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Enough With the Breast-feeding Wars!
Filed under: Breast-Feeding, Opinions
And we think men are obsessed with breasts? Geez, can we possibly call a time-out on the mom vs. mom breast-feeding wars?
The latest skirmish erupted recently when Michelle Obama said she wants to promote breast-feeding, particularly among African Americans, even as the IRS announced it will now give a tax break on breast pumps.
To which Michelle Bachmann said that this just shows the left thinks "government is the answer to everything," while Sarah Palin said that of course Mrs. O says you "better" breast-feed your baby -- "because the price of milk is so high."
Yap, yap, yap. You know what is truly optimal, when it comes to feeding your baby?
Whatever works best for you.
It's a measure of how crazed we have become on this topic that just saying, "It's not such a big deal!" is a big deal. Our culture is hung up on mama's milk, and the undercurrent is: Why should anyone consider what is best for the mom when the baby's whole future is at stake?
I'll tell you why. Because a baby's whole future is not at stake. That's the conclusion I came to after reading the new book, "Is Breast Best?" by Joan B. Wolf.
As Wolf points out, we are treating "Breast vs. Formula" as though it were "Safety vs. Danger" -- even though we know that millions of American babies have been brought up on formula and are doing just fine.
Are they doing as outstandingly fine as they could be if only they'd been breast-fed from day one through day 365? Pretty much, yes.
Wolf knows that this is heresy, but after poring over countless studies, she realized that, aside from a measurably lower risk of GI infections, the differences between breast- and formula-fed babies could not definitively be traced back to what those kids were drinking. It's quite possible that the breast-fed babies enjoyed some advantages simply by being parented by health-conscious moms.
Moreover, the advantages were not so overwhelming that they trumped a mother's desire to not breast-feed. If we are set on giving our kids every single advantage, "no matter how high the cost to the mother or how marginal the risk to the baby," Wolf points out, then why don't we tell the families of newborns to move out of the city? After all, clean air is better for the baby, too.
Her point is that we face decisions on an almost daily basis about what is best for our kids. Some things that sound good we do, some we don't, and that's okay. Life is never perfect. We cannot prevent (or even predict) all risks down the road.
Our culture makes it sound as if accepting even a tiny risk is evil, but it's not. It's life. Let's quit beating our breasts -- and everyone else's -- about it.
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The latest skirmish erupted recently when Michelle Obama said she wants to promote breast-feeding, particularly among African Americans, even as the IRS announced it will now give a tax break on breast pumps.
To which Michelle Bachmann said that this just shows the left thinks "government is the answer to everything," while Sarah Palin said that of course Mrs. O says you "better" breast-feed your baby -- "because the price of milk is so high."
Yap, yap, yap. You know what is truly optimal, when it comes to feeding your baby?
Whatever works best for you.
It's a measure of how crazed we have become on this topic that just saying, "It's not such a big deal!" is a big deal. Our culture is hung up on mama's milk, and the undercurrent is: Why should anyone consider what is best for the mom when the baby's whole future is at stake?
I'll tell you why. Because a baby's whole future is not at stake. That's the conclusion I came to after reading the new book, "Is Breast Best?" by Joan B. Wolf.
As Wolf points out, we are treating "Breast vs. Formula" as though it were "Safety vs. Danger" -- even though we know that millions of American babies have been brought up on formula and are doing just fine.
Are they doing as outstandingly fine as they could be if only they'd been breast-fed from day one through day 365? Pretty much, yes.
Wolf knows that this is heresy, but after poring over countless studies, she realized that, aside from a measurably lower risk of GI infections, the differences between breast- and formula-fed babies could not definitively be traced back to what those kids were drinking. It's quite possible that the breast-fed babies enjoyed some advantages simply by being parented by health-conscious moms.
Moreover, the advantages were not so overwhelming that they trumped a mother's desire to not breast-feed. If we are set on giving our kids every single advantage, "no matter how high the cost to the mother or how marginal the risk to the baby," Wolf points out, then why don't we tell the families of newborns to move out of the city? After all, clean air is better for the baby, too.
Her point is that we face decisions on an almost daily basis about what is best for our kids. Some things that sound good we do, some we don't, and that's okay. Life is never perfect. We cannot prevent (or even predict) all risks down the road.
Our culture makes it sound as if accepting even a tiny risk is evil, but it's not. It's life. Let's quit beating our breasts -- and everyone else's -- about it.
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ReaderComments (Page 1 of 2)
2-22-2011 @ 11:29AM
Betsy Shaw said...Yap, yap yap indeed. As a formula-fed, strawberry- Quik -drinking, Lucky Charms -addicted, Beefaroni-eating, former Olympic athlete, all I can say is, what doesn't kill us really might make us stronger. My mom loved me. I'm still thriving on that.
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2-22-2011 @ 12:46PM
Alicia said...Thank you! Some bloody common sense on the issue!
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2-22-2011 @ 1:16PM
dougalcandy said...Finally some common sense! How to raise your children should ALWAYS be the parents decision and the parents decision alone!
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2-22-2011 @ 2:07PM
Bridget said...Exactly! I was a formula-fed baby born in the 70's, and here I am a healthy, slim, intelligent, well-educated member of society. My mom worked full time too, and was a single parent. It's love and the quality of parenting that really matter.
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2-22-2011 @ 5:03PM
Leanne said...Lenore, I have to disagree here. "Whatever works best for you" is a message of privilege that is perfectly fine for middle class white chicks who make the risks/benefits assessment and then move on, but when talking about the black community in the US and Canada or impoverished women with lower levels of education. In those socio-demographics breastfeeding initiation rates plummet beside smart white chicks.
Could you do me a favour? Instead of pooh-poohing the efforts to promote normal feeding behaviours for our infants (who don't get to make the choice), could we work together to make sure EVERYONE knows their options and everyone knows how to do it and everyone has access to support and information instead of feeding into the agenda of big pharma.
Let's help poor women and women of colour make choices that have positive financial and health outcomes for their families instead of participating in ridiculous partisan squabbles.
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2-22-2011 @ 7:54PM
Alicia said...No one is saying deny impoverished mothers access to information. Lenore, I believe, if trying to say that we need to stop shaming mothers that choose formula or shaming women who breastfeed.
2-23-2011 @ 2:21PM
Alice said...Leanne makes a good point.
Right now the gov't promotes formula to poor women through the WIC program and promotes breast feeding to middle class and rich women by allowing a tax deduction for breast pumps.
I have no problem with any woman's choice on this matter--but choices are affected by available info and economic restrictions.
After you have been spending $75-$100 per month on formula for 2 to 3 months and are looking at another year of it, it is a bit late to decide to breastfeed.
2-23-2011 @ 8:11PM
Meg said...I don't know if I'm responding to this thread in the right order, but it's not at all my experience that WIC promotes formula. You can get it if you need it, but what's wrong with that? They shouldn't provide it? There are many reasons lower income women have lower breastfeeding rates, but I really don't think one of the most successful government programs ever providing nutritious food to women and children has anything to do with it. It may be anecdotal, but every woman I know who gets WIC is an exclusive breastfeeder.
2-25-2011 @ 4:39PM
Skyfire said...I am poor, on WIC and exclusively breastfeeding. My family was on welfare when I was a child, though it isn't now. I live with my mom and I don't work outside of the home. I'm also white and have a college education, and have done a lot of research. My older daughter was formula fed, is at a healthy weight and though she's in fourth grade, she reads at a high school level. Though I'm only one person and anecdotal evidence is not good science, it seems to me that education and parental involvement have a lot more to do with good outcomes than really anything else.
2-23-2011 @ 9:29AM
Kitty said...Be careful to find out who is behind the studies before believing their conclusions.
My brother and I probably would not have Multiple Sclerosis if we had been breastfed back in the 1960's. Research has shown that breastfed babies are not as likely to develop MS and the longer a child is breastfed the less likely they are to develop MS. The Central Nervous System myelin sheathing is not completely developed until 2 or 3 years of age. Formulas then and even now do not contain the important amino acids and fats that are important for optimal development of the brain and eyes. The World Health Organization as well as the AAP, the AAFP, the Academy of Breastfeeding Medicine, and others recommend all children should be breastfed for AT LEAST 2 years - this actually does include up to or beyond 36 months by the way.
While I do not like the Mommy Wars, I feel mothers need to realize the consequences for their decision to formula feed might not be realized until many years after the fact. Many mothers formula fed years ago because they were lied to about how to breastfeed as well as the quality and quantity of their breast milk by doctors who received no education about breastfeeding in medical school or residency but plenty of education about formula from formula companies.
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2-23-2011 @ 7:49PM
Aleah said...Really? Cite your source. According to "research" you should also have numerous ear infections, asthma, allergies, be cognitively deficient, and obese too. You would have had MS whether you were breast or formula fed. The "research" on that subject only SUGGESTS that mothers who have MS may not have as many exacerbations while they breast feed - not that being formula fed caused you to develop the disease.
2-23-2011 @ 9:16PM
kittymom said...You are siting the research release a couple years ago from Stanford. Actually, Eloise Gulick's research spotlighted the benefits of breastfeeding for the mother a few years ago and was nice enough to share her articles with me, but there are studies which show that breastfeeding does help to keep children from developing MS.
You need to look at the overall probability of development of a given illness. As I said the probability is more on the side that I would not have developed MS had I been breastfed. I firmly believe that breast milk is what is meant to be fed to our babies and young children by millions of years of evolution if you believe that or was designed by God if you believe that. Our lifestyles today have nothing to do with this fact. I am certainly not saying it is the only factor whether an individual develops a certain disease or not, but the absence of it or a short duration - less than what is expected of our species certainly can be a contributing factor.
Here is one of the studies:
i. Multiple Sclerosis
Although thought to be multifactorial in origin, and without a clearly defined etiology, lack of breastfeeding does appear to be associated with an increased incidence of multiple sclerosis.
Source: Dick, G. "The Etiology of Multiple Sclerosis. " Proc Roy Soc Med 1976;69:611-5.
Another study also looks not only at lack of breastfeeding, duration of breastfeeding, but also at the possibility that there could be a connection in the immunities:
Breast feeding and multiple sclerosis
1. A Pisacane,
2. N Impagliazzo,
3. M Russon,
4. R Valiani,
5. A Mandarini,
6. C Florio,
7. P Vivo
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1.
Departmento di Pediatria Universitia di Napoli Federico II, Via Pansini 5, 80131 Naples, Italy.
2.
Divisione di Neurologia Ospedale Antonio Cardarelli, Napoli e Associazione Italiana Sclerosi Multipla, Naples, Italy.
* Accepted 17 December 1993
Several studies indicate that multiple sclerosis might be a rare result of delayed exposure to a common infectious agent,1 but some authors have suggested a “geographical predisposing factor” that could be associated with the diet in industrialised countries.2 We investigated the association between multiple sclerosis and breast feeding in a case-control study.
Patients, methods, and results
Cases and controls were selected from the patients attending the neurological outpatient department of Cardarelli General Hospital, Naples, where neurologists from the Italian association for multiple sclerosis follow up about 300 patients with this disease. Cases were all the patients observed between 1 March and 31 May 1993 who had a definite diagnosis of multiple sclerosis according to the criteria of Poser et al.3 Controls were the first patients observed in the same department during the same period who matched the cases in terms of age (plus or minus five years) and sex. Patients who declined to be interviewed or could not provide reliable information about their feeding during infancy were excluded.
The groups were contacted by two interviewers, who were blind to the objectives of the study and interviewed the same number of patients from each group. Whenever possible the mothers of the patients were interviewed, otherwise the patients provided the information, usually quoting their mothers. Relative risk was calculated by odds ratios with confidence intervals by Cornfield's method. Confounding and effect modification were investigated by stratified analysis. Ninety three cases and 93 controls were enrolled in the study. The diagnoses of controls were back pain and sciatic nerve injury (56), hemicrania (19), polyneuropathies (15), and other (four). The information was provided by the mothers for 56 (60%) cases and 54 (58%) controls.
The table shows characteristics of the groups. The mean (SD) duration of breast feeding was 8.4 (6.9) months for cases and 12.5 (7.5) months for controls (t=-3.9, df=184, P=0.001). The distribution of feeding was the same whether data were provided by the mothers or by the patients. Stratified analysis showed that no factor among those we analysed (birth weight, type of delivery, social class, sex, age group, number of other children in the household) confounded or modified the association between feeding and illness.
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Our data indicate that patients with multiple sclerosis were less likely than controls to have been breast fed for a prolonged period of time. Selection bias is unlikely because cases and controls were contacted in the same department and their mothers were all contacted by telephone by the same interviewers. The validity of information on feeding may be a limit of our methods, but there is no reason to suspect a differential recall between cases and controls.
There are several reasons why prolonged breast feeding may be associated with a decreased risk of multiple sclerosis. Cow's milk contains lower amounts of unsaturated fatty acids, and a different composition of cortex grey matter has been described in bottle fed infants.4 This fact could be associated by means of the formation of defective membranes with easier entry of an infective agent across the blood-brain barrier or with accelerated degradation of myelin itself.2 Human milk might actively influence the immune system of the offspring by different mechanisms,5 and some features of the immune response among those who have been breast fed for a prolonged period may last for a long time. Alternatively, prolonged breast feeding may be a marker of some unknown socioeconomic characteristic that could be associated with a low risk of illness. The prevalence of prolonged breast feeding in industrialised countries is currently much lower compared with the time when our patients were born. Should our data be confirmed another point would be added to the long list of the benefits of prolonged breast feeding.
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I encourage you to do an internet search if you are more interested in the topic. Thank you for your question.
Kitty
2-23-2011 @ 12:09PM
Floyd said...I was adopted at 5 months and always had formula until when ever.
I'm nearly 69 and going strong!
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2-24-2011 @ 1:26PM
KJB said...I think you've missed the point a bit. It's well documented that non-white mothers do not even consider breast feeding, and go straight for formula. Ms. Obama's comments are geared for those folks, trying to draw attention to the fact that it is even an option. Given the relatively high price of formula, breastfeeding may be a good option for them. I have not heard Obama say it is far superior, and must be done at all costs; while others have said that, I do not think she is being that pushy.
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2-23-2011 @ 12:29PM
Nadine said...I don't understand why we feel the need to try and control others actions so much. I do it myself and am amazed at my level of ignorance and intolerance. And it's not like I am coming from a place of love and compassion, I want to be right! But, I am seeing another way now, the more I look into my own flaws and areas to improve upon. I think it is important to give people the space to make their own decisions, their own mistakes and live as they chose. It is called free-will. We are all doing the best we can with what we know. Everyday we look more. I want to focus on the good, the bad has given me a headache for far too long.
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2-23-2011 @ 2:04PM
justanotherjen said...It's nice to hear people actually express this opinion. It's almost social suicide (at least on the internet) any more. Try being a woman that CHOSE to formula feed her kids with no intention of ever really breastfeeding. It's like telling people you let your kids smoke crack and feed them nothing but cheetos. Geesh. It's formula. Millions of babies have thrived on it for the better part of the last century. I have 5 of them and they are the healthiest kids I have ever met. They rarely ever get sick and it's almost never more than a cold that lasts a few days (runny nose, cough, slight sore throat). They haven't missed a day of school this year. Out of 5 kids (oldest is almost 11) we've had 1 ear infection. Just 1 and that was the oldest when she was 9 and it was technically swimmer's ear. And just 1 case of the flu between them. That was my son just after he turned 8 (I was sick for 3 weeks with it, he had it for 5 days and was better...did miss trick or treating, though).
Most of the kids I know that were breastfed (in real life and online) are constantly sick. I also know some that are very healthy and I know formula fed kids that are sick all the time, too. I don't see how what you are fed the first 12 months makes any difference for the other... what, 900+ months.
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2-23-2011 @ 2:09PM
Bettina at Best for Babes said...Lenore, everyone agrees that moms shouldn't be shamed. The problem is that moms are being prevented from making informed decisions and achieving their personal goals, whether those are to breastfeed for 2 days, 2 years or not at all. I would love to see you use your voice to raise awareness of the barriers to breastfeeding--I will bet you that once those barriers are removed, there won't be any more Mommy Wars.
As to Joan Wolf, it appears that neither she nor you have studied evolution, natural selection or epigenetics. The human species is resilient and has evolved to withstand periods of sub-optimal nutrition; but the full effects of generations of formula-feeding and unnecessary birth interventions are starting to show in epidemic rises in preventable diseases, and there is speculation in the scientific community that the formula-fed offspring--even grandchildren--of formula-fed children (including the "perfectly healthy, Olympic athlete" types) are at greatest risk.
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2-23-2011 @ 3:17PM
Alicia said...All women should have easy access to information to make the choices she feels are best for her: I'll agree with that. But if you think mothers aren't shamed for choosing to formula, you're either in denial or living under a rock. Anytime a mother on the internet mentions having chosen formula for her children, she's treated as a bad mother.
As for the rise in preventable disease, I call bullshit. Instead of blaming that on formula, try looking at things like the anti-vaccine movement and a decrease in preventive healthcare for underprivileged children. You might also want to take a peak into resistant bacteria: the longer and more often we use antibiotics, the fast bacteria evolve to become resistant to them and thus become more dangerous to us. There's also an increased use of hand sanitizer, which weakens our immune system because it kill the "good germs" on our skin, which protect us and causes the dangerous ones to become resistant. I bet those four factors have a lot more to do with a rise in preventable disease than formula feeding. The developmental advantages of breast milk end around 3 years of age when formula fed children catch up.
2-23-2011 @ 4:26PM
BestforBabes said...Alicia, I totally agree that formula feeding women are being shamed, and it is awful. At Best for Babes we have taken a ZERO tolerance position on any judging of moms. We are also doing more than any other non-profit to help mothers who can not breastfeed or choose not to.
I agree that there are many factors that influence health. But just as you would not deny the value of hugging your children on their emotional and physical health, you shouldn't deny the value of breastfeeding. Both are only part of healthy parenting, but I don't think breastfeeding efforts should be thwarted routinely any more than I think moms should be prevented from hugging and holding their babies.
2-24-2011 @ 12:05AM
debbyj said...Mothers should not be shamed about their decision to breast feed or not to breast fee. When my children where born they had jaundice and had to be under lights so I had to feed them formula to make sure they stayed hydrated. The lactation nurse came into our room and basically told me what a awful mother I was for letting the doctor force me into feeding my children formula.
I informed her that it was non of her business and that this was a decision for my childrens health not breast feeding or formula.
I also have a dear friend that wanted to breast feed but her milk would never come in, this happened in all of her pregnancies.
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