Tiger Mom, Amy Chua's Daughter Defends Her

i dont care when you were raised, why would you hit the people that you love the most? makes no sense. i have never hit my children and they are just fine. "corporal punishment" is for ignorant, bad, lazy parents.

Lilly, go back under your sanctimonious rock and mind your own business.

I did spank John and a social worker who visited me when I was adopting told me that abuse is a brick, stick or 2x4 but NOT a slap on the behind and that people should run their own homes, not the government! I had let her know that if a spanking was needed it would be gotten. If you teach them right from wrong right from the beginning you won't need to spank. My children are grown, college graduated and successful human beings. They CAN NOT tolerate the majority children of today and have yet to have their own. Parents will learn someday that LESS IS MORE. LESS MATERIAL MORE TIME!!

I was raised very firmly with the belt, and I beg to differ, my parents were FAR from ignorant or lazy. Perhaps it was your daughter I ran into at a convenience store the other day, who waltzed in there like she owned the place, caused a big scene because the gas pump was out of order and cussed everyone out in the store that she could. She needed the living daylights SPANKED out of her when she was little but obviously was brought up as an "african princess". Now she's societies problem.

As people often do...you have misquoted theBbible. The rod was used to guide the sheep in the right direction. Not to smack them over the head with it,.

Just look around and you can see the result of lax parenting..........children killing their parents when they don't get their way.......teachers afraid of their students.........illigitimate children no longer an embarrassment to the family..........grandparents and great-grandparents raising the illigitimates......

I would say that if Amy's style is good for Amy then Amy should keep it to herself. The little I read of the exerpt from her book showed me that she thinks her way is good for everybody and that is simply not true. My mother had six children and allowed us to eat only what we liked and we are all now over 60 years of age and all quite healthy. We were not over indulged in all thngs nor were we over restricted in all things and we grew up just fine and have all become decent human beings who do our part to help to benefit those around us. We were never told we are garbage or anything vaguely like that. We did not have a lot of money but we all managed to enjoy the things we did have and also to enjoy each other. Do your own thing by all means but do not try to impose your beliefs and methods of parenting on others

Well, depends on what you call successful. Good taxi drivers are hard to find. If that's what the kid ends up doing, why would that be successful. If the little girl does well and becomes a lawyer, then what is better: a good taxi driver who gets you somewhere quickly and efficiently, or a lawyer who increases costs of our goods and services through the constant litigations that plague this country? Success depends on your point of view.

Taxi driver can be found everywhere and earn 20,000 a year. How many American want this job and deem it is a decent job. Lawyer may not be contributor for this world, but how about the engineers, scientists, etc.

You DIDN'T raise your child the same way. You let your child participate in sports, extracurricular activities, and have sleepovers, even if at just your own home. I don't recall you writing that you ever called your daughter "garbage" for not getting all A's or tore up a homemade card she had made you. You are NOT a Tiger Mom, at least not by Ms. Chua's definition of the term. You didn't mention it, but I would strongly suspect that your child had seen a television show before she left home to go out into the world. You should just count your lucky blessings that your child turned out to be a productive member of society in spite of all the mistakes you made (at least from a Tiger Mom's point of view.)