Tiger Mom, Amy Chua's Daughter Defends Her

This is why I hate Americans.
How many american child grow up an end up in rehab, therapy etc. vs. how many chinese.
How many success stories do hear about in terms of americans vs. chinese.
Chinese ARE NOT only culture with strict parenting styles.
Chinese ARE superior in every which way to the Americans. Look at what EVERY major news source is saying about the Chinese.
We are superior to Americans in every which way.

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The Chinese mother is right-on-the-money. Her children are successful because of how they were brought up. You cannot let kids run your household. You have to be parents and not their buddies. We need very strict standards in bringing up children so they can go into the world and make their mark. I'm glad our parents were very strict with the 8 of us ... we were all in private schools and never made anything but an A and A+ ...... and we are not even Chinese.

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............. I actually got better grades in school than any of the Chinese or Japanese did ...... although there were very few of them in our private school.

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most chinese hang around the crap or sic bo tables mom s a rare bird

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I raised my daughter eastern european way which is very similar to Chinese methodology, which is not like Tiger Mom's methodology, though just as strict without name calling. Being in college now, she cuts a 4.0+ and has maintained that since Freshman year. She is responsible and knows the value of education, work and the world. She is far from the American born - whatever. Her friends include a few American girls and a bunch of Chinese and South Korean along with a few Japanese - why? Simple, they are all on the same wavelength when it comes to being responsible and have a set of values.

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This is why China will crush us. They are what we once were. Strict parents with disciplined children who respect authority and have a strong National Pride. Thanks to all the liberals and Dr. Spock disciples the U.S. is a country of wimpy parents and overweight mouthy brats. Every parent who say corporal punishment is bad, and thinks their kids are great are kidding themselves. They don't listen when they hear their kids are brats and blame the other person. Kids need parents not more friends!

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this woman should have had those poor children taken from her a long time ago, and the useless husband, he's dirt. to think that these kids were exposed to this kind of cruelty at the hands of this crazy woman, and he stood by and let her deny them basic necessities; i.e. bathroom breaks, food. a little child makes you something, and no matter the effort put into it, she still made it for you, but you tear it up in front of her. you can't tell me while their friends talked about their sleepovers and things they were doing these kids were talking about running home to jump on the piano for practice or getting back to that violin. no way. kids are kids, but these two parents are just plain abusers; mental abuse is just as bad, it just does not leave marks we can see.

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My mom was so strict on me I could not play in the backyard by myself (at 16 y/o), she had to see the drivers liscense and write down the make/model/color of car/liscense plate #/phone numbers/ parents first and last names and what I was wearing before I could leave the house with any of my friends. I thank her so much now even though I hated all the rules when I was 16. I could have turned out to be just your average pregnant druggie teen (like most in the california valley), but no, I grew up a beautiful, independent, smart, classy woman. We had alot of fun in between the fights of when and where I could go, and we are still very close. My mom raised me with humor but also strong morals, values and independence.

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There are such things as IQ tests, and lets face it folks, some kids are just smarter than others. A "B" or in some subjects, even a "C" might just be the best a kid can do! I agree that we need to push our children to do their very best, and also that we have turned into a disrespectrul, rude society, but to pull some of Chau's methods on an "average" kid is abusive and will ensure they end up in my office (therapist) when they grow up!

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there's a reason why our prisons are filled to the rafters with teenagers and china's are not...

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No, I would not raise a child utilizing this method to reinfornce cognitive excellence, but I do give credit to Asian parents for their insistence upon good, traditional manners. The affective domain is just as important to ultimate success as skill acquisition. As regards the cognitive, I truly believe children must be "launched" in such a manner as to facilitate their own ambition and success. Parents cannot do that for them, no matter how they focus the scope.

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Around here, her parenting actions would get her a knock on the door by state child services. What I want to know is if these kids were ever hit by the mother and if the husband is still the biggest wuss on the planet for allowing his kids to be treated this way.

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The daughter who wrote the letter sounds like she would have no idea who she is except for who her mother tells her to be. Sounds like a train wreck waiting to happen. There are plenty of miserable souls who achieved material success to please their parents and hate themselves.
The problem with this highly educated woman's essay/book is that for all of her knowledge she still does not know that when you put someone's culture down to elevate your own, you make yourself and whatever you represent seem pitiful and unable to stand on it's own merits. I guess she learned that behavior from her "Tiger Mother"

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This wonan invited criticism when she wrote that her way was right and other ways were wrong! She should shut up and take like a well raised chinese girl.

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