When Children Die First: A Meditation on the Unthinkable

My first reaction to the big news stories last weekend, first the shootings in Norway and then the death of Amy Winehouse, was to feel more sympathy f...If the universe granted me a single wish, it would be that when I die old, my daughter will yet live.

Itsy Bitsy Teenie Weenie: Papa and the Small Bikini

When did I become such a prude? This was the question when Diva and I opened the box of summer clothes sent by a relative -- and I saw the teenie ween...Too many bikinis don't just say "big girl" -- they say "adult woman."

It's Not You, It's Us: Breaking Up With Other Parents

Remember dating? And that most awkward of moments, the end of an evening when it was clear not everyone had enjoyed the experience equally? Your da...Saying you're not interested when dating is easy, but breaking up with other parents? Not so much.

Celebrating Fathers' Day, Plural

On Sunday, my household will observe a holiday that is somehow universal and statistically rare all at once: Fathers' Day. Note the location of the ...For this family, Father's Day means two dads, one holiday.

Meant to Be: A Letter to My Daughter on Her Birthday

Long ago, before there was you, when Daddy was not yet Daddy and I was not yet Papa, he and I promised each other that someday we would be parents. We...The doubters didn't stop us: Our course was set.

A Piece of Unsolicited Parenting Advice: Don't Offer Any

My friend Gwen was taking a stroll, her sleeping 1-year-old daughter Lola pressed to her chest in a baby sling. It was a lovely day, the nicest so far...Is there anything your average parent wants less than unsolicited advice?

'Modern Family' and Me: The Men in the Mirror

Question: Where can I find the following family? Two gay dads -- one slender and uncomfortable offering public displays of affection, the other...Watching "Modern Family" is like looking in a mirror.

Where Babies - and Tongue-Tied Papas - Come From

"How do babies get out of a mommy's tummy?" Like so many incredibly loaded topics, this question arrived over dinner. Diva was then 4, a preschoole...How do you answer questions about sex when your child is still watching "Sesame Street"?

Childrenfreude: Why I Take Pleasure in Other Parents' Pain - and You Should, Too!

My daughter, Diva, and I were at a friend's house for a playdate and Rose, her buddy, was in fine form. Just before we got there, Rose's mom had given...Childrenfreude: the secret pleasure of watching bad kids happen to good parents.

Independent Spunk Vs. Pretty Princess: A Dad's Lesson in Trusting Positive Parenting

When my daughter was not quite 3, she told my husband and me that she wanted to be a chicken for an upcoming costume party. We thought this was hil...Welcome the first column from our gay dad in our new gay parenting column.

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