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Free condoms in middle schools are a rising trend. Credit: Getty Images
Your daughter is turning 11 and wants to host a sleepover.
If you want to make the celebration really special, spice things up by allowing her to invite some boys over for an orgy. That's right, an orgy.
They're not just for Roman emperors and magazine publishers who spend all day in their PJs anymore. Public health officials say they're all the rage 'round Philadelphia way.
And you wouldn't believe the party favors kids as young as 10 and 11 are bringing home.
With numerous tales of these door prizes reaching the public health department, the London Daily Mail reports health officials have taken the extraordinary -- and controversial -- measure of offering some freebies of their own: free condoms for middle school students, as well as a video tutorial on how to use them.
The Mail reports this is in response to increasing reports of kids skipping school for what you might call independent study.
Reality can't be avoided, Jill Foster, director of the Dorothy Mann Centre for Pediatric and Adolescent HIV, tells the Philadephia Inquirer.
"We follow 200 teenagers with HIV, and the youngest is 12," she says. "When we started doing HIV treatment in 1998, the average age of patients was 16 or 17. The first time we got a 13-year-old was mind-blowing. But people have no idea how tough it is to be a kid who's exposed to sexual media images and peer pressure.
"It's routine for 12- and 13-year-olds to talk about sex," she adds. "Younger kids hear them and they want to be part of that older world. They don't have maturity or impulse control, so if we can get them to have condoms with them when they start having sex, they are going to be safer. I wish it weren't necessary. Unfortunately, it is."
Statistics from the Centers for Disease Control confirm that the age a kid in Philly starts having sex is 13. That's the youngest age of any city in the country.
The Daily Mail reports the video offered to schools guides kids through the process of putting on female condoms with a number of suggested poses. One video shows an animated girl with her leg on a chair. Another demonstrates how the condom can be inserted lying down.
Another video shows a cartoon penis carrying a condom and putting it over his head before making a vigorous thrusting action.
"We do more workshops in middle schools than in high schools," Gary Bell, the executive director of the sexual health charity Bebashi-Transition to Hope, tells the Inquirer.
"Teachers call us because their kids are acting out sexually," he adds. "They'll catch them in the bathroom or the stairwell. They hear that kids are cutting schools to have orgies."
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4-14-2011 @ 3:07PM
Gabby said...Where are the parents when this is supposedly happening?? My 8 & 10 year old boys may talk about sex, but they sure in hell don't have any time alone to be able to have sex. I never would condone them to be alone with a girl. Maybe I'm too overprotective, but I didn't spend my time being a homemaker for nothing. I suggest people do what they are supposed to, WATCH YOUR CHILDREN! An 11-13 year old is just that a child! People are being charged child neglect over silly stupid things, like the girl who didn't wear a coat to school, yet not over their 11 year olds having sex??
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4-14-2011 @ 3:50PM
Michelle said...I agree, Gabby. Maybe every kid who asks for a condom should be questioned: Are you going to be skipping school to have sex? Where and when do you have sex? Do your parents know you are having sex? Do your parents leave you alone often or not inquire about your whereabouts when you are gone for long periods of time? THAT is neglect! We need to crack down more on parents who don't take care of their kids.
I have an 11-year old daughter who I'm sure takes her jacket off as soon as she gets on the bus, because she would rather make a fashion statement than listen to her mother's reasoning - oh well, only so much I can do when she's at school. But she sure isn't going to be spending time alone at her age during non-school hours and weekends (she's too busy with sports, homework and hobbies, anyway) and she will NEVER be allowed to have a boy in her room as long as she lives under my roof - period! She will have plenty of time to make her own decisions about these things in the future, when she is an adult and better able to handle the consequences. Hopefully she will take some of the lessons we are now teaching her, into her adult life, and know that we are making these decisions out of our having been there, and most importantly, out our love for her.
I'm a stay home mom, homemaker too, and you are right on-we don't do this job for nothing. I take my job very seriously!
4-15-2011 @ 10:34AM
Sam3401 said...This is so awful! I can't imagine giving a kid a condom. What happened to kid's being kids? Oh, that right, they're allowed to watch all kinds of garbage the media puts out and they get all kinds of ideas they want to try. If you're looking for something family friendly, try Http://BIt.ly/9EihZ0 and remember . . . letting your kids hear about the 'birds and the bees' from you, is far better than learning it firsthand from a classmate.
4-14-2011 @ 3:12PM
Cindy said...They need to learn about abstinence first from Crystal Palin
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4-14-2011 @ 3:14PM
MIchelle said...Teachers should be reaching out to the parents to alert them of what's going on, not calling a group in to offer condoms and sexual videos to children. I watched the videos, and the one that shows how to use the female condom is very explicit, in my opinion. It basically shows how to have sex. If my kids, who are being raised properly for their age, saw this, it would open up a whole new world to them. Skipping school to have any orgy? Disgusting! Where are the parents and how do kids get away with skipping out of school? The parents are the ones who need educating on how to raise their children and how to talk to their children about sex, and that it is waaaay to young to be having sex at 12 and 13. Where is the self respect? What has happened to childhood? Handing out condoms like candy is taking vulnerable minds and telling them it's okay and normal to have sex as a pastime. Instead we should let our kids know they are more than a sexual object, that they are WORTH the wait to have sex until their mind is as mature as their body, which is much, much older! It's time to HONOR OUR CHILDREN'S DIGNITY. Why not use the moment it takes to hand out a condom, to tell that child how special, smart and important they are. Encourage them to have the childhood they deserve!
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4-14-2011 @ 3:22PM
Gabby said...I agree 100%!!!
4-14-2011 @ 4:04PM
Lauren said...This is really how they combat this? Wow, that's like having an ambulance at the foot of a cliff. Why not fence off the area instead? And obviously parents are hosting these sleepovers, unless they're truly brainless, talk to them first! They could really curb more than these free handouts and videos would.
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4-15-2011 @ 5:11PM
Princess said...I pray I've done a good job with my 11 year old daughter. I pray she isn't going to be be having sex any time soon. But if she is, if all I've done to teach her and raise her right doesn't work, I pray she uses condoms! I sure as hell don't want my child having sex as a pre-teen or even a teenager, but I'd much rather have them alive having sex with a condom, than dead because they didn't use one!
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4-17-2011 @ 10:47PM
Alicia said...I agree with you. No one wants their kids to e having sex, but if it'd going to happen, but to have protection available and have them know how to use it than have a child contract something that they have to live with for the rest of their life.
4-27-2011 @ 2:07PM
Deirdre said...@Princess...I agree 100% rather the kids b safe than sorry.Children need to know they can come to their parents for questions, help and support about ANYTHING..when thats not the case they are misguided and get misinformation from their peers. I am a mother of a 14yr boy and 11yr. girl they know they can come to me about anything.We as parents are to protect our children..the schools promoting safe sex is protecting them too..from later severe consequences from having unprotected sex.
4-27-2011 @ 2:10PM
deirdre said...Unfortunately the reality is is that kids are having sex younger and younger do I condone it ? No...but I agree with passing out condoms in school. The children need to be protecting themselves. I am ALL FOR THE SCHOOLS PASSING OUT CONDOMS AND PROMOTING SAFE SEX...at least the kids will be protecting themselves from disease and unwanted pregnancies. I am the parent of a 14 yr. old boy and 11 yr. old girl
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5-20-2011 @ 4:41PM
Aaron Allen said...Deirdre,
I disagree with you 100%. It's like saying you are appalled at those who are meth junkies but you agree with handing out drug needles to make sure they are sterile. What people are failing to recognize when they say it's okay to pass out condoms is that they are also giving youths a wink wink that it's okay to have underage sex. Sure you are telling me one thing, but if you are going to equip me to have sex, it can be such a bad thing. And we wonder why the children are acting out sexually at school, even having sex in classrooms. It's because the adults are sending out mixed messages.