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<strong>Perhaps you've seen TV news expos&eacute;s or heard stories about what <em>really </em>happens when kids graduate high school and take an "educational" year abroad before college: basically, a 12-month carnival of loafing, tanning, and drunken debauchery. But sometimes, your kids go abroad, get involved in a cause bigger than themselves, and actually come home as better people.<br /> </strong> <br /> Case in point: Fifty-two high-school grads taking part in a year of study in Israel have launched <a href="http://www.youngjudaea.org/organizations.php3?orgid=110&amp;typeID=1138&amp;action=printContentItem&amp;itemID=20240&amp;test=test" target="_blank">Garin Tzedek</a> (Hebrew for "Seed of Justice"), a group supporting refugees of the genocide in Sudan's Darfur region who have taken shelter in the country. <br /> <br /> The teens, most of them alumni of Young Judaea summer camps, which focus on learning about and supporting Israel, are students in Young Judaea's post-high-school "Year Course." Since the fall, they have renovated and manned day care centers for the refugees; taught them introductory English; worked to secure medical and legal services for them; increased awareness about their plight; and raised more than $1,600 for supplies and educational materials.<p><a href="http://www.parentdish.com/2010/03/16/maybe-you-should-let-your-kid-take-that-year-abroad-after-all/" rel="bookmark">Continue reading <em>Maybe You Should Let Your Kid Take That Year Abroad After All</em></a></p><p style="clear: both; padding: 8px 0 0 0; height: 2px; font-size: 1px; border: 0; margin: 0; padding: 0;"> </p><p><a href="http://www.parentdish.com/2010/03/16/maybe-you-should-let-your-kid-take-that-year-abroad-after-all/" rel="bookmark" title="Permanent link to this entry">Permalink</a> | <a href="http://www.parentdish.com/forward/19389506/" title="Send this entry to a friend via email">Email this</a> | <a href="http://www.parentdish.com/2010/03/16/maybe-you-should-let-your-kid-take-that-year-abroad-after-all/#comments" title="View reader comments on this entry">Comments</a></p>]]></description><dc:creator>Gary Drevitch</dc:creator><pubDate>Tue, 16 Mar 2010 10:00:00 EST</pubDate></item><item><title>Presidential Parenting: Which Commander-in-Chief is Like Your Head-of-Household?</title><link>http://www.parentdish.com/2009/11/02/presidential-parenting-styles/</link><guid isPermaLink="true">http://www.parentdish.com/2009/11/02/presidential-parenting-styles/</guid><comments>http://www.parentdish.com/2009/11/02/presidential-parenting-styles/#comments</comments><description><![CDATA[<p>Filed under: <a href="http://www.parentdish.com/category/celeb-kids/" rel="tag">Celeb Kids</a>, <a href="http://www.parentdish.com/category/life-and-style/" rel="tag">Life &amp; Style</a>, <a href="http://www.parentdish.com/category/celeb-parenting/" rel="tag">Celeb Parenting</a>, <a href="http://www.parentdish.com/category/extreme-childhood/" rel="tag">Extreme Childhood</a>, <a href="http://www.parentdish.com/category/amazing-kids/" rel="tag">Amazing Kids</a>, <a href="http://www.parentdish.com/category/amazing-parents/" rel="tag">Amazing Parents</a></p><br />
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<a href="http://www.parentdish.com/tag/obama-girls">Sasha and Malia Obama</a> are the first preteens to live in the White House since Amy Carter, but they're just the latest in a long line of kids who have called 1600 Pennsylvania Ave. home. With the holidays around the corner, we took a look at White House family life and presidential pops. <script src='http://www.aolcdn.com/keyexp/kits/ke_kits.js' type='text/javascript' language='javascript' charset='utf-8'></script> <!-- START KE KIT -->
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    <p class="caption"><strong>44th president, 2009-Present</strong><br />
    <strong>Style:</strong> Dad in Progress<br />
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    After nearly two years on the campaign trail, Barack Obama committed himself to spending more time with Malia, 11, and Sasha, 8, in the White House and tries to have family dinners whenever possible. He also had a tricked-out swing set installed on the White House grounds, visible from the Oval Office. Obama's daughters have been more visible than some other recent first children, seeming to relish opportunities to travel the world with their parents, often in the care of their regular baby sitter, first lady Michelle's mother, Marian Robinson, who lives with the family in the White House.</p>
    <p class="credit">Alex Brandon, AP</p>
    <p class="caption"><strong>43rd president, 2001-2009</strong><br />
    <strong>Style:</strong> Been There, Done That<br />
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    George W. Bush has something in common with his twin daughters, Barbara and Jenna -- all three are the children of presidents. (Bush's dad, George H.W. Bush, was the 41st president.) Bush himself has said about his early days, "When I was young and irresponsible, I was young and irresponsible." Like father, like daughters; Barbara and Jenna, college students when he took office, were both cited for underage drinking in Texas.</p>
    <p class="credit">Pablo Martinez Monsivais, AP</p>
    <p class="caption"><strong>42nd president, 1993-2001</strong><br />
    <strong>Style:</strong> Protective Pop<br />
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    Bill and Hillary Clinton faced allegations of scandal starting in the 1992 presidential campaign. But as much as their critics reviled the couple, most credited them for their efforts to protect their only child, Chelsea, from the media spotlight. Chelsea turned 13 soon after her father began his first term and from the start, the Clintons insisted that there be no photos or interviews of their daughter. They also sent her to the private Sidwell Friends School to further protect her from the press.</p>
    <p class="credit">Greg Gibson, AP</p>
    <p class="caption"><strong>39th president, 1977-1981</strong><br />
    <strong>Style:</strong> Plains and Simple<br />
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    When Jimmy and Rosalynn Carter moved to Washington, D.C., from Georgia, they had three grown sons and a 9-year-old daughter, Amy, whom the Carters enrolled in a Washington public school; no presidential child has gone to public school since. True to the family's small-town roots, the president designed a tree house for Amy on the South Lawn of the White House, big enough for sleepovers. When she had friends over, Secret Service agents stood guard under the tree.</p>
    <p class="credit">Warren K. Leffler / Library of Congress</p>
    <p class="caption"><strong>36th president, 1963-1969</strong><br />
    <strong>Style:</strong> All the Way With LBJ<br />
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    As a baby, Claudia Taylor was nicknamed "Lady Bird." When she married Lyndon Johnson, her initials became LBJ, just like his. The couple didn't stop there, naming their daughters Lynda Bird Johnson and Luci Baines Johnson. Moving to Washington, D.C. gave the girls a chance to spend more time with their father, a career politician. The girls took their politics seriously -- Luci often said that her 17th birthday was her most memorable, because it was the day her dad signed the Civil Rights Act of 1964.</p>
    <p class="credit">AP</p>
    <p class="caption"><strong>35th president, 1961-1963</strong><br />
    <strong>Style:</strong> Superstar Dad<br />
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    John and Jacqueline Kennedy did their best to shield their two young children from the media spotlight. The first lady started a school on the third floor of the White House with 11 handpicked students, including kindergartner Caroline, and on weekends, she often took Caroline and her toddler brother, John Jr., away to a private Virginia farm. During the week, John Jr. could often be found crawling around beneath the president's desk in the Oval Office. The boy was just 3 years old when his father was assassinated in 1963.</p>
    <p class="credit">AP</p>
    <p class="caption"><strong>33rd president, 1945-1953</strong><br />
    <strong>Style:</strong> Stand-up Dad<br />
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    Harry Truman's only child, Margaret, was a college student while her father was president. She went on to become a successful author but in her youth, she aspired to be a popular singer. After a Washington Post music critic, reviewing a 1950 concert, said that Margaret was "flat a good deal of the time," the president wrote him a note, saying, "Some day I hope to meet you. When that happens you'll need a new nose, a lot of beefsteak for black eyes, and perhaps a supporter below."</p>
    <p class="credit">AP</p>
    <p class="caption"><strong>26th president, 1901-1909</strong><br />
    <strong>Style:</strong> Not-so-rough Rider<br />
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    Teddy Roosevelt's youngest sons, Archie and Quentin, and their friends called themselves "the White House Gang." They raced their bikes in the hallways, dropped water balloons on visitors from the roof and attacked a portrait of Andrew Jackson with spitballs. Roosevelt, the old soldier, often left his office at four in the afternoon to play with his "blessed bunnies," typically ending the sessions with pillow fights. He famously said of his notorious oldest child, Alice, who was known to gamble, smoke, drink and bring her garter snake to formal functions, "I can be president of the United States, or I can attend to Alice. I cannot possibly do both!"</p>
    <p class="credit">Library Of Congress / Getty Images</p>
    <p class="caption"><strong>22nd president, 1885-1889 / 24th president, 1893-1897</strong><br />
    <strong>Style:</strong> The Old Dog<br />
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    Grover Cleveland became the first president to get married in the White House in 1886 when, at age 48, he wed 21-year-old Frances Folsom in the building's Blue Room. Cleveland lost the 1888 election but he and Frances returned to the White House four years later, accompanied by toddler daughter, Ruth, America's sweetheart. After her death at age 12 of diphtheria, she became the inspiration for the Baby Ruth candy bar, according to the confections manufacturer.</p>
    <p class="credit">Library Of Congres / Getty Images</p>
    <p class="caption"><strong>19th president, 1877-1881</strong><br />
    <strong>Style:</strong> Wholesome But Fun<br />
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    Rutherford B. Hayes and his wife, Lucy, were religiously observant and well-known teetotalers. They banned drinking, smoking, dancing and pool at the White House. But they still had a good time. To the delight of their son, Scott, they hosted the first White House Easter Egg Roll in 1878, reviving a tradition that had begun at the U.S. Capitol and has been a presidential institution ever since.</p>
    <p class="credit">Library of Congress</p>
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If there's one thing modern childhood experts have drilled into our heads, it's that we should avoid overpraising our kids. </strong><br />
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Apparently, our unconditional approval will lead them down a path that ends only in drug-dealing, prostitution, book-making or related trades. If we build up our children too much, then the moment Mommy and Daddy aren't around to stroke their egos, they'll crumble like week-old, preservative-free cupcakes. <br />
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<strong>The only problem with this approach? It's completely wrong.</strong><br />
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Many of us practice "conditional parenting," which means withholding attention and affection when our children disobey or disrespect us. And we assume that the kids understand that the time-outs we dole out don't change the way we feel about them. But new research shows that's <em>exactly</em> the message they get.<br />
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As reported in <em>The New York Times</em>, researchers Avi Assor and Guy Roth of Israel and Edward Deci of the U.S. conducted a series of studies -- the latest took place this summer -- to discover <a href="javascript:void(window.open('http://www.nytimes.com/2009/09/15/health/15mind.html','','resizable=yes,location=no,menubar=no,scrollbars=yes,status=no,toolbar=no,fullscreen=no,dependent=no,width=600,height=600'))">the effect of conditional parenting on kids</a>. They found that while children of conditional parents were somewhat more obedient than other young adults, the main difference was that they liked their parents less. <br />
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Hmmm.<br />
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The kids also reported more frequent feelings of unworthiness, shame and guilt ... not unlike the guilt you may be feeling as you read this.<br />
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Despite the findings, you can be sure that conditional parenting isn't going away anytime soon. It has high-powered advocates, like Dr. Phil, Supernanny and their fellow time-out travelers, who insist that instead of bending over backwards to make sure kids are happy 24/7, parents must stand up and assert their will. If children won't bathe, finish their homework and eat their carrots on demand, mothers and fathers should take away treats and privileges until the kids get with the program. <br />
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Conditional parenting also feels right, especially for us dads. When we're called to the rescue by wives grappling with stubborn, disobedient children, our quick and forceful punishments end the crises, at least for the short term. Doing what Assor, Roth and Deci say we should do -- forget the time-outs and devote more time to giving kids the guidance to make the right decisions themselves -- is a lot more work. <br />
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<iframe height="300" frameborder="0" width="200" scrolling="no" style="border: 1px solid rgb(187, 233, 230); padding: 7px; display: block; margin-bottom: 7px; margin-left: 7px; float: right;" src="http://webcenter.polls.aol.com/modular.jsp?template=1772&amp;view=176406&amp;pollId=176698&amp;channel=aol_us_live&amp;popup=yes"></iframe>But it may be worth it. <br />
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The moments that dads like this one really love best are the quiet ones when we explain the world to the kids -- why we work, why we wear seat belts, why we run out the clock instead of running up the score. In the back of my mind is the fear that all the clashes of will with my children are wiping out all that is gained in those quieter moments.<br />
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We know how much we love our children -- we tell the world every day through the photos on our desks and the status updates on our Facebook pages. <br />
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But the kids aren't so sure, if the new research is to be believed. <br />
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The Dr. Phils of the world say that caring too much about how our kids feel about us is a sign of weakness. I used to agree, but I'm starting to believe that the need to win every argument, to have one's authority go unchallenged, and to shun compromise even when there's just one carrot left on the plate may be the real sign of weakness.<p style="clear: both; padding: 8px 0 0 0; height: 2px; font-size: 1px; border: 0; margin: 0; padding: 0;"> </p><p><a href=http://www.nytimes.com/2009/09/15/health/15mind.html>Read</a> | <a href="http://www.parentdish.com/2009/09/24/are-we-doing-this-parenting-thing-all-wrong/" rel="bookmark" title="Permanent link to this entry">Permalink</a> | <a href="http://www.parentdish.com/forward/19165591/" title="Send this entry to a friend via email">Email this</a> | <a href="http://www.parentdish.com/2009/09/24/are-we-doing-this-parenting-thing-all-wrong/#comments" title="View reader comments on this entry">Comments</a></p>]]></description><category>conditional parenting</category><category>Dr. Phil</category><category>supernanny</category><category>time outs</category><category>TimeOuts</category><dc:creator>Gary Drevitch</dc:creator><pubDate>Thu, 24 Sep 2009 06:00:00 EST</pubDate></item></channel></rss>