Judge to Mom: 'You Don't Spank Children'

Didn't you all see the obituary of passing of Common Sense. The courts have no business in how a parent disciplines their children unless there is excesses that most people are aware of.

couldn't have said it better.the thought of these spoiled, indulged, and illiterate brats running the world someday is truly a scarey thing.

Dougalcandy, you are exactly right! When I was a child my parents spanked me when I did wrong. I was the type of child to rarely get into trouble. But when I did, a spanking set me straight and the matter at hand never needed to be discussed again. I knew better not to act up again. As one person mentioned there is a difference between abuse and discipline. My parents disciplined me. And now as an adult with a child of my own I feel that my parents did a wonderful job in rearing me. I think these days when people talk the talk about not spanking their children it leads the children to believe that 'my parents can't touch me so I can get away with anything.' But as you said it does them a great disservice because in life people aren't going to treat you that way. People aren't just going to pay you lip service and let you get away with anything. You would never be able to keep a job or live in this society expected to get what you want all the time. Now, I'm not saying that every child needs to be spanked. In fact, my son rarely needs spanking. He's a very well behaved child. And yes, maybe after a certain age a child needs to be talked to instead of spanked. But honestly, this PC world is really going to leave a world of trouble for our children when they grow up.

I was going to say the exact same thing...but you beat me to it.

I think spanking to be a form of love, as well as a disciplinary action. Until a certain age children cannot be "reasoned" with but a smack on the rump gets their attention. As parents it is our responsibility to teach boundries and respect. A good swat gets the message through quickly and throughly. If a parent doesn't get these messages into their children, the judical system one day will have to. That is why I see it as a loving action. I love my children enough to take the measures necessary to teach them manners and socially acceptable behaviors instead of them finding out the hard way with handcuffs and prison sentences. There is a difference between an attention getting swat and a beating. One should not be confused with the other. It's also of great importance that children have a healthy fear of their parents. This establishes who is in charge and creates the parental ability to maintain control of the child. As a child ages and reasoning comes into play the physical attention grabbers can then morph into other forms of disciplinary actions. My own favorite is weed pulling. "Fill this bucket with weeds and the issue is resolved." This only works if the child has a healthy fear and understands your willing and able to revert back to old ways of handling problems. Your call kid, easy way or hard way...either way this is going to happen.

I totally agree with you! I'm only 19 and not a parent, but I was grown up in a family where if I did something wrong, I was spanked for it. I'm much more respectful now and take responsibility for myself and know right from wrong. I seem my younger siblings friends whose parents don't spank or really discipline, and they are the most disrespectful, ignorant children I have ever seen. Just sitting down and telling your children "Why it's not okay" to do something, isn't a true punishment. They don't learn from anything. When I do have children, if they misbehave, I'm still going to believe in spanking. It's not abuse. It's discipline. People need to learn that there's a difference.

100% CORRECT!! People wake up and listen!

Courtney, that's exactly the problem. You ARE dumber than your teacher. You think you are entitled to the world. Show respect then get respect, not the other way around. I'm sure you've learned alot in your whole 14 years on this Earth, but shut up and learn something

Perfectly said. I never spanked my kid until she was ten and she told me to go f-- myself when I told her to clean her room.

by the changes of our enviroment, we can see the type of kids we have today. disrespectful,ignorant and so forth. i do not agree with abuse ,but, alittle pat on the bottom or swat in the arm will not hurt.
then when these kids turn to little animals and end up in jail, they claim its our fault. bull crap it our system.

Ellen, your ignorance shows almost instantly.... The way children are raised has nothing to do with having documentation or not... People don't have children to avoid being deported... the law doesn't support that and any one with half the brain would be able to see that. Don't talk about something you know nothing about and keep your political agenda to yourself or save it for a forum that deals with those specific politics!

Boy! If only the judge in this case had the common sense that you have exhibited children in this country would not be so 'entitled spoiled brats' Personally I spanked my child when he was younger. Alas society in general helps to breed these irresponsible adults in the making.

I think everyone here agree's with you. This judge is possible the stupidest judge ever, or he is just trying to throw his authority around because he can and it's bull-crap. I spank, I'm sorry but time-out do absolutely nothing. Why do we have so much teen violence and school violence, because our children think they have the right to do whatever w/o repercussion and it's bull. Our country is going down hill and it's only going to get worse w/ people like this telling us we can't discipline our children. Massive FAIL on this judges part!!!

We're all behind you on this one. That's the reason we have such a degenerate society with the young these days. That "judge" should be removed from the bench!!!

I couldn't agree more! And, for the record, Texas was a corpral punishment State just a few years ago. I guess they changed that. But, then again, maybe ONLY the TEACHERS are allowed to spank kids and not parents. If I was this woman I'd actually be suing the State for these malicious and over zealous prosecution and use Texas' OWN law against them.

I agree 100%. I couldn't have said it better myself. You can't spank a kid these days so now they are all spoiled and aren't being prepared for the real world. Isn't that abuse? I also think it's sad that every kid gets a trophy, even the worst kid playing on the worst team, breeding mediocrity.

I couldn't agree more. We are slowly but completely taking the rights of parents away. We are to guide and teach them right from wrong. I believe in spanking. This time out bull crap just isn't doing amongst other ways for discipline. I'm not spanking is the solution every time but certainly didn't do any damage to me and my siblings.I'm so glad so many agree with you. Right on

This is wrong.These kids of today dont know what a spanking is.We and I talk for the 50 year old group knew if we was wrong we got our butt whiped and that made us think about doing wrong before we did it.And in the long run it made us better people not just thugs running wild for the courts to have to deal with.
PS I bet that judge use to get that butt tore up when he was a kid

yours is a voice of reason in a totally screwed up society. Spanking is NOT child abuse, unless a kid is "beaten" and injured. Child abuse is when parents cowtow to our politically correct society and do not discipline their kids, and watch them grow into little gangbangers, eventually filling up our prisons. That's child abuse. My dad spanked all of us kids, and none of us wound up with permanent scars because of it. We learned to respect not only our parents and their rules, but the rules our society lives by. This judge is totally screwed up.

Very well put...I'm from a family of six boys (no sisters) and my parents, God bless them, required each of us to always do the right thing...or, there was going to be hell to pay. And when we stepped out of line (and we always knew when we were doing it that it was not the right thing even though we swore up and down it was not our fault) we were punished. And, I might add, the rod was not spared. Believe me, not once did any of us repeat the same offense...we may have committed other "stupid" acts, but never the same one twice. I remember feeling they didn't love me at times but, I realize now that they were only trying to I'm proud to say that each of us have become productive, successful, business people and very caring, loving parents. There are any number of hilarious stories I could tell about various instances of wrongdoing on our part and the punishment executed but, space doesn't allow for the telling of them. Suffice it to say that, while it didn't seem like it at the time, my parents loved us enough to teach us the results and consequences of our actions. Favorite phrase of all time when being punished was: "...son, this is going to hurt me more than it is you..." It wasn't until I had children that I truly came to understand the meaning of that line...and, you know, it's true...

I never hit my children and they are both upstanding, respectful, straight A college students with excellent jobs. They also do a temendous amount of charity work and never fail to respect their elders. Hitting is lazy and violent; just because something was done in the past does not mean it is correct or the best course of action. We actually can and do evolve.