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Filed under: Teens, Teen Culture, Development: Teens, Social & Emotional Growth: Teens, Behavior: Teens, Expert Advice: Teens, Try This
Your rebellious teenager is acting up and you know that banning dessert or giving timeouts won't work anymore.
So, now what?
When it comes to disciplining teens, taking away electronics, like cell phones and iPods, seems to be a growing trend.
But, is banning Facebook really an effective punishment method as well? Healthguidance.com recommends implementing related punishments so that the punishment does, in fact, fit the crime.
Also, punishments should be practical so that your teen knows you are serious. Threatening to never let her out of the house again just isn't going to fly, and your teenage daughter knows it. Choose a punishment that you can follow through on and your budding adult will be more likely to follow your rules.
What have you done that works?
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2-01-2011 @ 3:13PM
dougalcandy said...When my daughter was about 14, her father told her not to do something (can't remember what) and told her if she did it, she would lose her computer for 3 months. Lo and behold, I came home from work one day to see him walking down the stairs with the whole computer in his hands, and her following him downstairs in tears pleading. All her tears had no effect, and she was computerless for the full 3 months. I'm pretty sure she got the point! I think taking things away, especially cell phones (we did this too) is the best punishment for a teen, they seem to be able to survive without everything else!
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2-01-2011 @ 3:15PM
dougalcandy said...When my daughter was about 14, her father told her not to do something
(can't remember what) and told her if she did it, she would lose her
computer for 3 months. Lo and behold, I came home from work one day
to see him walking down the stairs with the whole computer in his
hands, and her following him downstairs in tears pleading. All her
tears had no effect, and she was computerless for the full 3 months.
I'm pretty sure she got the point! I think taking things away,
especially cell phones (we did this too) is the best punishment for a
teen, they seem to be able to survive without everything else!
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2-05-2011 @ 8:53PM
Nate said...The main line I am seeing here is "they seem to be able to survive without everything else". What this line says to me is that if they act up they have to do without something. What if instead of taking something away, they had more responsibilities they had to live up to (not always effective, but for example, having to do extra work in certain areas etc.).
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3-09-2011 @ 10:41PM
Ben said...As a teenager I just want to say if you punish your teen too much theyll find a way around just about anything including the punishments listed above. I have realized that once Im punished or whatever Ive got nothing to lose so i can do what ever I want. My parents have even tried taking just about everything I have away from me and I just left and spent the next two days at friends houses, once Im out of the house they have no control and the problem is its hard to stop a teenager from leaving if they want too.
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3-13-2011 @ 12:06PM
holly said...Can your parents call the police?
3-15-2011 @ 10:02PM
Ben said...Well they could but then what...? The police show up take me where ever the police station, juvie and I havent done anything illegal so they cant charge me with anything. Its just a waste of the police's,my parents and my time and itll have no effect on me.
3-14-2011 @ 10:30AM
Sara said...I have found taking away privileges for things like grades, which includes cell phones, iPods and computers, and having to earn them back by raising the grades has worked. Minor infractions like smart mouthing has earned my 15 year old extra chores. I feel bad for the young man who leaves and stays at friends. My son has never taken off, he just wouldn't. Rules need to be established and enforced when kids are small. If you let them get away with everything when they are little and then expect obedience when they are teens it's not going to happen. Listen to them and remember respect is a two way street but ultimately you are the parent.
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3-15-2011 @ 10:18PM
ben said...Yeah honestly I never thought Id walk out like that either. But sometimes people just dont get along and its better for them just not to be near eachother for awhile. If I could of thought of a way to resolve that and stay home I would of.
5-08-2011 @ 9:54AM
Alex said...I think banning things like Facebook is a good idea... but NOT taking away computers entirley. Teenagers might need computers for school work (I know I do) and revision (sites like BBC Bitesize are really useful).
Just temporarily block Facebook using software like Windows Live Family Safety. I would certainly behave if someone threatened to block my Facebook account!!
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10-26-2011 @ 4:37AM
Ellie said...I know this is an old thread but I thought I could post what I think. My parents don't generally need to punish me, but when they o taking away my mobile was very effective. I'd gone over my allowance, so like it says above it 'fits the crime'. But instead of actually taking my phone they put a lock on it. I don't know how, but I could only call my parents and an emergency number.
I have also had my laptop taken away, but could use the family computer for homework. I may be a teenager still, but I think punishing kids is a good idea. It definitely taught me and my friends where boundaries are.
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