Most Americans Believe Single Motherhood Is Bad for Society, Survey Finds
Filed under: In The News, Single Parenting
Single mom? You're being judged. Credit: Corbis
Although there is a growing acceptance or tolerance of same-sex and unmarried couples raising children, most Americans still believe single motherhood is outright "bad for society," according to results of a survey released this week by the Pew Research Center's Social and Demographic Trends.
But despite the attitude toward single parents, census statistics show nuclear families today account for barely one in five U.S. households, while the National Center for Health Statistics reports nearly four in 10 births are to unmarried women, the Washington Post reports.
"People aren't embracing these changes, but they are accepting them," Rich Morin, a senior editor at the Pew Center and author of the report, tells the Post. "The days when people were made to wear a scarlet letter or were shunned after a divorce are ancient history."
The survey asked a nationally representative sample of 2,691 adults whether they considered the following seven trends in modern family structure to be good, bad or of no consequence to society:
- More unmarried couples raising children
- More gay and lesbian couples raising children
- More single women having children without a male partner to help raise them
- More people living together without marrying
- More mothers of young children working outside the home
- More people of different races marrying each other
- More women never having children
The most striking difference between the three groups occurs in their reported attitudes toward single motherhood. Virtually all of the skeptics (99 percent) say the trend is bad for society, while nearly 90 percent of accepters say the increase in single women having children has made no difference or is a good thing for society, according to the survey.
The difference between skeptics and accepters on their views of single motherhood is so great that the two groups would merge into one if that question were removed from the survey, the authors report.
Overall, the three groups of respondents are split as follows:
- One-half to two-thirds of the accepters say the seven trends make no difference to society; but, of the remainder, more say most of the trends are good, rather than bad. This group is most likely to include women, Hispanics, East Coast residents and adults who seldom or never attend religious services.
- The rejecters, a similarly-sized group, reject nearly every trend the accepters tolerate or approve of. A majority say five out of the seven changes are bad for society, accepting only interracial marriage and few women having children. They are also the only group in which a majority says it's harmful for mothers of young children to work outside the home. This group is overwhelmingly comprised of whites, older adults, Republicans, the religiously observant and married adults.
- The skeptics, a somewhat larger group, share most of the tolerant views of the accepters, but also express concern about how these trends impact society. However, nearly all of these respondents say single motherhood is bad for society -- vs. only 2 percent of accepters who feel this way. However, most say the six other trends make no difference or are good for society. This group is mostly comprised of young people, Democrats and political independents and minorities.
"Working mothers are acceptable to almost everybody," Cherlin says. "Two parents who are unmarried are tolerated or acceptable. But many people, including single parents themselves, question single-parent families. There's still a strong belief that children need two parents."
But Cherlin suggests that, for many Americans, this opinion is rooted in practical, not moral, concerns.
"They're concerned about the economic problems of single mothers, and the amount of effort it takes to be a good parent. People aren't anti-single mother as much as they are pro-two parents," he concludes.











ReaderComments (Page 7 of 10)
2-17-2011 @ 8:25PM
Erinn said...So in other words you people would rather have an abusive parent in the picture.Instaed of a single loving one.Well I don't think people get married and have kids and exspect most of the time that a spouse will become abusive,or cheat,or both.You may be saying to yourself well then forgive,that is much harder said than done,and yes somtimes they forgive,and sometimes it works.But there are too many times it does not.I say to those that are in a unloving or abusive marriage or both then get the hell out and take your children with you.Do not worry about what the rest of the world thinks,they do not live your everyday misseries.I say hooray to the brave souls who leave such things.And to those who stay and forgive,you must make sure that is is better ot their is no point.Kids have to know and understand that you are to be respected by you telling them and they see how others treat you as well.So if the other half is not doing that then,they tend to follow suit.If they see that you respect yourself,and you demand such things,and give such things they will do such things.Remeber love conqers all!
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2-17-2011 @ 8:20PM
lrusch2 said...PS....and I wanted to add that I would rather see a single mom raise her kids properly than stay in a bad marriage. Kids need stability and love and if only one parent can give that- so be it. I am a single mom. After years of trying to make things work, I realized I could do it better myself. And my kid thanks me for it.
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2-17-2011 @ 8:28PM
barbara said...where are the boys who donated this sperm to make her a "single" mother. Where are the men? where.??? this is a patricarical world, unfortunately, and we allow men to not be SPEM ACCOUNTABLE! zip it guys if you think single mother's are bringing us down. phoey! what a bunch of you know what!
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2-17-2011 @ 9:50PM
Maggie said...Barbara, and you women NEED TO KEEP YOUR LEGS CROSSED!
2-17-2011 @ 8:32PM
marguerite said...Hello world,
You know women do not get pregnant all by themself. Imagine if men got pregnant instead of women. I am a single mom, the man I was dating promised me the world and to be a good dad but the old switch the bait when I informed him I was pregnant and told to have an abortion so I did but instead of the baby it was him that got aborted out of my life till our child was alive and well. Men are just in it for the sex they are so weak and selfcentered these days,,,maybe I'll turn gay and find my true love...atleast i won't end up pregnant..single moms rule, we have bravery and a backbone to do the right thing
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2-18-2011 @ 11:27AM
San.D.eggo said...Take responsibility for your lack of good judgement, whether it is getting pregnant out of wedlock or your choice of men....
2-17-2011 @ 8:56PM
Jason said...This is stupid. Plenty of good kids come from single parent families. So ask yourself this, how many of the men and women that fight for and protect our country came from a single parent family. If they are good enough to help you sleep sound at night then someone did something right.
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2-17-2011 @ 9:00PM
Lauren said...Look this is bad journalism, and an example of how polling can mis-represent the actual ideas the public has on the public. The last few sentences of the article sum it up completely: But Cherlin suggests that, for many Americans, this opinion is rooted in practical, not moral, concerns.
"They're concerned about the economic problems of single mothers, and the amount of effort it takes to be a good parent. People aren't anti-single mother as much as they are pro-two parents," he concludes.
But none of the choices on the poll reflect those ideas, so instead people are forced to pick whatever they think might be closest to their ideas for whatever reason. So instead of being able to pick "a single parent has a much harder job, and may not be as economically secure as a two-person household" they have to pick "single parent homes are bad for society" b/c they disagree with it less than they do the other two. It's crap, from people clearly trying to advance an agenda.
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2-17-2011 @ 9:19PM
Moses said...Got divorced when my kids were 7 and 9. Sorry but they were way better off without their dad
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2-17-2011 @ 9:20PM
Bonnie said...I think it's absolutely shameful to be so judgemental against single mothers. Single parents have the hardest job in the world because they not only have to be Mom but Dad too. Obviously, these people have never walked in there shoes of a single parent. However, instead of lumping everyone into one category there are several different kinds of single parents.
1- Widows- They didn't have a choice. I am sure some are a product of losing a spouse and they would give anything to have their spouse there.
2-Divorcees- They most likely divorce either because of abuse- mental, verbal, or physical or because one spouse is to busy building another life with someone else. Even if the parents divorce, usually a single parent becomes the parent and the other doesn't bother- lack of responsibility- to be a part of their child's life.
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3-Irresponsible teens & adults who were never taught better.
This category are the ones most responsible for babies, families, generations continuing to be on welfare. Teen & adult fathers who walk away from there responsiblilties.
The sad thing is....This is a product of the sad society we've become. A generation or two ago, children were taught that there are consequences for their actions. You must be a stand up person and take responsibility for your choices and mistakes. I am only 38. so I am not that old. I think it's shameful that children are left to raise themselves, selfish parents forgot that (you don't matter as much) once you have a child and having a child is the most important job anyone will ever have because you are creating the next generation.
I was a single Mom after my first marriage crumbled under verbal and mental abuse and eventhough my ex loved his children, it would have been extremely damaging to stay in that situation so they could have both parents. My ex choose to step away and not be as involved but when he was really needed he stepped up and was there for his kids. My current husband is not only a good father but a good step-father and I was one of the lucky ones, to find someone who loved my kids from my first marriage as much as our own kids. Looking back it was the hardest 5 years of my life but the most rewarding. My children are more competent to take care of themselves and make their futures happen for them instead of the "entitled generation" who believe that everything should be handed to them. I have raised all my kids the same and think people in our society are so judgemental of others when they should really be looking at themselves.
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2-17-2011 @ 9:23PM
diana said...Most kids of single parents end up in jail. The mom is immoral to begin with so of course the kids are also. Don't be truthaphobic about facts. Wait to have sex when you are married. Married people have more money, are happier and live longer.
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2-17-2011 @ 9:29PM
diana said...If you die in even ONE sin of having sex outside of marriage unforgiven you will go to hell. And abortion is first degree murder.
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2-17-2011 @ 9:46PM
tphil88809 said...Such a sweet lady. I'm sure JC doesn't appreciate you being hateful and judgmental in his name. I recommend re-reading the scripture about "trumpeting before man".
2-17-2011 @ 11:42PM
GrandmaMimi said...Wow, Diana, thank the good and loving Lord that YOU are not God and you don't speak for God.
2-17-2011 @ 9:31PM
Pam Kwaczala said...I am a single mother...have been since day one. I have raised a wonderful daughter on my own. She has never been in trouble with the law, started working at the age of 17 and went to and graduated college, while she was working, and has managed to graduated high school and college with honors! Meanwhile my nieces and nephews who had both parents in their life haven't done so well.My daughter is proof you can be quite wonderful with only a mom raising you.
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2-17-2011 @ 9:40PM
Maggie said...Irsch - you are so right. People who want to be sexually active need to be more responsible. With all the different forms of birth control out there, their is no need for oops! I'm pregnant! A lot of women choose to get pregnant because it's easy money and they're too lazy to work.
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2-18-2011 @ 1:54AM
amanda said...Maggie, You have NO clue what you are talking about! Single mothers actually DO work. I was a WORKING single mother for 11 years while the children's father chose to do drugs, be involved in criminal activites and do time in prison. I CHOSE not to be with him and CHOSE to be a single mother because I did NOT want that kind of influence in my children's life. And by the way, BOTH of my children are on the honor, and the oldest is involved in many school activities including ASB/Leadership and both receive many awards from school. Their FINALLY got his head out of his butt and we were married 3 years ago. He now supports the family while I go to college. Women do not have children because they want to be single parents and are lazy. You sound totally and completely ignorant to me!
2-18-2011 @ 3:28AM
Lily Mai said...I'm not going to judge you but if it's easy money and your lazy to work? how are you going to take care your unborn child if your lazy to work? Babies don't come with gifts or money even if your on welfare or something they'll have you follow all their rules in order to comply and when your run out of money your gonna complain and would want to work.
2-17-2011 @ 9:42PM
tphil88809 said...Wow. Is this 1950?
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2-17-2011 @ 9:49PM
LSF said...Although this article doesn't make it clear, I think people disapprove of women who have children while unmarried. I'd bet these people also disapprove of abortion, not leaving women with many choices. That's why it's so important that women make their own choices concerning when to have children, because if men, judges, congress or the general public made that choice for them this world would be an even bigger mess than it is. At least moms arent dumping their kids at orphanages (that option has been long gone) or abandoning them - like their fathers did. And of course the article reverses itself from scintillating headline by the end of the piece (and by the way, I don't give a damn what the "public" thinks of my being a single mother - it wasn't a "lifestyle choice" and I was married to my daughter's father and reluctantly divorced).
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