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Geez, it's like you can't even discipline your children anymore.
Forcing them to drink hot sauce in a cold shower, apparently, is not fashionable these days. Making them stand on a public street corner with a giant sign detailing their shame is supposedly embarrassing and humiliating.
And now you can't even abandon them at a police station with the hope the cops will scare the (bleep) out of them.
When will this sanity end? It could be a bleak year for the rack and thumbscrew industries.
Annette Gerhardt and Geraldo Santiago tell NBC News they were kidding when they told cops at the 120nd precinct in Staten Island, N.Y., that they wanted to give them their daughter.
It was more like a loan.
They wanted 6-year-old Enayla Santiago to think her mom and dad were abandoning her forever. Get it? It's all very psychological.
Mom reportedly played her role to the hilt.
"I can't take it anymore. She is uncontrollable," officers quote the script to NBC. "I'm going to leave her here. If you don't take her, I will take her to the firehouse."
But everyone's a critic. Police responded to Gerhardt's piece of performance art by charging both parents with endangering the welfare of a child.
Gerhardt tells NBC the police weren't following the plot.
"I never said I wanted to leave her there. Those words never came out of my mouth," she says.
Gerardo Santiago tells the network he and Gerhardt took their daughter to the station to tell her, "This is where bad boys and girls go." He adds that was Enayla's cue to scream, "Mommy! Mommy! I'll be good!"
"I don't see anything wrong with that," the dad tells NBC, adding that it was a creative bit of parenting.
And it would have worked too -- if not for those meddling cops.
Staten Island District Attorney Dan Donovan sides with the police. He tells NBC News the cops did the right thing busting Gerhardt and Santiago, "possibly preventing these parents from abandoning the girl somewhere less safe."
NBC News reports officials at the Administration for Children's Services are working with the family. Meanwhile, according to the network, Donovan is deciding whether or not to pursue the criminal charges.
"It was too scary," Enayla tells the network.
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ReaderComments (Page 1 of 10)
2-24-2011 @ 2:38PM
gerald kauffman said...Stupid cops!
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2-24-2011 @ 4:03PM
lee said...stupid parents, cops have enough to do without this BS
2-24-2011 @ 4:18PM
Meg said...Stupid parents! It's not the responsibility of the cops to discipline or raise children produced by morons!
2-24-2011 @ 4:24PM
Nenee909 said...Well, I guess cops have to do somithing... They can't catch criminals half the time, unless their practically handed to them... I guess the safest place to pretend to leave a kids isn't the police station...
I never took any of my kids to the police station... But I did
threaten to take my teens several times & leave them there... lol!!! That straightened them out pretty fast...
2-24-2011 @ 7:53PM
notawhiner said...Yessir. Just us stupid cops shirking our duties as parents to someone else's children. Try being that cop for a second. Stand there and look at the hurt and fear in that poor little girls eyes, caused by the people who should be doing everything to protect her. I've developed a thick enough skin to slough off most of the horrible things I've seen happen to adults. When it involves children, it's not so easy. I see my own children every time I see a child living in conditions that are subhuman and beneath the standards prisoners expect. Those are the nightmares that still wake me up occasionally.
So you're right. Stupid cops, they should have joined in and helped to scare a toddler into behaving.
2-24-2011 @ 7:59PM
Judy B said...Gerald, I'm with you!! I wonder if the morons who agreed with the cops have kids. Of if they do, how those kids act. I'd love to know when kids became the rulers of the roost. It's disgraceful to see how so many kids have no respect at all...not for their parents or any other authority figure & not even for themselves. I would bet my last buck that in 10 years if this kid is arrested for grand theft auto those same cops will be blaming the parents for the lack of discipline!!
2-24-2011 @ 8:12PM
GrandmaMimi said...Criminal parents. They'd be the first ones bellyaching and criticizing the police if they had a real emergency and the police were 1 minute late in arriving because they were dealing with another set of parents who want to scare the hell out of ther little children.
Get a grip. This child was SIX YEARS OLD. Children that age are very much afraid of being abandoned, and very concrete in their thinking. It would never occur to this child that her parents weren't meaning every word they said. At the very least, they need to be sentenced to parent-education classes, and perhaps anger management as well. Any six-year-old can be a handful, but good parenting techniques and good discipline that leads toward self-discipline and praising for positives goes a LOT farther than fear and punishment.
And if they don't change their ways? Then they should not be surprised if their adult child leaves them at the nearest and cheapest institution for eldercare, and goes off to take care of her own life rather than taking care of them.
2-24-2011 @ 8:21PM
Kim said...As the wife of a former Police Officer I know my husband HATED when parents used them to try to "scare their kids straight" his fear was always that if the day ever came when the child needed HELP- would they trust the Police NO - they only take "BAD PEOPLE"
Children need to learn to feel safe not scared.......
2-24-2011 @ 8:29PM
Kat said...Oh and white people don't do stupid things too? Give it a rest you racist moron!
2-24-2011 @ 11:29PM
Susan said...It might have been a better idea to call ahead and ask the police and explain their problem and ask if they would help.......just sayin'.
2-25-2011 @ 10:24PM
carrie said...This is crazy. I think that taking a 6 year old is a little much. However being in the teaching profession, it gets harder and harder to educate children at any age because you cannot punish them otherwise it is "crushing their little egos" Well guess what. That is real life. When the child is 30 still living at home and mommy is still doing the laundry, someone will say "why didn't they teach the child to be self sufficient?" Because children run the households. I see it everyday and it is difficult to retrain children in appropriate behavior. The police did their job, the parents were trying to do theirs also. But keep in mind we are creating a generation of greedy, over demanding, self centered kids who will one day run the nation. Where do we want to be in 20 years????????
2-24-2011 @ 2:47PM
Jack said...It is no wonder that our kids are running wild and getting into trouble right and left. Parents and teachers are not able to do ANYTHING for the fear of the courts. These kids are off the wall ever since the PROs started telling what to do and what we can't do do !!!
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2-24-2011 @ 3:01PM
cammlynn said...This is awful - parents should be teaching their children that police officers are people to be trusted and who to turn to when they need help or are feeling unsafe rather than someone to be afraid of or threatened by. Police officers serve to keep people safe, not intimidate small children.
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2-24-2011 @ 5:56PM
marissa said...EXACTLY!!!!!!
2-24-2011 @ 7:55PM
Dusty754 said...So if one of the officers had played along as they should have and indicated to the child that bad people that don't behave go to jail, how would that have done any damage regarding the police as a whole. I mean it's not like children haven't been threatened with a parent calling the police if the child is misbehaving. How many times have you seen a parent threaten to leave their child at a store if they didn't follow them? I have seen parent's head for the door and indicating that if the child didn't follow then the child would be left. There was never any intention on the parent's part to actually leave the child, because the parent was constantly turning around as they headed for the door watching the child,but the child did catch up to the parent and although crying, left with the parent. This case was no different. The problem is too many morons that can read between the lines. Would it have been a problem if the cops played along, then if they felt that the parents were actually going to leave the kid, follow through with an arrest?
2-25-2011 @ 1:25AM
sunndelight said...When I was a little girl, I remember behaving very badly in public once and knowing that because we were in public, my mother would not whack my butt, not because of the fear of being accused of child abuse, but because she hated making scenes in public and she did not want to subject innocent bystanders to my ridiculously exaggerated cries. I remember being that bad that day and yes, I did it on purpose. Anyway, there was an officer nearby and my mother walked up to the officer and exclaimed that if I did not stop misbehaving, the officer would have no choice but to take me away because that is what happened to misbehaved little girls. The officer played along, knelt down to my level and gave me a stern lecture. I took him very seriously and straightened my butt out immediately. I never felt that I could not trust an officer because of that. An officer represented respect for the law to me even at that age (I was 5). Respect for the law is manifested in many ways. Even a child knows the difference between the most basic rights and wrongs and that officers are there to protect and serve and a bad ly behaved child represents wrong. Some children are easy to rear and others are just down right mischievous. Some rarely need stern disciline of any kind, others require a good butt whooping now and then. You can't compare parents because their children are not the same. My husband and his siblings were monsters growing up...my sister and I had our moments, but were easily placed back on track and rarely strayed. My children were just like my husband growing up, absolute monsters. It was very hard for me to rasie them as I had little experience with overly mishievoous children since I was not and neither was my sister. I only knew my mothers way of rearing and it did not work with my children. I had to resort to much stricter disciplining methods to keep them from completely ruining their own lives as it persisted straight through the teenenage years and well into adulthood.
2-24-2011 @ 2:57PM
Kathy said...In 1976 my middle son ( he was 8 at the time) stole a candy bar while we were grocery shopping. I did not find out about it until we were at home. I took him back to the store and made him tell the manager what he did. I had the manager call the police. The Loves Park police department cooperated quite nicely in helping me to put the fear of going to jail into my son.
The police officer and the manager took him to the back room and told him that if he ever stole another thing that he would never be able to go home with his mom and brothers because he would go to jail where all the people that do bad things go to.
Both the manager and the police officer knew what I was trying to accomplish that night and they helped. AND it worked. He has never gotten in trouble with the law and he is a very good young man and a great father.
Atleast those parents took the time to try to teach their daughter a lesson.
There are far too many parents now-a-days that just don't care enough or are too busy with their own lives or jobs to do anything.
Our children don't come to us with an owner's manual. We take things step by step a day at a time and do the best we can. I truly believe that the government has gotten too involved with our personal lives. They expect us to treat all the children according to their rules.
That is impossible. Each child is different and has to be dealt with in the way that best helps him or her.
Our job as a parent is to guide the child and teach them right from wrong. We are the adult, the parent, the teacher of life, not the best friend. That comes later on in life when they are parents and realize that they really do respect their parents and the things that their parents went through (especially when they were teenagers).
Just my opinions...
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2-24-2011 @ 4:22PM
Teresa said...Bravo!!!!!
2-24-2011 @ 5:10PM
Dale said...I have to totally agree with your opinion. Some thing like this also happened to my son and he was taught a lesson at an early age. He is better off today because of it. Today's parents are looking for and easy way out....if they take the time now to disipline them now they will have a lot less problems when they get older....
2-24-2011 @ 6:02PM
Steph said...Good for you! Unfortunately it's no longer 1976 and we parents are screwed.