The Drevitches, Week 19: Scenes From a (Healthier) Marriage
Filed under: Healthy Families Challenge
Wearing my wedding tux again is suddenly not so far-fetched. Courtesy: Gary Drevitch
When my wife, Lynn, and I agreed to become part of the Healthy Families Challenge, she was more enthusiastic about it than I was. Maybe that's because she's by nature more optimistic and more willing to try new things. Or maybe it's because she knew how much I needed to lose weight and saw no downside in trying a new approach.
As for me, and as is often the case when my wife and I disagree about something, I lacked the imagination to see where the Challenge could take us. I looked at our familial landscape, health-wise, and saw, among other problems, a couple struggling to make time to get to the gym. In fact, we were often fighting about who would get to work out during the brief windows of opportunity offered to us as we raced our kids to and from school and activities.
I didn't envision us improving on that scenario. I feared the Challenge would only make our disputes worse.
Lynn, as usual, saw it differently. Becoming a part of the Challenge, and getting the advice of the trainers and the nutritionist that were being offered to us, would change the way we saw our schedules. She knew there was time somewhere in both of our days to get exercise, and she knew that experts could help us find it. And she thought that once we did, we'd thrive.
She was right. More than four months later, I've lost 35 pounds and she's fully returned to her pre-motherhood weight. (She had much less to lose than I.) I'm at the gym no less than three times a week, between early mornings, weekends and lunchtime sessions.
Lynn's new idea is to see if we can try to fit into our wedding tux and gown. Actually, since I had the tux let out a few years ago, it would probably have to go back to the tailor first to make it a fair challenge.
And the kids? Well, they've been less enthusiastic, and we've been a little disappointed about that. But now I realize that the past few months haven't really been about changing the way they think about their health; it's been about changing the way we think about their health. And, in fact, we have made changes. We're offering fewer sweets, smaller starch portions, and more reasonable snacks. And we've made sure they're always enrolled in a sports or gym class, which was less of a priority a year ago.
Natalie, 8, tried soccer last spring but didn't embrace it. So we've doubled down on gymnastics and she's thriving in her twice-weekly class. Benjamin, 10, had gotten used to idle winters between fall and spring Little League, so we signed him up for a winter basketball clinic, which he's grateful for (and that's saying something, because, being 10, he's not outwardly grateful for much of anything). And Adam, 4, loves his weekly afternoon sports class at the Jewish Community Center in Manhattan so much, we just signed him up for the spring.
Lynn and I also hope that we're better role models than we were a year ago. They see us being more conscious now about what we eat and what we serve. They see us making a commitment to keeping ourselves active and keeping them active. We try to make it fun -- for example, the kids like trying whatever new form of push-up my trainer, Victoria Gallagher of New York Sports Club, has introduced me to each week.
Most important, they see us working together to make our family fitter. Instead of hearing us argue over who's getting more time at the gym, they see us asking each other about our workouts and supporting each other as we alternate heading out the door early to exercise.
Everyone knows it's a good idea to marry up, and to marry someone who sees the world differently than you. After 11 years of marriage, I'm happy to report that's what I've done. And as proud as I am about losing all those pounds, I'm prouder of that.
Have a happy and healthy Valentine's Day, everyone.
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2-15-2011 @ 1:37PM
Vasu Murti said...The following points and facts are excerpted from Please Don't Eat the Animals (2007) by the mother-daughter writing team of Jennifer Horsman and Jaime Flowers:
"Nothing will benefit human health and increase chances for survival of life on earth as much as the evolution to a vegetarian diet."
---Albert Einstein
"Each year, the meat industrial complex abuses and butchers nearly 9 billion cows, pigs, sheep, turkeys, chickens, and other innocent, feeling animals just for the enjoyment of consumers.
"Each year, nearly 1.5 million of these consumers are crippled and killed prematurely by heart failure, cancer, stroke, and other chronic diseases that have been linked conclusively with the consumption of these animals.
"Each year, millions of other animals are abused and sacrificed in a vain search for a 'magic pill' that would vanquish these largely self-inflicted diseases."
---Alex Hershaft, PhD, president, Farm Animal Reform Movement
When analyzing 8,300 deaths in the United States, United Kingdom, and Germany among 76,000 men and women in five different, large studies, researchers concluded that vegetarians have a 24 percent reduction in death from heart disease.
Similarly, in the famous Oxford Vegetarian Study, where 6,000 vegetarians were compared with 5,000 meat-eaters over nearly two decades, scientists found that the rate of death from heart disease was 28 percent lower in vegetarians than in meat-eaters.
One study analyzed eighty scientific studies in leading medical journals. The analysis found that vegetarians had lower blood pressure, and were less likely to suffer from stroke, heart attack, and kidney failure.
A large German study of nearly 2,000 vegetarians found that deaths from heart disease were reduced by over one-third, and that heart disease itself was far less than that of the general population.
Another large study examined the coronary artery disease risk of young adults ages 18 to 30 and vegetarians were found to have much higher levels of cardiovascular fitness and a greatly reduced risk of heart disease.
"The process of gradual blocking of the coronary arteries begins not in adulthood but in childhood...and the main cause of this arteriosclerosis is the steadily increasing amount of fat in the American diet, particularly saturated animal fats such as those found in meat, chicken, milk and cheeses.
"If there was another disease that caused half a million deaths a year, you can be sure that the public would be acutely aware of the danger, and that the cure or prevention would be universally practiced."
---Dr. Benjamin Spock, author, child expert
"I don't understand why asking people to eat a well-balanced vegetarian diet is considered drastic, while it is medically conservative to cut people open and put them on powerful cholesterol-lowering drugs for the rest of their lives."
---Dr. Dean Ornish, author, Reversing Heart Disease
Stroke is the third leading cause of death behind heart disease and cancer. Vegetarians have a 20 to 30 percent reduced risk of having a stroke. Stroke, like heart disease, is associated with diets high in saturated fats, and the vegetarian diet is naturally low in these fats.
The Oxford Vegetarian Study found cancer mortality to be 39 percent lower among vegetarians when compared with meat-eaters. The European Prospective Investigation of Cancer found vegetarians suffer 40 percent fewer cancers than the general population.
Studies have shown that decreasing a woman's animal fat intake can reduce the chances that she will die from breast cancer. A large-scale, long-term study in the Netherlands found a powerful connection between the amount of animal fat consumed and the rate of prostate cancer. A review of a dozen studies found dietary fat strongly correlated with prostate cancer.
Ovarian, uterine, and endometrial cancers have all been shown to be strongly correlated to the amount of animal fat in one's diet, and vegetarian women have significantly lower rates of these cancers.
"The beef industry has contributed to more American deaths than all the wars of this century, all the natural disasters, and all automobile accidents combined."
---Dr. Neal Barnard, Executive Director, Physicians Committee for Responsible Medicine
"Vegetarians have the best diet. They have the lowest rate of coronary disease of any group in the country. They have a fraction of our heart attack rate and they have only 40 percent of our cancer rate."
---William Castelli, MD, Director, Framingham Heart Study
"Human beings are not natural carnivores. When we kill animals to eat them, they end up killing us because their flesh, which contains cholesterol and saturated fat, was never intended for human beings..."
---Dr. William Roberts, editor-in-chief, American Journal of Cardiology
Les Brown of the Overseas Development Council calculates that if Americans reduced their meat consumption by only ten percent per year, it would free at least twelve million tons of grain for human consumption--or enough to feed sixty million people.
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