 years of age.

I changed my daughter from her school in 7th grade. She's mixed black/white and it was the black girls bullying and ganging up on her.The school 'chose' to turn a blind eye to the problem. These girls had been in trouble before for the same thing and the principal told me she could do nothing unless the girls beat the hell out of my daughter! I changed her to a charter school that was predominately white and mexican,she was fine there. Yes, changing schools can be good, don't let your child go to school in fear everyday!

"I told them that if their daughter continue to bully mine, I would seek an order of protection against her, I would sue for intentional infliction of emotional distress on behalf of my daughter, I would send a copy of the lawsuit and allegations to all the of the colleges in the 4 state area identifying their daughter in order to derail her access to college. I also told them that since I would be representing my daughter, it would not cost us anything but that I would make sure I drained their life savings to defend her (other attorneys in the area would charge $250 an hour to represent them) and if I got a judgment against their daughter I would ruin her credit and prevent her from getting loans, etc. . . "


So you responded to their bullying, by bullying them?

Oh, that sets a simply SPLENDID example!



...hypocrite...

The Mother should've givin her daughter the confidence to give these bullies what they truely deserve.......................A good slap upside the head & a kick in the arse.

I was in a similar situation when I was in middle school. I am so glad I home-schooled after that until I went to high school. It helped to get away from the bullying and build back up my self-esteem. I don't know how your daughter feels about it, but her opinion is the answer to your question. Good luck to her.

Yes Yes Yes finally someone with a GREAT answer!!!

Suing them for emotional distress may work too, not the school, but the child that is bullying or by extension the parent or parents of the bully, why, because if the parent of the bully did some actual parenting they probably wouldn't have such an insecure kid! The law suit will encourage the parent of the bully to take action with their kid. If that doesn't stop I'd hate to say knock some sense into them, but that doesn't always work because violence begets more violence and can only make the problem worse, unfortunately.

My daughter WAS bullied. I took a 2 track approach: I talked to the school (that got me nowhere) and then I went and spoke with the other girls parents.

I asked her parents politely to speak with their daughter and to do what was necessary. If they could not or would not, I promised them that I since I love my daughter and want to protect her, I would be forced to unleash legal hell upon them!

I told them that if their daughter continue to bully mine, I would seek an order of protection against her, I would sue for intentional infliction of emotional distress on behalf of my daughter, I would send a copy of the lawsuit and allegations to all the of the colleges in the 4 state area identifying their daughter in order to derail her access to college. I also told them that since I would be representing my daughter, it would not cost us anything but that I would make sure I drained their life savings to defend her (other attorneys in the area would charge $250 an hour to represent them) and if I got a judgment against their daughter I would ruin her credit and prevent her from getting loans, etc. . .

They got the message -- so did their daughter and her friends.

Also check and see if any legal charges can be brought against the bully, if they touch your child it may be considered assault. Insist on pressing charges against any child that attacks your child no matter how minor don't let school officials talk you out of it by saying they want to handle the matter let the courts handle it. That way the it will cost the bully and their parents, time and money. Then in court ask for a protective order so if the bully attempts any contact they can be dragged back to court.

One more thing I could add is if there is any physical contact and the school will not fix it make sure you take pics with that days paper and go to the police and file charges if this dose not work because the bully is connected then just go visit the father and show him what his child is doing and to put an end to it or he gets what his child is giving.