Judge to Mom: 'You Don't Spank Children'

you hit it right on the nail...All it takes is a spanking and then a threat of such...second time usually doesn't happen...AFTER the spanking you explain why.....You are right about them not learning respect. I raised 7 children and when they did wrong they got it. That judge should go to juvinale court and listen to the cases. If these kids were made accountable for their actions they would not be in court. If they don't repect their parents they won't respect the law....I would tell them..first offense and I do not help you out.You pay for your acts...When I was a child we had to kneel on closepins...I knew enough not to break house law...I was in foster parents...we were on a farm, worked hard, and believe it or not, those are my best memories...I knew what was expected of me, and when I did good..I was given responsibilities..I had a relative who gave her son everything because she did not want to lose his love, well one day he knocked her out, he married 7 times and had children, the women divorced him and didn't ask for any support they just wanted to get rid of him...Only had one kid got in trouble and today he is a highway policeman...I don't mean beat them, but maybe God made the rear end for just such a corporal punishment...as I said, it wasnt violent, but stung and only had to do it once...a threat of it was enough for heads up. I imagine it is hard if you only have one child, you want them to have everything..but in the end...they want it all, but don;t want to earn it themselves...today kids have every new electronic item that comes along...wrong....dress like slobs or sluts and get away with it...so those kids are potential juvies.

I Agree, Some troubled teens Nowadays Should thank the flawed system for butting in to their parents Life whose only crime was to prevent their Kids From Becoming a Human Waste.

Studies show that children who are spanked are much more likely to end up criminals as adults. Think about it logically:

Every time you spank a child, you have just witnessed a child who does not know how to behave. And when you spank him, he simply stops whatever he's doing without knowing why it is wrong. Ewvery time you spank him is an acknowledgement that you have failed to teach him right from wrong.

It takes time, but parents need to take the time to explain to their children what is right and what is wrong. Otherwise, what happens when they grow up and the parents aren't there to spank them them?

The only thing you teach a child when you spank them is that if someone is doing something you don't like, you should hit them. Is it no wonder that when they grow up they end up in jail for assaulting people?

If there is more than one child in a family, as soon as the parents start striking one of them, they start striking each other.

I could not agree more!!

douglecandy,
100% correct....AND the judge is an idiot..... Courtney....respect is EARNED, not demanded. Respect your teachers and they will respect you.

Please write it in the sky. Parents look up! That same unruly kid could some day sit behind the desk at the social security office.

You HAVE to spank a 2 year old because you cannot reason with them. You cannot say to a 2 year old "If you run out into the street, you will get hit by a car and die and you will never come back." They are too young to understand that. They can't get their little heads around it. Pain, they understand. I'm not saying beat them, but yes, they have to be spanked when they are young.

Do you realize that there are nonviolent ways to discipline a child? Do you realize that using violence against a child teraches them that violence is ok? And that they become more violent themselves?

douglacandy I agree and support you 100%

Sorry Courtney, but even though you might know the stuff or think you are smarter than the teacher, you still treat your superiors with respect. I have worked for bosses where I was hands down the smarter one, but I didn't act disrespectfully to them. It's just not the way to handle it.

Amen and double Amen! There are so many generations now that have no respect for any thing and no accountability to anyone. I fear we may have lost the battle if not the war.

If you're spanking your child to vent your anger at them then that is abuse.

I coiuld not agree more, you really hit the nail

You are right on. We are admonished to train up a child in the way it ought to go. If a parent spanks, and explains why and gives the child love, chances are, they will become a good citizen. If you truly love your child you will try to teach him he can`t have everything his way.

Well said my friend!

Todays children are not held accountable anymore. More of them need a good swat every once in while. That is what is wrong with society today, we beg our children to behave when we should be discipling them. There is a huge difference between a beating and a spanking, I'm not saying that we should be beating them, but a spanking when they get out of line is not abuse.

You are so right...Thank you Dr. Spock.

You are exactly right! Get the government and "PC" police out of our lives!

Well put dougalcandy. Was just about to write something very similar. I'd like to know if this Judge has ever had children. People that do not have to raise children should be GIVEN some of those undisciplined brats for a few months and show us all how to 'talk' and 'reason' with all from toddlers to teenagers. Children left and right now will dial 911 and have their parents arrested. This judge prefers this. OR, this judge may have a very big financial interest in juvenile detention centers, as that is where this 'no spanking or else jail' policy will lead. This particular horror of 'child protection' contradicts even the bible which, in Hebrews, states: Any father who does not discipline his son does not love him. So that's what we can look forward to? Less love and MORE jail? People have been stomping on the bible over homosexuals--which isn't mentioned ANYWHERE in the bible--yet this little tenet goes overlooked since the late 70s... Right around the time the prison population exploded. Doesn't anyone else notice this simple 'cause and effect' issue?

I gree 100 percent. Today kids need mommy and daddy to hold their hands for everything. They don't know how to respect their parents and that is why they don't repect anyone else either. they are a bunch of non productiive people that only care about thier latest tattoos or piercings and what kind of car they drive and shoes they wear. Whatever it is they want their parents make sure they get it. The most successful CEO's of the largest companies were disciplined as children. I remember one time getting soap in my mouth and also red pepper.. Myself and my brother were spanked as two boys trying to make trouble. WE ARE HERE AND OF SANE MIND WITHOUT THE USE OF DRUGS OR ALCOHOL to get thru life or the day! GROW UP AND STAND UP FOR YOUR RIGHTS... FCK the JUDGE and HER opinions... WE THE PEOPLE.... Abuse is not a SPANKING GET IT!!!!!