Mom's Spanking Fuels Toddler's Aggression

For all you professionals out there. Have you forgotten about the study with the monkeys? Reward good behavior and zap the bad behavior. I think if the child felt a zap everytime they did something wrong they wouldn't do it anymore. There is nothing wrong with spanking as long as it doesn't cross over to real abuse. Todays kids are so awful. They have no boundaries and no consequences. Sure if I as a kid thought that standing in a corner was my punishment I may have turned out really bad. I could handle standing in the corner just so I could do what I wanted to first. I was spanked, had my mouth washed out with soap and things taken away from me and I turned out all right.

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OMG....here we go again or is it YET! It does not hurt a child if you give it a swat on the behind, as long as you are not beating this child. I have two children, the oldest was always getting a swat and they are the sweetest person alive, loves their children, does not beat them and actually loves and is very nice to all children and people. Works in a service position to help others. The second child hardly ever got a swat. Just the difference in their make-up. This child is also a very nice, helpful and loving person. This one also has children and has never swatted the children even though there were times I thought the need a swat......lol. The children in both families are great kids, teenagers now, and very sweet and loving just as their parents. I had a police officer tell me once that "all children need a swat on the back side once in awhile!" He told me that he swatted his children and now as a police officer he can tell the kids he has contact with in his job who have not been spanked. These are the kids who are sarcastic, and just dare you to do something or say something to them! The officer said it is a sad day now because there are so many children who just do as they please and don't fear any consequences! Hang on to your hat and keep your doors and windows locked because these same kids think that we owe them everything!

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I used to tap my daughter on the butt when she was bad. She would say "That wasn't a spanking. It didn't even hurt." To which I would respond "It is symbolic."

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The doctor presents her views, not mainstream America. I woinder what she would say to a parent who is getting their daughters ears pierced at 3 years old or younger. This is child abuse IS IT NOT?

We'll doctor whats your answer to this?
Religious fanatics? Abuse? Accepted?

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My child was aggressive, would not mind me, and was always spitting on or biting people. I began tying my kid to the bedpost and beat him with the buckle end of my belt. He would bleed and scream but healed quickly. I completely changed his behavior as it should be.

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We were spanked, our children were spanked, our grandchildren....rarely, if ever. We turned out great, our children turned out great, our grandchildren? Two girls have children out of wedlock, have no contact with the family at all. Another granddaughter died at age 30 from an over-dose. Another granddaughter has tattoos, body piercings, colored hair, dropped out of school and decided she was a lesbian and she has little contact with the family. The youngest granddaughter is 8 years old and spoiled, very obnoxious. She doesn't run around and yell and scream, but thinks she is a little know it all and an adult. Has no friends, no sleep-overs, no one to play with, always with her Mom or Dad. Always bored and no respect for adults or anyone else. Everyone has to cater to her whims. I am very disappointed as I was so looking forward to having grandchildren. Be careful what you wish for.

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Yes it is a great idea to spank children. That new age wrong thinking of not spanking is leading to generation after generation of misbehaveing saggy pants sideways cap thugs that wind up in prison. But the female co-parent (so called mom) should only spank with the approval and oversight of the childs Father. That way she will not be abusive toward His Child.

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I was not spanked as a child. I watched my mom spank my older brother (P.I.A.) and I knew better. I was always there for my kid's putting 'my' life on hold once my violent marriage ended. I spanked my 3 son's (on the butt only after being warned NUMEROUS times). 1 is a great kid now and he was the worst one when he was little. The other 2 are felon's who have since straighten out for the most part. My sister was one of those 'time out' parent's. Well, all 3 of her kids are crap and her oldest daughter beats her up. Go figure. It's the luck of the draw. Some kids are just bad. Some kids just figure it out on their own. It's tough being a parent. Not fun.

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You are so full of crap!

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Go back to the College you went to and get your money back!

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Spank? Spank my a** -----whip the little suckers that will get their attention.

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This artilce is total physco b.s. My grandchildren are never spanked, and; they hit everyone. They know they can hit each other, parents, and friends with no accountability.. Timeouts don't work.

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My kids got spanked (not beaten) religiously. However, I had the decency to NOT to it in public. It''s bad enough their getting their fannioe's sore, than to suffer public humiliation. Actions deserve praise and punishment. "Time-outs" never worked for my boys, but a nice lil red fanny did. They learned to Love, respect and hold a level of fear in adults, knowing that if they did wrong, they would suffer the consequences for their actions.

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I was spanked by my father when I was about 6 -- you know, threw me down on the bed, pulled down my pants, and made a big show of it -- Did that hurt enough? No, well I'll do it again! Thereafter, my mother threatened me every day -- Just wait until your father gets home, he'll punish you! My mother would make me sit on a chair for hours at a time. I grew up terrified of my father until the day he died. I cannot see how this treatment of me was beneficial. Today, I am a well adjusted citizen. I am well educated. However, I have hated myself for my entire life -- I'm told this is anger against my parents turned inward. And I was terrified for a long time, after I finally left home as an adolescent, to do ANYTHING -- ride on a bus, make a telephone call -- all of which I have overcome, although it was not easy. Interestingly, as an adolescent, although my parents yelled and screamed at me constantly, they never told me to get out of the house, to leave home and never come back, as you might have expected they would have threatened. I think they knew that, had they said such a thing, I would have left and never seen of spoken to them again. I guess it's hard for me to agree with all those people who think it's a good thing to discipline their children by spanking and time-outs. My experience was that it was cruel.

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Ridiculous! Children test you. They want to be disciplined. It proves to them that you love them enough to care what they do. Time-outs and other idiotic types of discipline popular with parents these days do not work. Read the book _Dare to Discipline.

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Many children are spoiled, Over spoiling a child can lead to a child yelling NO at the parents, slapping parents in the face, and kicking the parents, Mean to other children, hiting other children, The child is boss, saying you shut up and hear me. I seen a child start this kind of thing, the parents tell the child "Honey please don't hit that little baby, thats not nice and you hurt the baby.: Then that child at age 2 to 3 years." I want to hurt that baby, I don't like that baby, I will slap you mommy is you son't shut up." Then that child goes over and slaps mommy in the face, and mommy crys. Once when we went out to eat that child jurked the table clothe off the table, then took the little flower vaces on other tables and crashed them to the floor. We was ask to leave, and my neice, sister and mother got mad at the owner. That child needed spanking back then, that child is so spoiled, her mother took her for help. As she was being talked to ask questions, she told them, "Your a nut, I will do as I please." That child is 14 years old, she slaps her mother in the face if her mother don't agree with her. This child went to visit my daughter and her five children. She slaps the girl about 2 years younger then she, then spit in her face. My daughter told her, " Look at me girl, you came here to play with my kids, and enjoy yourselfs, not to hit and be bad, you ever hit or spit or even misbehave toward one of tham again and I will spand your ass, no matter if your mother likes it or not. When her mother came to pick her up she told her her aunt was going to spank her. My daughter explaned to her, and told her she would spank her if she ever misbehaved at her home again.. That child is very different toward my daughter and my grandchildren, she visits often and they get alone well. She don't slap her mother around my daughter ether. Some children need spanked.

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Many children need spankings, that do not get them. Spanking do not hurt no childs mind, spankings are often good for children. Like I give a child time out, say set down. But the child does not obay, laughts and does as they please, with a " shut your mouth before I shut it for you." Shes an only child, she needed spanking years ago, its too late now. I did spank my children, even as babies, I said "NoNo, and even patted the little hand. But it went on its way playing and kind of studing what it did wrong. A very young child can learn right from wrong. It start at the very young age, like walking age, they get into a lot, and that is when they first learn. All children need to see mommy get angry with them, mommy's don't need to keep a smile on all the time. The child need to see mommy react in disapointment. Could be better then a spanking at times. My husband and I raised five children, and we did spank if it was needed, very few times, after it little hit on the back of the hand with a No No! That was teaching right from wrong, and punchement too. I have never had my child slap me, yell no at me, I never had a child on drugs or in jail. We helped raise some of our grandchildren also, all is doing well. I have one grandchild that smokes cigaretts out of 18 grandchildren and 5 children. None children or grandchildren been in jail, or on drugs, I have seen it with other family members, I have been ask, How did you two do it,Even the grandchildren want to please the parents. Well it has took a lot of talk with understanding, careing , Love has always been there, and that little no no with a like brush on the hand and later a pat on the butt. Three boys and two girls, and we don't have to worry, we got good kids all down the line.

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I believe spanking is part of discipline. You can tell the difference in behavior of kids - some parents are IN control and some are NOT. It is not up to a 4 year old when he eats, sleeps, hits, or stomps around.... twin or not.

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Pick on someone your own size when you want to get physical. It's easy to hit, smack or pound a little child. How would you feel - if cops or your boss started spanking you or smacking you around to do what is right?

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