Try This: Kids and Dating

Be careful how you push the teenagers. There were some reports how the older boyfriends killed the parents of their girlfriends that refused to let them see their daughters. I know this suck.

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14?! now that is TOO OLD,,, im 11 and like the only one in 6th grade who ISNT in a relationship.

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Quit calling this clown a "Doctor". He is no more qualified to advise you on your kids than some stranger you would bump into coming out of the mall.

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Dr. Phil is a gas bag aiming his lame rhetoric at confused,or insecure women who can't figure out how to open a can of beans without help. Forget intellectualizing about teen dating - they will do whatever they want to do no matter what their parents say. I have seen straight-A students lie, connive and manipulate because they were "in love" and nothing their parents said would stop them. Think back: You did it too, and no one could stop you. Adult advice is just "wah-wah-wah" to teenagers. Teach them birth control - it's the only sensible thing to do! If not, be ready to raise your own grandchildren.

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All of this advice is coming from a guy who's kids are both dating playboy bunnies, one who is engaged to Heff. So I don't know if that's such good advice unless you want your kid dating hookers. And for all of you saying how you dated when you were 12, you failed to mention it was your sister. You must have starred on Deliverance. I wonder whenever anyone tries pushing sex on kids, what there motivation is, there are many pedophiles out there that would love nothing more than to have people let there kids think sex is okay at 12. Are you people that foolish? 18 yrs old is when your kids can date because then they are legal adults and they can make and pay for their choices. And we wonder why there is a problem with teenage pregnancy in this country, or why abortion has run rampant, wake up people.

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I was not permitted to date until 18 and even then my folks didn't like a boyfriend coming to call. We were to stay in the living room or if we went to my room, the door was to stay open. When we went to a movie or concert my mother made it clear I would be home by a certain time and if not she would call the police and report me a runaway or a thief. the older I became, the more strict they became. Needless to say I got the hell out of there at 19, skipping college and have struggled through low rate jobs and two failed marriages just to stay away from those people. Sadly, I'm back with them after the 2nd failed marriage and am right back under surveillance at 45 years of age. I can't go the kitchen or walk dogs in the yard without observation. Don't let kids go wild, but don't choke them either. I'm busy saving up to get away, hopefully for the final time. What would they had done if I was a runaway or drank or did drugs as a kid? They had it easy but are repellent.

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16 seemed right years ago- now it is probably more like 14. However, listening to the conversations of the kids today- is "dating" really still here? I thought that group outings (think pack style a la Jersey Shore....) and "friends with benefits" (no not sale coupons, dear) are what goes on now in middle school, high school and even in college. Dating now only comes when you finally get a real job- after hanging in the mall or in basements for way too long- and get the notion eventually into your head that life is not all a game. What, maybe about 28 if you are lucky these days....and I fear the vast masses over that age are still trying to figure it out....but hear comes the lecture - I know young people have heard this before, but MY generation was so much better than yours - at least we understood that love was a very sacred thing and a marriage that worked was the ultimate goal and also money was not to be blown every weekend either up your nose or wherever. Love and security...and children if you want make a life complete. You get one life guys and girls- just one. Live it wisely or lose it.
Dead is not a second act.

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The interesting thing about this video that struck me was, "How come only moms/ women were asked this question"? Contrary to popular belief, apparently.. Dads are parents too, and in many cases, the far more rational and responsible of the pair. I think that it is sad when we dads are stereotyped as "unreasonable ogres standing on the front porch in our bathrobes, holding a shotgun, and continuously glaring at our watch while waiting for the no-good teenage rebel to return with our precious, virginal daughter".
Be fair. Give us a chance to express our thoughts on the subject, too. You may be pleasantly surprised at our insight on this topic.

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Im 16, and i still have not dated yet. my mother taught me to be focused on myself and my goals in life FIRST. then worry about other things. I see kids at school talk about how they' re having sex, and one of childhood friends who is a few years older than me is due soon. I just shake my head. Parents need to teach their children good values, I promise it works. And I am an African American male, but I don't want to fall into my negative stereotype. I am a straight A' student, at the top of my class, and I want to major in economics in college. Parents, stay your kids, it works! Tell them the negative consequences of sex! People may pick on me becuase I am a virgin, but I'm proud of it!

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teen and relationships...ignorances is bliss...the youth of today are ingaged in sexual attraction...which they call love...and its the farthest thing from love...then...heart break...rejection...its time to be educated...lack respect when you females and males...allow touching...who gave anyone the right...just because you met me does not give anyone the passage to touch and fondle...what is the arousal all about...sex is not love...and love is not sex...it looks right because he's holding my hand...why do so many lack self confidence...no man or woman justify another...just remember...sex is not love...and love is not sex...oral or other wise...its actually selfish...self gratification...going into these schools...a playground of perversion...kissing, touching,fornication...wrong message being sent out...this should not be allowed in schools...there should be a rule...no fratenizing... on campus...against school policy...not promoting sexual behavior...wrong message...unless its husband and wife...to others its off limits...schools all over this nation and parents...start educating your children...you did not go to school to promote porn...and thats exactly what it is...no fratenizing is something to start promoting in all schools from kindergarden to college...its time...rules and regulations...must be followed and offenders will be dealt with...must have rules...no child on the face of this earth has no right to fondle another at anytime...especially in our schools...parents its time to teach your children...

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Our daughters were allowed to do all kinds of activities like bowling, going to movies, paint ball, etc., with groups of friends that included both boys and girls but always with adult (parent) chaperones. I think it's important for young people to learn how to interact appropriately with the opposite sex and learn to see them as people who deserve their respect. "Dating" didn't really happen until the last year or two of high school and first couple of years of college, and it was for occasions like the big school dances, not just "hanging out". All of our daughters are going or have gone to college to prepare for their futures and get their degrees. They know their education is number one and they have an idea of where they want to go in the future. I think that's one of the most important things to inspire in your child, a vision of themselves in the future and a plan to get there. That doesn't include having indiscriminate sex at 12, obviously.

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Ahhh Lily, You may be an at home mommy, but you aren`t a teacher obviously with your unwise decision to have children without a father figure in their life. I often wonder how long this relentless bahaviour will continue overpopulating the world. The end is near...

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I married my grade school sweetheart (no joke). Still, parents should be more involved in their childrens social lives. No child should be able to be locked away in their room with a boy/girl friend. And regardless of how I feel about "Dr." Phil I do think he has sound advice on this issue. Parents, talk to your children. Explain to them why you enforce the rules that you do. Its no surpise that teen pregnancy rates shot up the farther away we got from being real parents and became "friends" to our children instead.

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Liam, you must have have gone to the same school as my parents. Threaten to take your daughter, kicking and screaming if necessary, to the abortion clinic if she ever became pregnant so she wouldn't ruin her life or yours? Keep her from school dances and ball games? Threaten to nail her windows closed if she got any big ideas just because you saw another news report of kids gone wild? Interview her friend's parents and criticize their living circumstances behind their backs? Prevent her friends from visiting b/c you didn't want the responsibility of other people's kids in your home? That fairy tale of raising a daughter to find a good husband and give you grandchildren is nonsense. Real has never worked that way, it's just n the past that society seemed to mandate that.

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16 or 17,no earlier

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