Try This: Kids and Dating

im 15 years old and i know for a fact NO teen should have a serious relationship. Going out to places like the mall with friends and maybe even a certain special friend is fine. But i strongly advise ALL parents to NOT let their children get too caught in their boyfriend/girlfriend. It leads to trouble everytime. EVERYTIME.

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Why can't that BALD HEADED BOOB keep his NITWHIT mouth shut. He is such a jerk!

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so i'm suppose to get my 7 year old a padded bra....tight jeans...cell phone....and it's cool for her to date , let's say a 13 yr old boy...sounds great........at that age condoms really don't matter.....really cool.....i wish i was a kid again.......what ever happened to little girls.....i'm too old fashion......

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I'm surprised to see some very conservative comments, given the way things are these days. My story is similar to Loren. Started dating in 9th grade, and knew it was right. Waited until after college to marry, and have been married over 50 years. Neither of us would change a thing!

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wow. i am a teenager. If my mom did that to me, I would be pissed off. But I'm not unreasonable. I think that if the parent trust the kid to go on a date, they shouldn'y just say that, they should give it a chance

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My daughter knew how we felt about dating and respected us, when she was 19 she came to me and said she wanted to date a young guy she knew from high school. Now both in college they have been dating for over a year and making plans to build a future together. It was tough to stand up to what all her friends were doing but it was a good thing for my daughter because she and her BF are more mature.

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I started dating my current boyfriend at 16..I am now 23.
My parents started dating when my mom was 15 and my dad was 17..they have been happily married for 32 years now..

I think the earliest one should start to date- is however old they are when they start freshman year in highshool..

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I think it depends on the teen and the circumstances. I have two teenage sons and during middle school and early high school a date may be a few friends going to the movies, or bowling, or to a school event. It is often not very serious.

The bigger the deal the parents make the more forbidden the fruit. My sons are now 15 & 17 have each had a couple of girlfriends. After dating a girl for a WEEK, my fifteen year old said "mom, we start as friends and as soon as we say we are going out - everything gets weird...I would rather just have a bunch of girls as friends, we have more fun." Perfect analysis for his age - and he came up with it on his own!!!! Even better. My 17 year old has had a few girl friends, nothing that lasted more than 3-4 months. But these are good times to teach them etiquette, manners, and thinking of someone else within a relationship. Not that we haven't done that all along, but the rules change a little when they are dating...like...make sure you walk to the door to pick her up/drop her off, greet her parents...that is not always necessary when picking up a guy/friend. It is a learning experience for them and I would rather have them date and have a few relationships when we are still driving them places than have their first experience be extremely serious...when they are on their own.

I have noticed the parents that make extremely tough rules, or forbid their children from doing things often create a situation where their children are not truthful with them or the children are resentful.

Knowing your child and common sense is good. I figure that you never know how or when they meet the person they are destined to be with...I don't want to start a relationship with a future daughter-in-law by having her feel like we forbid our son to see her or don't like her.

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Parents really need to start THINKING like parents and not like their kids' best buddy. In both my mother's and my dating years (20 years apart), no junior high/middle kid would be allowed one-on-one dating. Certainly, playmates (and they should be playmates, not dates) of the opposite sex were NEVER permitted in your bedroom. Living room, dining room, kitchen, porches or backyard and that was it. Group-dating at Grange, 4-H, and church-related events was permitted. We had hayrides and parties and picnics. One year, we even had a lunch-basket auction with boys bidding on the basket of the girl they wanted to share lunch with. Wholesome fun and no-one ended up in an abortion clinic. Real dating did not begin until the Junior Prom (and then with a parent driver) and one-on-one dating did not commence until school started one's Senior year in HS. Until I was 22 and dating my then-fiance, my parents would not permit me to be alone with a boy. He was dumped into the mix of cousins and siblings and expected to play football or badminton, swim, read, participate in a jam session (we all played instruments) and be part of the family. Parents would do well to foster those activities again. It's far safer.

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If you were to ask my husband, he would say never. I am trying to negotiate age 16 but no earlier.
A former classmate of mine was not allowed to date period and when she went to college..... oh boy! Let's just say she was put out during her first semester and it was NOT for academic reasons. :-(

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considering the fact that parents haven't parented for many many years now and kids are basically going to hell in a handbasket, I would say that probably 25 years old might be a good age to start dating. The idea of making kids wait a little while about dating is to allow their hormones to level off just a tad bit, allow them to acquire some morals that would hopefully help them realize that sex is a very important thing between 2 COMMITTED people, and that far more often than not, when people use it as nothing but pleasure there are serious repercussions. Back in the day it was the girl that kept the lid on things and the boy in check but that's a thing of the past when you consider that we have several generations of whorish mothers who have created whorish daughters. As I said all the time in other post, I can't sit here for more than a few minutes after I have logged onto my music programs to gather music for my inter net stations and DJ work that YOUR daughters don't hit up on me to come and watch them play with themselves. Not one single fiber of morality anymore. I'd be more than willing to head out with you, we stop and quiz young girls. I'll give you $10 for any young girl that has any morals, you give me 50 cents for the ones that don't and I'll come out the winner at the end of the day. This past Sat. night was the LAST TIME I will EVER do a teenage party of any kind. I can't help but think about the big big controversy over that radio jock calling that black ball team nappy headed hoes and how upset they got, and here come that moron Al Sharpton crawling out from under his rock to biotch about it. AND YET, not a damn one of those people EVER say anything about the vulgar, sick, disrespectful, demeaning garbage that's coming from the BLACK community. PRIMARILY from the black community. Anyway, i set up Sat. nite, had a bad cable so headed to the store to buy another. When I got back the kids had turned off the lights, 14 or 15 of them, 10 yrs-15 yrs all back in the corner, Lil Wayne or one of the perverted sicko's and here we have little girls humping little girls, guys humping the girls, girls humping the guys, 3 or 4 humping one another. Now if you have this in front of the parents, and the worthless no good parents saying nothing about it then you can pretty much imagine what's going on in the back seat or where ever. With the largest % of these little perv's SEXTING one another, again, the girls sitting in their rooms before a web cam with their legs spread putting on a show for anyone that wants to watch, yep, 25 is a good age to date.

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my mom was a single mother..everything Dr. Phil stated, she said too..I'm 23 now, having rules and set guidelines didn't hurt me or detract me from having a life..THANKS MOM!!!

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This should very child to child, If your child has inelegances and drive, they should hold off dating, so they can accomplish goals, and education desires, On the other hand, If your child, has no drive, or ambition, and would rather eat doughnuts and watch TV than study, than you better let them use the tools god gave them to trap a spouse while they are still attractive, so they don’t end up 40 with 6 cats. If you waited until your child was 14 to start teaching morals, and values, than you might as well, buy them a chastity belt, lock them in the attic, and refuse to let them date until they are 18. If on the other hand you have taught them to use their brain, and listen to their conscious, supervised dates for church activities might be fine as young as 13. If you’re asking what age is appropriate to be promiscuous, I would say NEVER. But I have always heard the apple doesn't fall far from the tree, so if you’re a Slut, Keep a close eye on your child. This would is not the world it was when you were growing up. We as a society, have removed God from everything, when it’s time to start dating, it’s a little late to now ask where he went.

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I was listening to an 8th grade girl in my classroom talk about having her second abortion today. I don't know how young is too young to date, but I do know this; If parents don't get involved in their child's life, they too will be talking abortion with their child.

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My rule was they could have a boyfriend in Junior High 6-8th grade, that boyfriend was an at school boyfriend only, no dates, no alone time just holdin' hands in the hallway and a hug goodbye. The next piece of advice I gave was, don't date/be the girlfriend of the boys you think you would really like to date when your older, in high school. I explained that junior high dating usually lasted 1-14 days and ended with harsh words and hurt feelings. Then that person will never ask you out again, because they will remember that you hurt them. The last advice I had was they could go on a date, when they were able to get themselves home in case of emergency, so they had to be at least 16 with a drivers license. That drivers license depended on grades ect. so each of these rewards come with earned responsibility. It's worked so far.

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My rule is that my daughters can date only men who are 5 to 15 years older than she is. That way the man has to pay for the baby. You sure don't want her taking up with some boy who is the same age and can't get some money. And, you don't want her dating a man who is older than her daddy.

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How many times has this quack been sued?? I couldn't care LESS what this man has to say. Especially not from a man who not only LOST his license due to sex related ethics charges, but the most recent in 2009 by Sara Morrison who worked as an intern for him. Shame on the writer of this article for even using this piece of crap to give ANYONE ADVICE!!!!

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One of the things that a guy never thinks about is that the girl he is having sex with has probably had a previous guy who was much better at it. It is simple logic. There are only a few guys who are real studs, and all the girls want him. So, the stud will have sex with a hundred girls, and it will be the best sex they ever had. Studs like musicians, athletes, fraternity brothers, drug dealers, etc. So these studs give the girl her wild sexual experience. Then, as time goes on and she is in less demand, she is forced to accept a lesser,more average man. Shorter, fatter, balder and less capable sexually than the stud from the past. In other words, an average man, about like 95% of the male population. This average man is just not capable of a performance like a stud and will never furnish the wild sexual experience. But his girlfriend has. So, that is why she is never satisfied, bitchy, and always complaining about you.

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If you want to take all credibility away from a story just mention Dr. Phil.What a hypocrite.

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