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Summer Fun and Games: You Could Be Your Kid's Favorite Toy
Filed under: In The News, Childcare, Toys, Research Reveals: Toddlers & Preschoolers, Home Base, Summer Fun
Most children would do anything to have their busy parents get on the floor and play with them, especially in their early years. Credit: Getty Images
Pop quiz: What toy does your child most want to play with this summer?
It's a trick question.
"Believe it or not, you are your child's favorite play toy," family therapist, blogger and mother of two Amy Wickstrom tells ParentDish.
Wickstrom, a contributor to Working Mother, OC Family and more, also writes the blog More Than a Toy. She tells ParentDish it is important for parents to play with their children, especially during the summer when kids have more time and their hands and are crying out for parental interaction.
"Most children would do anything to have their busy parents get on the floor and play with them, especially in their early years," Wickstrom tells ParentDish. "Take 10 or 15 minutes to give them your undivided attention and interact with them and the toys they are playing with."
Need some suggestions?
"Do a family craft," Wickstrom suggests. "Run to your local craft store and pick out a craft to do with your child (such as building a bird house). Build enthusiasm for it by including your child in choosing what the craft will be, picking out the supplies together, learning about it more (for example, if doing a bird house, research different kinds of birds with your child and find out which birds visit your yard, etc.) and determining the time you will do it (simple crafts can be done in one sitting, but other crafts, such as building a model plane, could be done over several weeks during the summer)."
Some of the simplest games create the most lasting memories, she adds, such as hide-and-go-seek.
"One of my favorite memories as a child was playing kick the can and hide-and-go-seek with the other kids on my street," Wickstrom tells ParentDish. "Sadly, our age of technology often squelches a child's natural tendency to be outside and play with other children. Simple, all-time favorite childhood games are disappearing."
You can help combat that trend with a trip to the library, she says.
"Parents can take their kids to the local library to pick out a book and read it together there," she says. "Many libraries have special rooms just for children that are filled with toys and sometimes a stage with props for story time. This helps engage children in their imagination, have quality time with a parent and develop their reading skills. It also keeps them accustomed to old fashioned books instead of eBooks.
Websites such as FrugalDad.com have some other low-cost ways to build lifelong memories. Here are a few:
1. See a $1 movie. Many theaters offer summer movie programs for kids. If you're not so lucky, consider a movie day at home with a rental or streaming online video.
2. Hold Sprinkler Day. Delay your sprinklers for one day so they come on a little later in the morning. Then everyone can get in their bathing suits and jump through the sprinklers on a hot day. This also conserves water and reduces utility costs.
3. Go fly a kite. Check the 10-day forecast and look for a windy day in the coming week. Pick up a cool kite for the kids.
4. Make homemade Play-Doh. It's basically just water and flour. There are all sorts of recipes available online.
5. Build a "fort" in the living room. You remember this from when you were a kid. All it takes are some cushions and a sofa. If you want to get all fancy, you can use some large boxes and (with parental supervision, of course) some box cutters.
6. Go bowling. Bowling alleys often have special rates for families and will put out the bumpers so kids don't roll gutter balls.
7. Have a water pistol fight. Water pistols are often no more than $2. Pick up a couple and have a duel. If you want to make it a teachable moment, read up on the history and etiquette of dueling and make that part of the experience.
8. Hold Pajama Day. Stay in your pajamas all day.
9. Spend a day volunteering. There are lots of places you can volunteer and teach kids the importance of helping out. One idea might be the local Humane Society.
10. Have your kids come up with their own shirt designs, then have a custom T-shirt printing service print them up.











ReaderComments (Page 1 of 1)
7-23-2011 @ 4:36PM
sls38411 said...The last thing I ever wanted to do as a child was PLAY with my mother. Dad was a different story but mostly I wanted to PLAY with my friends.
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7-23-2011 @ 5:00PM
giftsdj said...wow that's really sad. I couldn't play with my dad because he was always drunk. So I played with my friends.
7-23-2011 @ 4:57PM
Tess said...sls...MOST children DO want their parent's attention, and playing with them is a good way to start. Opening a line of communication that you will surely need as they age. I am sorry you didn't get that nurturing from Mom.
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7-23-2011 @ 5:14PM
sls38411 said...Sorry but none of my friends wanted to play with parents. Nor do I feel neglected, or not nurtured by my mother, she did many things for me but playing was not one of them. Different strokes, I am always amazed at the judgements people make based on what? One comment
7-23-2011 @ 7:52PM
Chris said...Last thing on face of the earth when I was growing up, was me wanting to even be around my two parents much less playing with them or spending time. We usually got whipped for something everyday or cussed out of verbally abused so I left and went other places to avoid the hell at our home.
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7-23-2011 @ 8:09PM
Dorothy said...One of the things my kids loved to do when they were very young was paint the house!! a couple of cheap paint brushes and a couple of buckets of WATER! It made more sense than having them being nasty with water gusn squirts in the face with the little ones. The back of the house always looked good and they couldn't wait to show Daddy how they helped him
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7-23-2011 @ 8:52PM
Sandy said...Your comment made me recall something I hadn't thought about in years. I'd give my son and a friend brushes and a couple of coffee cans of water and have them "paint" the concrete front porch. It turned a darker color when wet, of course, and they really thought that they were doing something!
7-23-2011 @ 8:49PM
david said...i feel sorry for those of you who didnt have the kind of parents who didnt remember, or have time to be a kid again.i am refering to the toddler years mostly. maybe up to ages 7-9, after that i think our parents just wernt cool enough.we were to self aware after that.
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7-23-2011 @ 10:43PM
Annette said...My teenagers at 15 & 17 still want mom time. "Just us" dinner and movie or bowling or window shopping, etc... This is our time to catch up on current friends, likes, dislikes, talking about what they want to do when they "grow up". The key is in listening and being subtle with advice.
7-23-2011 @ 10:09PM
sue said...The name of the game is HIDE AND SEEK not hide and GO seek
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7-24-2011 @ 6:44AM
Lynxx said...I beg to differ. I grew up calling it "Hide and GO seek." Is it grammatically proper? Probably not. It's probably just a regional thing.
After all these comments about drunk parents and kids who lacked love in their upbringing, THAT'S what you chose to comment on? REALLY?
I wish I could dole out pieces of my childhood in the '50s to those who did not have that childhood. I LOVED doing stuff with my parents, and my friends adored their parents too. We didn't "outgrow" them until we were about 12, and I wish I had the years between 1962 and 1972 to be with them and make amends for what I missed. Of course, rejecting your parents for being "uncool" is a rite of passage. I'm sure they understood.
7-23-2011 @ 10:36PM
batahir said...Don't forget your local public library. I used to walk my kids to the library through the park so they also had some park time. And thel library had so many summer activiities -- reading contests, story time, dance time, movies, magicians, scavenger hunts -- so many activities. And what about the local parks and rec activities. My kids got a lot of free classes (like drawing, and swimming,
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7-23-2011 @ 11:27PM
Cookies said...A kiddie wading pool. a bunch of inflatables, some frozen smoothies, some sand for castle-building, watching a movie in the car/drive-in, picnics at home or at a park or playground, local water parks, watermelon seed spitting contests, homemade sno-cones, the list is as big as your imagination!
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7-23-2011 @ 11:57PM
chefetteVa said...I'm old now and my son is all grown up but I remember wonderful times with my parents when I was a kid...going to local parks, hiking in the woods near home with a picnic lunch...I did the same thing when my son was growing up...we went to the local park...stopped at the bread thrift store for a loaf of bread...brought along pb&j fixings with a jug of ice water...ate and when we were finished used the rest of the bread to feed the ducks. We would take bikes and ride the trails or hike....or I would sit and read while he played on the playground equipment. On rainy days I would make him a fort out of two chairs and a blanket...or we would play hide the button (just hide a button somewhere and take turns finding and hiding it)...Christmas in July was popular also...I would put up the artificial tree and let my son and his friends make decorations for it...then make hot chocolate and popcorn and watch Christmas movies, all stuff that cost nearly nothing but made for great memories.
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7-24-2011 @ 7:53AM
McCray said...My father had a horrible Mother...always in bars. Even took small children to the movies left them there and forgot about them etc. etc. etc. But that made him want us to have the BEST childhood ever and never feel the way he did when growing up. He was the BEST!!!!!! Unbelievably awsome man who could and would do more than most. Smart and creative too when it came to fun and work. Yes, he even made work fun. I had so many people come up and say they loved working for him. How many people love their boss...really? He passed away young a few years ago when my oldest was one. I strive very hard to be as great as he was though it is hard. I dont have his energy or the support he had from numerous family members who have also passed. I'm still giving it my best though. I think the hardest part besides losing so many that I was unbelievably lucky to have in my life is that my husbands siblings have wrote us off compleatly in many hurtful ways over a stupid argument that everyone is to blame for. They even went so far as to cut our small children off their christmas list. So while all the other children where opening their gifts from everyone last Christmas...our children were asking grandpa...why dont they like us? NICE! It's just unbelievable what some people are capable off and how stupid they can be. Brings back memories of how my fathers mother was...at least she had a poor excuse...drinking problem. It's just hard to see the innocent get hurt and even though they are to stupid to see it they hurt themselves with this as well. Still working hard. Great tips. Believe me we need all we can get to help make life better.
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