Most Americans Believe Single Motherhood Is Bad for Society, Survey Finds
Filed under: In The News, Single Parenting
Single mom? You're being judged. Credit: Corbis
Although there is a growing acceptance or tolerance of same-sex and unmarried couples raising children, most Americans still believe single motherhood is outright "bad for society," according to results of a survey released this week by the Pew Research Center's Social and Demographic Trends.
But despite the attitude toward single parents, census statistics show nuclear families today account for barely one in five U.S. households, while the National Center for Health Statistics reports nearly four in 10 births are to unmarried women, the Washington Post reports.
"People aren't embracing these changes, but they are accepting them," Rich Morin, a senior editor at the Pew Center and author of the report, tells the Post. "The days when people were made to wear a scarlet letter or were shunned after a divorce are ancient history."
The survey asked a nationally representative sample of 2,691 adults whether they considered the following seven trends in modern family structure to be good, bad or of no consequence to society:
- More unmarried couples raising children
- More gay and lesbian couples raising children
- More single women having children without a male partner to help raise them
- More people living together without marrying
- More mothers of young children working outside the home
- More people of different races marrying each other
- More women never having children
The most striking difference between the three groups occurs in their reported attitudes toward single motherhood. Virtually all of the skeptics (99 percent) say the trend is bad for society, while nearly 90 percent of accepters say the increase in single women having children has made no difference or is a good thing for society, according to the survey.
The difference between skeptics and accepters on their views of single motherhood is so great that the two groups would merge into one if that question were removed from the survey, the authors report.
Overall, the three groups of respondents are split as follows:
- One-half to two-thirds of the accepters say the seven trends make no difference to society; but, of the remainder, more say most of the trends are good, rather than bad. This group is most likely to include women, Hispanics, East Coast residents and adults who seldom or never attend religious services.
- The rejecters, a similarly-sized group, reject nearly every trend the accepters tolerate or approve of. A majority say five out of the seven changes are bad for society, accepting only interracial marriage and few women having children. They are also the only group in which a majority says it's harmful for mothers of young children to work outside the home. This group is overwhelmingly comprised of whites, older adults, Republicans, the religiously observant and married adults.
- The skeptics, a somewhat larger group, share most of the tolerant views of the accepters, but also express concern about how these trends impact society. However, nearly all of these respondents say single motherhood is bad for society -- vs. only 2 percent of accepters who feel this way. However, most say the six other trends make no difference or are good for society. This group is mostly comprised of young people, Democrats and political independents and minorities.
"Working mothers are acceptable to almost everybody," Cherlin says. "Two parents who are unmarried are tolerated or acceptable. But many people, including single parents themselves, question single-parent families. There's still a strong belief that children need two parents."
But Cherlin suggests that, for many Americans, this opinion is rooted in practical, not moral, concerns.
"They're concerned about the economic problems of single mothers, and the amount of effort it takes to be a good parent. People aren't anti-single mother as much as they are pro-two parents," he concludes.











ReaderComments (Page 4 of 10)
2-18-2011 @ 7:03AM
pattiextexan said...Don't you believe that crappola!!!!!I am a widowed mother of six children. I never remarried after my husband died when our oldest was 7 our baby 10 months. I worked, and set the example for my children, but the best advice I can give any single mother is DON'T PAY ANY ATTENTION TO STATISTICS. They are a bunch of bologne!
Always be the strongest influence in your childrens lives and never be to tired to talk to them. My friend use to tell me my kids weren't going to be anything because it wasn't a father in the home. WELL my kids are now all grown, college educated (as one received their degree they came out got jobs to help me with the others ) Guess where her kids are...2 daughters 5 grandkids no husband, son can't keep a job. She raised them thinking they would suceed because they had DADDY at home. Don't you believe it!!!!!
Reply
2-17-2011 @ 4:40PM
Jane said...I am a single Mother , not by choice. My Daughter's Father passed away last year, she was only 14. I work full time, third shift ( more money) to provide for both of us. I do not depend on financial assistance. My Daughter ends up spending an awful lot of time by herself . I hate it, I hope someday she will understand.
Reply
2-17-2011 @ 4:43PM
Lainie said...I agree with all of you posters who have pointed out the fact that a large percentage of single mothers did not choose their state, but had it forced upon them by abandonment or death. Why in heaven's name are we disparaging the caring mothers instead of the absent fathers??? Also, there is one segment of single motherhood that hasn't been addressed: those who adopt abandoned children. Any rational human being should be able to agree that a child is much better off being raised by a single mother, than living his/her life in an orphanage, moving around the foster system, or living on the streets. These women are heroes, and there should be a separate Adoptive Mother's Day just for them.
Reply
2-17-2011 @ 4:41PM
kittyfriskywhiskers said...I am outraged by this. Once again, women are being thrown under the bus and having fingers pointed at them unfairly. What about the women who marry and have children, only to be walked out on by their husbands wanting someone else? What about the women who are widows? Would anyone have the same opinion of the wife of a serviceman killed in Iraq? Ideally, a child should have two parents (IMO), but circumstances don't always allow for that. Just because a child is raised by a single mother (or father) doesn't mean that they or the parents should be looked down upon. A family is what you make it, and I've seen children of married couples who fight constantly suffer a lot more than children of single parent households, sometimes. Throw this ridiculous "survey" out with the bathwater, because it has just about as much credibility. For shame at those looking down upon any struggling single parent, just because they're single.
Reply
2-17-2011 @ 4:42PM
Gail Lee said...So a lot of people in society don't approve of single mothers raising children alone? Does it occur to them that in many (certainly not all) cases, the mother has no say in whether or not she raises the child alone, because the father has vanished, opted out, or otherwise refused assistance? My daughter was 26 when she found out she was pregnant. Her boyfriend, a 30-year-old college-educated professional, told her to get rid of it or he was leaving and going where she would not be able to find him or collect child support. When she refused, he kept his word and vanished completely. My daughter has gone back to college to get a master's degree so she can teach at the university level and I am helping to raise my wonderful three-year-old grandson. She's a single parent. How many would prefer it if she'd taken her boyfriend's suggestion? Then she wouldn't be a single parent, would she?
Reply
2-17-2011 @ 4:44PM
Stacey said...I wouldn't have been a single mother raising my 3 children alone if I hadn't married a MALE ALCOHOLIC who chose to drink and drive and land in prison for his behavior, Responsible males are few and far between.
Reply
2-17-2011 @ 4:44PM
Kirk Foley said...lshinoha, you are one of the heros of this society, and "disapproval" of your role as a single mom is thoughtless. Thank you for this post - my respect for your devotion to your boys is boundless, and that devotion will lead to well-adjusted adults who will forever hold you first in their lives.
Reply
2-17-2011 @ 4:45PM
Steven R. Russell said...The idea that our self-worth depends on what others think about us, and on how well we perform, are 2 of the Devil's greatest lies.
The only thing that determines our self-worth is what God thinks about us.
Reply
2-17-2011 @ 4:50PM
Brian said...I love how its ALWAYS about the single moms?? I know its hard to believe but there are alot of us Single Dads raising kids on our own as well but you dont ever hear or read that and im pretty dam tired of women being put on a pedestal and praised for it, making Dads sound lke nothing more than sprem donors.
I know that may very well be the case in MANY situations but not all women are great mothers and some are nothing more than Baby holders like my ex.
Reply
2-17-2011 @ 5:08PM
really said...The reason most of these women have children while "single" is because if they get married they will not get government benefits and tax "refunds". I know many people who live this lifestyle. They have significant others but choose not to get married because they would lose their food stamps, medical, tax money, welfare...should I go on. Also, most have jobs under the table because we all know that no one could live off welfare and raise children. The government does nothing because it would cost them votes. Our society is going down hill fast!
Reply
2-17-2011 @ 5:16PM
Nunyah said...My father and his sister reared six siblings in the Jim Crow south, after my grandparents died in the 1940s. I reared six children as a single African American father in the 1990s and 2ks. These narrow minded, small world view people need to open their eyes, hearts, and minds, in order reach a real world view.
Reply
2-17-2011 @ 5:07PM
geddy37 said...Why is it hard for some people to understand that it's a good idea for a child to have both a male and female parent?
Reply
2-17-2011 @ 5:28PM
Alicia said...Because most of us have anecdotal and sociological evidence that as long as children are cared for, supported and provided for, the number and gender of parents is irrelevant.
2-17-2011 @ 5:09PM
really said...I see alot of responses on here claiming to raise their children "on their own". I want to know if that raising your children on your own included taxpayer funded benefits? Then no, you didn't raise your children on your own. I helped and I have 3 children to raise with my husband that both of us can barely afford because of all the "single" parents out there jacking up our taxes. The only people it seems that can afford braces, summer camp, having children, and feed their children are the ones having the taxpayers doing it because those of us paying for it out of our pockets can't afford it. I knew a single mom who always had the latest phones, nails and hair done, her kids were in the best camps, she had free health club memberships, a nice new van, always eating out at restaurants, and on and on. We are professionals and we couldn't afford any of this. It's got to stop!
Reply
2-17-2011 @ 7:54PM
Michelle said...Yes I happen to be a single mom completely raising my son on my own. No financial help from the tax payers, because I was raised better. Yes I am divorced, but I am raising my child on my own without financial support from family, community, or tax payers. So please don't look down on all single moms. Yes I am the exception to the rule, but we are out here, and because I do budget and watch what i spend my money on my son wants for nothing that he needs. Does he get an Xbox or PS3 No, but then again I would much rather my son be playing outside than stuck in front of a gaming system. We don't have everything he wants but he does have everything he NEEDS
2-17-2011 @ 5:12PM
jr said...Stop blaming the single mothers and start looking at the fathers who have abandoned them or were so intolerable that the mother had to leave them. Oh, and let's not forget about the dads who died. Maybe we should blame them too while we're at it. Let's face it, **it happens. Not everybody gets to grow up with the Cleavers as their parents. Oh wait, even that didn't happen. That was fiction. So there. No such thing as the perfect, two-parent nuclear family.
Reply
2-17-2011 @ 5:19PM
lee said...my mother raised 4 of us, all contributing members of society. Had she stayed with my drunken father, who knows where we would be today... of couse this BS article says that she should have...
Reply
2-18-2011 @ 11:14AM
San.D.eggo said...Why did your mom pick such a poor father figure for her children?
2-17-2011 @ 5:20PM
lee said...good, then we can stop supprting all those "baby mama's" on welfare!
Reply
2-17-2011 @ 6:35PM
heath said...It is not fair to say that men just get women pregnant and walk away. I was given the chance to walk away, no strings attached, but I stayed and helped raise my twins. I am now single because my wife decided she loved achohal more than her children or me, and committed suicide.
Reply