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Whatever happened to the old "not-under-my-roof" when it comes to teenagers having sex? Well, some parents say it just isn't practical.
Patty Skudlarek, who is one of them, tells ABC News that she wants her 18-year-old son to have sex with girls in the privacy of his own room. "I'd rather he do it here than somewhere else," Skudlarek tells the network. "With the kids having sex at home, it's a safer environment because, you know, it's clean. And usually the place they keep the condoms are in their bedroom."
Hey, she says, it's better than some motel.
A growing number of parents share Skudlarek's opinion, according to ABC. Meanwhile, other parents disagree. Strongly.
Letting kids have sex at home is like letting them drink alcohol, Ritchie Steinmann, the father of two teens, tells ABC. "You don't drink in my home. You don't bring home a girl or a boy and close the door and run around in my home. It's the decency and sanctity of what we call home."
One mom, Chloe Foreht tells the network she allowed her 17-year-old daughter to have sex with a longtime boyfriend at home. "I was OK with her having sex in my home because of the relationship she was in, because of the teenager that she is," she says. "Her boyfriend would sleep over probably once a week. And I was comfortable with that."
Hidden sex, she adds, would be more risky.
"If they're having it outside the home, who knows who they're having it with?" she tells ABC. "There's a bigger chance, I think, of less safe sex, maybe more different partners."
All other arguments aside, what about the icky factor?
Few people like to hear other people having sex. Kids don't like it when it's their parents. And parents definitely don't like it when it's their kids.
"I'm not sure that I personally would feel comfortable being at home knowing that my teenager is having sex in the next room," Carolyn Meyer-Wartels, a mother of two teens, tells ABC. "And I think that parents do need to create boundaries in the home and say things like, 'I don't think you're ready to be doing this. I don't think you're ready to be doing this here or anywhere, for that matter. '"
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6-23-2011 @ 12:55PM
Michelle said...Parents are so stupid these days. Why don't we just make our kids move out and get a job and take of themselves when they're 16 too? We all hear about how kids are growing up too fast these days and about the sexualization of our kids - ans as usual, parents are the problem! They allow their kids to have unlimited cell phone and computer use, stay up all night, be home alone after school and whenever, and now they are allowed to have sex and drink at home. Attention, parents: just because the media says it's okay, just because "everybody's doing it", just because you don't want your kids to "resent" you, doesn't mean this is the right thing to do!! Don't give in when the going gets rough. Parenting is not just about changing diapers and making supper. In fact, the most important time to be a parent is probably when your kids are adolescents and teens- they need your guidance and yes, RULES!
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6-23-2011 @ 1:30PM
Ro said...No - you cannot have sex in our home - you wanna have sex - do it in the cramped, miserably uncomfortable, cold (or hot depending on season) back of the car. So there???
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6-23-2011 @ 3:33PM
Cathy said...Anybody who thinks letting their kids have sex at home, keeps them from having it elsewhere...delusional.
Certainly not okaying it in my house...it's like giving them the license to drive your car before they are ready.
I have to laugh at the Mom who said it was ok. with her because her daughter had been in a long term relationship. The girl is 17, how long has she been dating? @@
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6-29-2011 @ 11:17AM
Teri said...Ugh, thank you, I completely agree. Its a knee jerk fear based response. A sort of "better the devil you know" scenario.
6-23-2011 @ 9:40PM
Anne said...the "norm" is, unfortunately, the fault of PARENTS. I know many people who allow their TEENAGERS boy/girl friends to LIVE in their home, in their kid's bedroom! That is sickening if you ask me, especially when there are younger kids there as well who now have the idea that it's OK. It's stupid. I think if your kid is 18, let them have sex elsewhere, they are "adults" and need to keep that part of their lives private. It's like saying parents having sex in the living room is OK when the kids are around! .If your kid is under 18, then grow a conscience and be a friggin' parent!
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6-24-2011 @ 5:02PM
yougottabekiddingme said...I saw this news episode and you missed the only intelligent comments in the show made by 3 teen girls who talked about not really wanting their parents to allow it - it takes completely away from their ability to say no, particularly once the boy "knows" what idiotic, irresponsible parents she has. Also neither of the "I'm for it" dopey adults could answer the question about informing the other kids parents about their totally irresponsible decision. Man are we slipping toward the precipice..........
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6-27-2011 @ 1:11AM
Ann said...Ewwww! That first woman, Patty, has filthy fingernails. And then she goes on to say her house is clean!
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