Should You Give Condoms to Your Teen? From Dr. Drew

Giving your kids condoms at the same time that you tell them not to have sex is sending a mixed message. The analogy Dr. Drew uses about wearing a seat belt even though you intend not to speed is a poor one, because you wear a seat belt for reasons other than that - like to protect yourself from other inattentive drivers. Besides, driving a car is necessary, having sex is not. When you choose to have or not to have sex, you are the driver, the one in control. Condoms would only act to entice kids to have sex, they do not act as a "seat belt" to deter them from sex altogether. Why do so many parents fail to believe in their kids? That "saying no" is not only possible but that kids actually crave direction and guidance from their parents. Even if it often seems that kids can't stand their parents, most actually appreciate the opportunity to talk openly with their parents and get advice. Open communication is the key. You have to let your kids know they can come to you for anything, but that at the same time there are rules. In our home, we teach that sex is a sacred act that should be shared with the person you marry. Although that may not happen, we still teach our kids what would be an ideal situation. We teach them about birth control, but that again, birth control is best utilized in a marriage situation since there is always the risk of pregnancy, unless you abstain from sex. My kids are also not allowed to have sex while they are under our care (under 18). Hopefully they will take what I have taught them and not act foolishly, but they are on their own after that. I also tell them how much better it would be to marry someone who also waited for that special partner. Just as their future spouse would want someone who waited for that special moment, so would they. So far, so good in our household. My kids respect themselves and their bodies and want to avoid being "used" which is what teenage sex is all about. Parents, stick to your guns and hang tough. "Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it."

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Not our kids, but it should be mandatory for all lib's so they can't reproduce.

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Some excellent advice from Dr Drew, Listen up People. If your child does 'slip' and does what is essentially inevitable then you are going to wish that they used a condom when they get someone pregnant or get aids.
It is no use blaming the girl or the other person, your child has to take responsibility for protecting both themselves and others. Burying your head in the sand and pretending it isn't going to happen to you is not going to protect you or your children from anything. You need to think logically and the logic is: 1.Many of your teenage children are going to have pre-marital sex before the age of 18. 2. If you think that surveillance is going to stop them you are kidding yourselves.3. If you think religion is going to stop them you are kidding yourselves 4. If you think anything is going to stop them you are kidding yourselves. 5. A condom will protect them from teen pregnancy and venereal disease. 6. If you don't educate your children to protect themselves and their sexual partners then you will have to deal with the consequences.

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You're Damn Right we should give our kids of ANY Age Condoms; if we don't, we'll be raising your Unwanted Grandkids!

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