Most Americans Believe Single Motherhood Is Bad for Society, Survey Finds
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Single mom? You're being judged. Credit: Corbis
Although there is a growing acceptance or tolerance of same-sex and unmarried couples raising children, most Americans still believe single motherhood is outright "bad for society," according to results of a survey released this week by the Pew Research Center's Social and Demographic Trends.
But despite the attitude toward single parents, census statistics show nuclear families today account for barely one in five U.S. households, while the National Center for Health Statistics reports nearly four in 10 births are to unmarried women, the Washington Post reports.
"People aren't embracing these changes, but they are accepting them," Rich Morin, a senior editor at the Pew Center and author of the report, tells the Post. "The days when people were made to wear a scarlet letter or were shunned after a divorce are ancient history."
The survey asked a nationally representative sample of 2,691 adults whether they considered the following seven trends in modern family structure to be good, bad or of no consequence to society:
- More unmarried couples raising children
- More gay and lesbian couples raising children
- More single women having children without a male partner to help raise them
- More people living together without marrying
- More mothers of young children working outside the home
- More people of different races marrying each other
- More women never having children
The most striking difference between the three groups occurs in their reported attitudes toward single motherhood. Virtually all of the skeptics (99 percent) say the trend is bad for society, while nearly 90 percent of accepters say the increase in single women having children has made no difference or is a good thing for society, according to the survey.
The difference between skeptics and accepters on their views of single motherhood is so great that the two groups would merge into one if that question were removed from the survey, the authors report.
Overall, the three groups of respondents are split as follows:
- One-half to two-thirds of the accepters say the seven trends make no difference to society; but, of the remainder, more say most of the trends are good, rather than bad. This group is most likely to include women, Hispanics, East Coast residents and adults who seldom or never attend religious services.
- The rejecters, a similarly-sized group, reject nearly every trend the accepters tolerate or approve of. A majority say five out of the seven changes are bad for society, accepting only interracial marriage and few women having children. They are also the only group in which a majority says it's harmful for mothers of young children to work outside the home. This group is overwhelmingly comprised of whites, older adults, Republicans, the religiously observant and married adults.
- The skeptics, a somewhat larger group, share most of the tolerant views of the accepters, but also express concern about how these trends impact society. However, nearly all of these respondents say single motherhood is bad for society -- vs. only 2 percent of accepters who feel this way. However, most say the six other trends make no difference or are good for society. This group is mostly comprised of young people, Democrats and political independents and minorities.
"Working mothers are acceptable to almost everybody," Cherlin says. "Two parents who are unmarried are tolerated or acceptable. But many people, including single parents themselves, question single-parent families. There's still a strong belief that children need two parents."
But Cherlin suggests that, for many Americans, this opinion is rooted in practical, not moral, concerns.
"They're concerned about the economic problems of single mothers, and the amount of effort it takes to be a good parent. People aren't anti-single mother as much as they are pro-two parents," he concludes.
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ReaderComments (Page 2 of 10)
2-17-2011 @ 3:04PM
Mrs. Ron said...They can disapprove all they want until their spouse either leaves them or dies. Not every single parent had the choice to be a single parent. My father died when I was 7 and my brother was 12 so my mom became a single mother. Society needs to realize that life is life and at any given time their perfect family can become what they despise the most.
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2-17-2011 @ 7:07PM
Melody said...well said
2-17-2011 @ 11:43PM
Tammy said...Amen, granted my folks divorced when I was 11 and then my father died when I was 12. I was raised by a strong single woman who raised me to be strong as well. It's not always the woman's choice to be single.
2-18-2011 @ 12:32AM
Florence Brooks said...There is a lot of difference between a single mother who was widowed, (probably has a job and had an employed spouse who leaves some amount of at least Social Security) and an empty headed tramp expecting, "the village" to foot the bill for the accidental byproducts of her partying.
2-17-2011 @ 3:06PM
Tray said...Most people living in America aren't even from America these days so who cares what they think?
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2-17-2011 @ 3:25PM
Charlie said...Given the overall mentallity of the country today when I look at any poll of Americans I just figure whatever the majority says is wrong.
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2-17-2011 @ 3:18PM
ADalton said...I agree overall with this study. The world would be better to an extent if children were raised in a secure and stable environent which is more likely to occur with two parents in the house. On the same note, there are single parents out there that are able to provide these things. Yes, the majority of single parents out there are women, but most of us try to do the best we can. One thing I DO NOT like about this article is that it seemingly gives a negative connotation to those "single moms". I am sure the majority, myself included, did not choose to be single parents, and we sure as hell didn't get pregnant on our own. Someone needs to write an article on the men of past and current generations, and the growing trend they have developed of having children and walking away from them.
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2-17-2011 @ 5:16PM
m5d7 said...Right on sister
2-17-2011 @ 5:42PM
J Lea said...Ha, my daughter was raised by her dad and me but she claims now she was raised in a dysfunctional setting, go figure. We took her to church, didn't drink or do drugs, stayed home instead of doing the social scene, her dad had a steady job while I stayed home and kept things running there. What difference did it make to her that we put our lives on hold to stay home and raise her and her brothers? Kids are never satisfied period, and I can tell you that society treated me with contempt simply because I dared bring my children along on shopping trips, instead of getting a babysitter and leaving them at home. So I think if you are a mother, society disapproves of your lifestyle whether you are single or not.
2-17-2011 @ 7:40PM
Cindy said...Amen.
2-17-2011 @ 3:19PM
Cindi said...I did not chose to be a single parent. My husband found someone with no brains and a lot of money and left - spent all her money and they are divorcing now. My son is an honor student - just took the ACT in the 7th grade and is eligible for scholarships to pay for additional classes in high school. Childrne of single parents may have to do more chores than others, but that's not necessarily a bad thing. Far better he's being raised by me than his father.
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2-17-2011 @ 3:29PM
Sher said...I raised four children by myself in LA County - they are the smartest, most decent, human beings I know on this planet.
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2-18-2011 @ 10:00AM
reds said...The problem is not that we aren't human and make mistakes in judgement. The problem is that some folks make the same mistakes over and over. Or is it a mistake? Pregnancy becomes a way of life with some women. They don't want a husband because they won't be ENTITLED to collect hundreds of dollars per child and they become breeders. And totally dependant on the tax payer to support their way of life. We as a people must have compassion on those souls that need our help, but not the ones who think they are entitled to a free ride. God bless the children.
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2-17-2011 @ 6:37PM
andrea said...I never comment on these AOL things, but I have to comment on this one.
I was raised in a two-parent home by my mom and dad. So was my husband. We were married two years before we had children. We are still married, 10 years later.
And I think this is nonsense. Not because I think single parenthood is dandy, but because -- seriously? Are we still that sexist?
Why is it Americans don't approve of single *mothers*? I'm pretty sure they didn't have children on their own, and it doesn't seem like many single *fathers* are getting custody of their children. So who is really failing our children? Here's a hint: It's usually not the moms.
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2-18-2011 @ 1:22AM
Dave said...There are many more fathers raising their kids by themselves than you would ever imagine! I am one of them, my daughter is 11 and has been with me since she was one. She is an honor student and very mature. Most men who are single parents do not go around telling everyone. There are many women today who have no problem leaving their children. Children need a rock in their life and hopefully I am this for my daughter.
2-17-2011 @ 3:31PM
Donna said...A comment says its not womans fault, that their a single parent. Actually, yes, it is their fault, unless their husband died. Any woman knows how to prevent being a single mother. They just choose not to take the actions to prevent it. Why some dont mind raising a child on their own is a mystery to me. I know they make more money from the state when they have more children, but is it worth it?
I couldnt have raised my boys by myself and be successful at it, with out my husbands help. Its hard raising law abiding citizens alone, that also have manners, and morals.
I dont know how people do it.
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2-17-2011 @ 5:07PM
Alicia said...How do you prevent your husband cheating on you? Walking out? You're being naive thinking that even the majority of single mothers are raising children alone for the welfare check.
2-17-2011 @ 10:14PM
Hooper said...Alicia - Or like me, have a husband who was an abusive drunk who had zero involvement in his childrens lives, except to scare them and make them miserable. I was a single mom for a while, then married a real man who raised my two children like they were his own and taught them how to be decent human beings. Sometimes it's the choice of the lesser evil that makes you a single parent and it is the best you can do for your children.
2-17-2011 @ 3:31PM
EdithAnn said...I think that the way the survey question is worded makes people automatically biased. It says: "More single women having children without a male partner to help raise them." I think it makes people think that all single mothers are women who consciously chose to go out and get pregnant with no intention of having a man involved in their child's life. The question is not worded well at all. It does not take into account the overwhelming numbers of single women parents who have been deserted by the children's father through divorce or other situations. I would venture to guess that this type of single WOMAN parent is far more numerous than women who deliberately choose to get pregnant and raise a child alone. The survey doesn't ask about single parent fathers. It should've asked "do you think it's reprehensible for a man to create a child with a woman and then walk away and leave it in poverty?" The results of this survery are inconclusive and should never have been published nor reported on.
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2-17-2011 @ 4:41PM
kaiser922 said...I do not think it is single parent families that are detrimental to society, I think people having children without having the proper home structure and stability needed to raise a family is the problem. Often times, this is the case with single parents.
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